My wife and I have been trying for almost 2 years, still nothing. I think it has something to do with my wifes high stress level, obsessive compulsiveness and negative view points. We are both healthy, don't drink, don't smoke, are active in the bedroom. What gives?
2007-03-18 10:22:02 · 10 answers · asked by emcphx 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Stress is a contributor to a woman's inability to conceive. So is a negative attitude. However, you do not want to assume that is the only reason that you are having difficulties conceiving. Your wife can visit her regular OB/GYN and they can do some basic screening to determine if there are additional conception obstacles.
I hate to bring this up, but the problem could be on your end as well. Wearing briefs instead of boxers, frequent riding of bicycles or motorcycles or basic genetics can reduce a man's sperm count (you already ruled out drinking and smoking). Having sex too often can reduce your sperm count. Specialists recommend that you have sex every-other day when you are trying to conceive.
You could have a reasonably good sperm count and still have poor motility. It's a good idea to accompany your wife to her appointment and they can do a quick test on you to make sure you have good swimmers!
Your wife could use something simple like Clomid (by prescription only) to give her a stronger ovulation or you might need to visit a fertility specialist. If you are under the age of 30, six months is considered a normal amount of time to conceive. If it's been longer than that...you may need to seek some medical advise.
I want to mention in closing that it took my husband and I four years to conceive. I reduced the stress in my life by changing jobs and just about the time we had given up on our dreams of having a baby...we were blessed beyond belief. We now are the proud parents of a beautiful baby girl.
One more thing...make sure you aren't putting too much pressure on yourselves to have a baby. Thinking about it too much or trying too hard seems to affect things. There will be hundreds of people who tell you that the minute you stop trying...it will happen. The reason why we say that is because it is SO TRUE. Relax, have fun and try to support each other in a positive way.
Good luck!
2007-03-18 10:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by FormerGiGi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a question for a doctor. If you have been trying for that long, it could be something besides stress. I would suggest making an appointment for both of you to get checked out, and see if there is a medical reason for not conceiving right away. Good luck!
2007-03-18 17:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although the things that you have mentioned ARE contributing factors, they may not be the reason. I would suggest wearing boxers rather than briefs that hold your testicles to close to your skinn. The body heat of them being so close to your body can kill the sperm. Also, if you sit in jacuzzis that can kill sperm. Heat is a man's worst enemy in the conception game.The other thing is, if you qiut expecting to conceive, you probably will. That in itself is a hi stress situation for your wife and for some reason we as women always think it's our fault first. GOOD LUCK
2007-03-18 17:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by Rae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would seem to be clearly a question for your physician, not an Internet group. It will be very difficult for anyone on Yahoo answers to perform a sperm-count on you or a pelvic examination on your wife, to rule out physiological factors.
2007-03-18 17:34:28 · answer #4 · answered by An observer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress probably has something to do with it. She should be taking prenatal vitamins now, and eat alot of fatty dairy foods, they are known 2 make a woman very fertile. See a fertility specialist.
2007-03-18 17:27:57 · answer #5 · answered by Kels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of times it has to do with the man's sperm situation.
You BOTH need to go to a specialist.You say it is your wifes' issues,but in fact most problems lay within the man,as well.It is unfair and unproductive for you to blame your wife.
How many times have YOU seen the doctor to see if it is YOUR issue?
2007-03-18 17:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can very well have a lot to do with stress, but are you having sex he RIGHT way (in terms of getting pregnant?).....always mitionary position, she should stay laying down afterword for about half an hr and it does help if you both climax at the same time..
2007-03-18 17:26:34 · answer #7 · answered by aandgonline 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what if your sterile and arent able to have children why don you guys just go to a doctor and both get checked cause your wife mgiht not be able to have kids
2007-03-18 17:26:08 · answer #8 · answered by cutenhotchick12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep doing sex for 15-25 minutes daily for one week you will get good results.other wise consert a doctor.
2007-03-18 17:28:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is stressed out or she just cant have babies or maybe its even you did you ever think that you could be the problem
2007-03-18 17:41:53 · answer #10 · answered by toya j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋