This is a two part question. I have to keep suggesting things for me and my partner to do, we have been seeing each other for a year now and it's like he is not interested in going out anywhere, he never goes out with his mates and it's ok to snuggle up with him when I come round to his place but sometimes it would be nice if he would suggest that we go out or he take me out, I have asked him why he dosen't ever want to do anything and he just says he dosen't like going out really, don't know if im sounding unfair but he's only 20 and im 24 and most of the time when I get to his we will watch tv and he might occasionally huge and kiss me but does that also mean because he doesn't kiss and huge me often that he is going off me, asked him and he said that he just feels more comfortable in our relationship and we don't need to show each other we love each other all the time?
2007-03-18 10:04:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why are you looking for trouble, when there isn't any. Guys usually don't have hidden agendas. If he claims he likes to sit on the couch with you watching tv, that's what he likes.
Maybe he can't afford to go out as much as you would like.
If he says he is comfortable in the relationship, he is.
At least you know he isn't running around on you.
Now if this is a life you can appreciate, enjoy it. If not, you should talk to him about it. If he isn't willing to compromise, sorry to say, you may have to move on.
2007-03-18 10:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by Bare B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to make some hard choices. He has told you how he feels. Are you willing to settle for that? You are young and should be having fun. If he is like this at the age of 20, he will be even worse when he is 30. Perhaps he is just cheap but he sounds deadly dull and not very affectionate, either. Make a decision now so you don't have huge regrets later.
2007-03-18 17:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think maybe that he is afraid to get close u know, he must love u. he shows it u said. maybe he is afraid because he deos not want to show his true feelings and he probably deosn't wanna get to close he may think that u want to move the relationship to the next level like marrige give him time and u suggest to take him out and show u like to party and still have fun not just marrige or to move in together.good luck but i am sure is u don't need it he'll come around.
2007-03-18 17:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by missy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it, but he's not that into you. The only behavior you control is your own and it will be a long, continuous battle to try to get him to change and do what you need.
2007-03-18 17:12:02 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is just lazy in the relationship.
2007-03-18 17:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by charitydowling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋