How do I tell my friend that I need some time away from her? I mean I talk to her basically everyday and night but we have gotten into so many agruments that its killing me. I mean she kinda lied to my friend and I and now we are hurt. But I don't know how to tell her that I need some time away from her to think about all of this. Plz help me!!! Thanks
2007-03-18 09:59:02 · 10 answers · asked by .Forever Young. 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Shes one of my really good friends...but after what happened i felt that i couldn't trust her as much as i used to and she sometimes doesn't seem to care that her friends are just trying to help her out...so..its kinda hard for me to break it to her....
2007-03-18 10:05:30 · update #1
I would try to calm down and think about this very carefully before acting irrationally and possibly making things worse for your and your friend.
I felt like I needed to be away from some of my good friends a few years back, and I said some mean things in arguments that caused us to drift apart and nearly split up. It took a long time for me to get things slightly back to the way things were with one of my good friends, and I can't ever forgive myself for what I did. So be careful.
Think about why you are friends with this person. What do you like about them?
Think about their flaws. Now try to think of a tactful yet honest way to tell your friend about them. You say that she lied to your friend about something....I would just ask her why she felt it was necessary to do something like that.
Maybe your friend felt that you were spending more time with the other friend than her, and she got jealous and lashed out.
If you do need space, I would just say something along the lines like "I just need to think about things for a while. I'm not feeling well right now, and I just need to clear my mind. This is something I need to deal with on my own right now, and because I care about you, I want to take care of this before I say something that I don't mean".
I wish you all the best with your friendship.
2007-03-18 10:22:13 · answer #1 · answered by nessieexpress 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you just be honest with her--tell her what you said here? Honesty is the best policy--after all you were hurt that she lied to you right? Be honest, your friendship can make it through this, but sometimes, time away helps the healing. Second, have you figured out why she lied? Was it to intentionally hurt you? Was it to cover up something she may not have wanted you to know? Something embarrassing? Did she feel like she had no other option than to lie? Find out the why's, how's and what's. TALK TO HER. Ask her why. Then tell her that it really hurt and bothered you, and that you would like some space right now. Put a time frame on it a week, 10 days etc. Then if you need more--then take it. Good Luck.
2007-03-18 17:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just u ~n~ her go to dinner a really nice one with pretty dresses on and tell her I am really sorry for this and but I really need some time alone from u then after u get done saying that just leave some money like 10 dollars and change and leave and don't cry while u r saying this when u put a tip get in your car ~n~ drive off ! Then Call her when u over it and tell her im am over it all and tell her what u were filling and become on of her bestfriends that my best answer for u sweety
2007-03-18 17:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, be honest tell her the truth..but you have to say it in like the nicest way possible not to ruin the relationship..if you say it a mean way at all it wont be pretty..but if you are that great of friends she will be ok with it..maybe you can make a day just for you both to hang out and just have fun...she will be fine with it..tell her the truth and remember be nice about it..and tell her thatyou both can have certain days just for you both..she will be happy to hear that! LOOK AT THE SOURCE IT WILL HELP YOU OUT!! TRUST ME!!
2007-03-18 17:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by pkarlinsky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that you will only spend time with her on the weekends doing the things that both of you like to do and during the week you both need your time away from each other.
2007-03-18 17:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by Heidi T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being direct and honest is always the best policy. She doesn't really have to agree or understand. This is about you and your feelings. Being her friend and being deceptive is hurting you and does no one any good. Talk to her, be frank and direct, honest above all and do what you need to do for yourself. If it works out fine, if not, then please realize that people change, relationships change and often we move on and others do not. Life is about change, it always will be. Good luck to you.
2007-03-18 17:32:17 · answer #6 · answered by curious74432 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just be honest. I kinda faced the same thing recently. I had her coming to lunch with me everyday and I just needed some space...so I just told her. She will probably get upset, but she will get over it. Good Luck!
2007-03-18 17:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her. the fact is that she knows that it is her fault that all this is happening so she shouldn't be upset if she is honest with herself. Just tell her, you shouldn't be scared of anything, she is just your friend. it also depends on the manner in which you tell her. don't be so angry when you are talking to her just tell her quietly and make her understand that you are not breaing the friendship, you just need a breath.
good luck
2007-03-18 17:11:38 · answer #8 · answered by b-ball rooky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just be straight up with her i mean if you need your space you need your space... just say u guys need a break for awhile if she take it well then i dont know what to tell you
2007-03-18 17:07:49 · answer #9 · answered by cherrrybm101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use the thing below your nose....not your mustache
2007-03-18 17:09:30 · answer #10 · answered by eldiablo0731 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋