am very shy how can over come it?

Answer 1

ask your self everytime you shy away from somethin/someone, how is this helping me?????

Answer 2

Hi beti, Everyone feels shy sometimes, but being too shy can hamper many aspects of your life.

here's 7 steps that will probably help change things for you :-
STEP 1: Determine why you're shy in the first place. For example, are you scared of what someone might say about your physical appearance? Remember, there's an underlying reason for how you react in situations.
STEP 2: Act as if you're not shy. In private, behave as if you're oozing confidence. Hold your chin up, stick your chest out, add a swagger to your walk and speak firmly. It may seem ridiculous, but you will see results when you're out in public.
STEP 3: Practice making eye contact and smiling in your interactions with others. Strike up casual conversations with strangers about weather or current events.
STEP 4: Look your best. One way to improve self-consciousness is to always look good and limit ways you can be self-critical.
STEP 5: Lower your fear of rejection by imagining the worst possible outcome. If you approach someone, they may say "no" or they may just walk away. Absolutely everybody has been rejected at some point, but no one has to dwell on it.
STEP 6: Look and learn. Watching friends or even strangers who aren't shy is a good way to learn some tips first-hand.
STEP 7: Feel positive about yourself, don't get frustrated

all the best dearie!

Answer 3

1. Find an activity you enjoy.
2. Join a group that enjoys the same activity.
3. Talk to people in that group get to know them.
4. After a month or two [sometimes even less] meet each other outside the group.
5. Make a friend.
6. Now that you have some control over your shyness try talking to people at school/work, and become friends with them.
7. Become a friend, and have lots of friends

Answer 4

Well I was shy and know that I am in my 30's I am coming out of it. It has something to do with low self esteem, worrying about what people may say or think about you. You should say and do things to please yourself and not others once you are happy with yourself being outspoken will come to you automatically. Good Luck

Answer 5

Hi beti. I used to be very shy too. The best way I overcame this is to look in the mirror, hold your head up high and say to yourself... "I am a positive person. everyone is the same as me". Keep repeating this and when you go out and talk to people, just remember that if someone gives you a negative response, that it is their own negativity, not yours. keep positive and speak out. and most of all, hold your head up high. You're worth it. hope this helps. x

Answer 6

Always have in your mind you only live once,so do as please.Dont care what people will think or say about you,because it is your life.
I found going to a different country for a few months brought me out of my shell and i didnt care what i did.You overcome ya shyness because you need people to talk too and help you.

Answer 7

Well, maybe you can write a speech and read it in front of your friends and family..or better than that you can go out to a karaoke bar have a couple drinks and then get up on that stage and make the people love you..sing your heart out have a blst with your friends...BELEIVE ME IT DOES HELP!!

Answer 8

well i had this problem in high school and the only way to beat it was to be out going and assertive ever since I love the attention because it gets you farther than being passive

like they say a closed mouth won't get fed remember that and you'll acheive all you desire

Answer 9

There is no easy method other than to face it. If you get out there into social environments whether they are clubs or whatever and slowly build your confidence.

Answer 10

You can see a therapist or join an assertiveness class.