If you have a daughter and who was married, then divorced and then find out she is Gay? And plans on having a civil ceremony? Would she/he have your blessings?
2007-03-18 09:49:20 · 23 answers · asked by daisy 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes.
2007-03-18 09:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
My DIL's family has just had this happen. I think the only person surprised by the fact he is gay is him. Everyone else knew it. I don't mean to sound mean but when you walk on your tippy toes, it's not the normal male behaviour. My DIL does it too but it's cute when she does it. We all wondered how it would sit with his dad and grandpa but it's ok. His dad is a real tough guy who owns a concrete business and the older boys are like that, too, but so far so good. The dad's brother was gay and committed suicide and I think anything would be fine as long as that doesn't happen. He's a wonderful person so how could you not think well of him. He is very successful in his line of work, is drug free and only drinks a beer on occasion. Any time the subject comes up when I'm around I make sure how much God loves him is part of the conversation and also how feminine he has always been and this is not just a choice he has made but the way he was born. Yes, I know what the Bible says and I am very conservative but I also know what the Bible says about having sex outside of marraige if you are straight so throw your first stone. My own life experiences have taught me how much gays would not choose a life of disgrace and persecution. I've known two gays since they were small children and they came this way. Our choice is how to show them the love Jesus would want them to see. If God put a gay person in your life as a test of your Christian love, what will you and God have to talk about when you see him?
2007-03-18 17:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by moonrose777 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have an 18 year old granddaughter who claims to be a lesbian. I suspected it because of the way she wears her hair and clothes. At first I was hurt because she used to look so cute. I still love and support her in whatever she does. She is about to go to college and has always been an honor student. If this is the way she wants to live her life, that is her choice.
2007-03-18 16:57:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jacks036 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any child of mine who told me that he or she was gay is still my 'child' ... but as an 'adult child' that person is 'free to be whomever s/he wants to be' ... so yes, any child of mine who told me that she or he was 'gay' or a 'lesbian' would still be 'totally loved' and celebrated ... and yes, I'd go to the 'civil ceremony' of one was 'possible' ... or to a 'religious' cermony if that was possible, even though I'm a 'Catholic' ... because gays and lesbians are 'just people' like the rest of us are, and they don't need to be 'set aside' because of their 'sexuality'... which is 'inborn' and not a 'choice' they made.
2007-03-18 17:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by Kris L 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Um, yes I would give her my blessings, she's my daughter. If your a parent, you are ALWAYS supposed to stand by your children, no matter what.
2007-03-19 13:15:54 · answer #5 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her the same thing my Mother told me "You're my child and I love you." My child would, indeed, have my blessing in a civil or religious ceremony. She (or he) would be my child and I love them.
2007-03-18 17:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's your child. I would like to think that as a parent you want your children to be happy in life. To withhold your blessing and support is to tell your child, "I don't want you to be happy."
2007-03-18 17:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by castle h 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. Because I'd know that for once in her life, my daughter was being true to herself and attaining happiness!
2007-03-18 22:01:39 · answer #8 · answered by AJD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is only 2 but if when she gets older she is gay, who cares, I'd just say "so, when do we get to meet your girlfriend?" If she wanted to get married I would support her 100%.
2007-03-18 17:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If it's her choice to be gay, then by all means approve of it and give her your blessings.
2007-03-18 17:03:49 · answer #10 · answered by Rrraaawwwrrr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Even if it meant letting go of the dream. I am not homophobic, but after years of having her be straight, It'd take a while adjusting to her being gay.
If its too hard, let her know, and let her know you love her, and if you can walk slowly into her new life.
OR go to PFLAG...actually, that should be your first stop if its bothering you.
2007-03-18 16:58:57 · answer #11 · answered by HollyBean 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋