Well, I contacted my ex after 6 months - since we broke up...
I met this person last year, and we were in love, we broke up 6 months back - and today i decided to just say hi online -
1st he was very nice to me, and then after sometime, he started to act crazy - he started name calling - he said i was crazy - and then said he is in love with another women - I gave it back to him, however I just dont know why he behaved this way, or what i did to deserve this??
he was so rude, waht can i do?? what do i do abt it? why would he act this way when all i did was be nice and say hi?
are all Men like this??
2007-03-18 09:44:47 · 14 answers · asked by . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why did you contact him? Were you hoping the two of you could be friends? You said he started to act crazy... well, maybe that's your answer. In any event, he doesn't want to be nice to you. Move on. He was rude and you ask what you can do. Nothing, if you're sensible. The man doesn't want to know you. That may hurt, but that's how it is. You initiated the contact. He obviously doesn't want contact. Okay.
There's nowhere else to go with this except to chalk it up as a learning experience; you learned that he doesn't want to play nice. What did you do to deserve this? Nothing. You didn't have to do anything to deserve it. He just feels the way he does, right or wrong, crazy or sane, and you're not accepting that. You need to let go, accept that he's not going to be nice, and move on. Go out. Do something different. Take your mind off this guy. It's hard to dwell on something when you're busy. Keep busy. Give yourself a chance to heal. Go visit someone who loves you. This guy's opinion is just that... his opinion. Find another opinion :-)
2007-03-18 09:56:08 · answer #1 · answered by Annie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some peole who feel that they have been hurt find the only way to feel better, at least temporarily, they hurt the person back. He was nice at first and then the old feelings of hurt and betrayel came back like a sledgehammer. The name calling and rudeness has nothing to do with you. And trust me it is not just a man thing as you put it, alot of people of both genders have a hard time dealing with what they are feeling and projecting it back to the person they feel caused it is nothing but a coping mechanism. I can say with some certainty that he is not over the breakup.
2007-03-18 16:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by Papa Joe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how you can be so suprised. I bet one of the reasons for your break-up was because he was verbally abusive. Mabe you both were abusive to each other.Anyway, the reason you are not together is because the two of you could not resolve your differences. Just because there has been some time apart does not mean everything is okay. Just hearing from you brings up issues for him. I am sorry he had to be nasty to you, verbal abuse is never okay, but don't expect that you will be best friends There is alot of hurt between you guys and unless you resolve all the issues that drove you apart in the first place you will never be able to be close again.
2007-03-18 16:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
At first he was just being polite.Once he started getting annoyed he tried to make it clear it is over.Don't know who decided to end it before but evidently he didn't want to rekindle the past.Not all men are this way.
2007-03-18 16:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't generalize, there are all kind of men same as all kind of women.
Forget about him. He was very rude when you just try to make a conversation. Not worth waisting your time wondering what went wrong with him.
2007-03-18 16:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know? Was there something in the conversation that sparked a sensitve spot? If he was being a jerk for no reason, then I say why bother getting upset over it? I know it may hurt, but you are better of without him in your life.
2007-03-18 16:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by Ammikins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure it was him and not his new girl???? or maybe she walked into the room so he had to change his tone to make her think he was all big and bad. My advise....leave him alone...if he is going to treat you like that on line, he will treat you bad in person. You deserve better. Good luck!
2007-03-18 16:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by oklady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't expect anyone to act right ..sometimes u r nice to people who are mean to u..and sometimes you treat some people like **** while they r so nice to you ..
that's life ..he's an as*.. don't even bother by thinking what did u do to him ..drop it ...and forget about him ..
2007-03-18 16:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by ^^ANGEL^^ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone. Dont be nice to him he does not want you to be nice. Go find another man and live happy ever after.
2007-03-18 16:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by hascht2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are like this because women make us this way
2007-03-18 16:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by Deus Luminarium 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋