I am a married woman, who start having an affair with another woman. It went on for over a year, and during the process the other woman always talked to other women. Now before you get your "doomed to hell" hats out, here's somethings you shoud know. My husband cheated on my numerous times and think my only purpose is to lay down and let him do his duty. Now back to this other woman, recently she began to talk to someone 3hrs away & basically put this girl before me. She stop calling me and basically told me that she had no intentions on us being together anymore. This hurt really bad cuz I put my life on the line to be with her & I was still in love with her. Eventually I moved on and now she is back, telling me she made a mistake and want 2be w/me. Should I take her back considering I never was able to be there for her cuz I was married and with my husband the whole time we were together, or do you think if she left me before, she will leave me again, married or not?
2007-03-18 09:37:49 · 7 answers · asked by SOMEONE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its not easy to give good councel and judge rightly on two immorral acts.
.Your husband hurt you and the enemy of your soul came in with fleshly comfort in which you fell in love with. Now you seek advice to choose between the two. But I'll judge fullishly as if there is no God. So you need to stop sweeping your hurts and pains under the rug in the form of dependence on others. That is the main thing that causes people to get themselves spiritually in trouble. Stop! Men were never meant to bear the presures that only God can handle. So our weakened state often ends up in some kind of perversion. Go and find your wholeness.
You need to
2007-03-18 10:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by cHeAp_ShOt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Male or female if they cheat once they will do it again. You stay married because he is your security blanket and you are his.
You know cheating with another woman, if he found out, would hurt him more than cheating with another man - which he would expect.
If your bedroom life is dull than you should do what you can to spice it up. Cheating is not about sex - it is about getting back at the person who hurt you and wanting to stick the knife in him in a way that will hurt him best.
Cheating is bringing yourself down to his level. Why wallow? Either make the marriage work or live alone. Your choice.
2007-03-18 16:46:02 · answer #2 · answered by r_favorite_stuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before all else: If you do not love your husband, then divorce him. Regardless if he's cheated on you or not, in a sense you are doing the same to him, if not worse.
After that's all sorted out, I would not take that other woman back on grounds that she went for greener pasture and she didn't find it and so she comes back to you. I would find this insulting.
Divorce your husband and finda new woman.
2007-03-18 16:43:07 · answer #3 · answered by matthaumschild 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say without knowing more. Did she want you to leave your husband when you were together? And why are you still with him? Children?
If she wanted an exclusive relationship and knew you weren't able to give it to her, AND if you still love her I would take her back. Technically, you were BOTH cheating on each other.What's to say that you won't cheat on her again, too. Those are risks everyone has to decide for themselves in ANY relationship. Good Luck.
2007-03-18 17:03:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she leaves u once she will do it again. find someone else or stay with ur cheating husband
2007-03-18 16:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you get her to join you & hubby in some kind of 3way
relationship ?
2007-03-18 16:41:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No way
2007-03-18 16:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋