I went Out with a guy a two years ago and lent him money it amounted to 11000. altogeather wich he is adement he will give it me back. Ive asked him to just admit to me he cannot pay me back but he wont. He has a girlfriend now but he admits that if he wasnt with her he would have considered me as a part of his life.
Im supposed to hate this guy but cannot bring myself to do it Why? I feel as though somehow Im supposed to help him.
But deep down I have a stong feeling for him its not hate it feels like unfinished buisness.
Is it in the stars?
2007-03-18 09:34:09 · 15 answers · asked by Hybrid 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Horoscopes
When I mean help him I dont mean money or sex.
Plus we had a contract which only he has signed. But has dates of when he'd pay me back by.
2007-03-19 00:40:26 · update #1
get your money back then forget about him
2007-03-21 01:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by ♥gigi♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lent my ex money not as much as you but a fare amount and that was three years ago I gave it to him cos he was my boyfriend and trusted that when he said he would pay me back he would! But still not received a penny and I only stay in touch with him now in the hope one day I will get it back not cos I want to be with him but want my money I gave it in good faith and expect the same back! Although advice now from friends is don't lend what you can't afford to lose! It's hard if you have feeling for him and all I can say is don't lend him anymore otherwise you will never know if it you he wants you or you money.
2007-03-18 09:58:10 · answer #2 · answered by phillippa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but you have been used. You are hoping for a fairy tale. He took your money because you gave it to him. Take legal advise and get it back. Move on get busy. If he was with you now he would expect you to be his personal bank he will fill your life with drama and sorrow. Your unfinished business feeling will pass when you get your money back. Do not let him fool you. There is someone better for you when you realise how much he isnt for you. Do not contact him again.
2007-03-19 02:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by addy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That will be up to you to decide.
As far as you can help yourself first, you can help others and it does not have to be automatically measured by boy-girl axis. We are human before those.
Hate is the other side of a coin to love and if you do not love that person anymore you won't hate him either. Also he may have some quality that prevails all the love relationship, those qualities can be good or bad but that will be your decision.
2007-03-20 09:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by oyuzim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a good person, who likes to see the good in people.maybe he does intend to pay you back when he can do so.from my own experience unfortunately,ive been let down too many times by helping people out, and am more wary these days.you do have unfinished business and will have until he hopefully pays you back.maybe then you will have some closure.
2007-03-19 02:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by Ramona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably does have something to do with the stars - the chemistry between you two.
Regardless - money has nothing to do with love so get your money back. 2 years is too long. $11,000? Come on. Even if you're not a fool he sure has every right to think you are. Love is love. Business is business.
2007-03-18 09:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by mecasa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi love, from the start of reading this i felt that this person never really fancied you at all. Abt the money, just think that its gone to charity. ''he admits that if he wasnt with her he would have considered me as a part of his life''BANKER'' nothing else trust me...
YOu sound like you have a lot of love to share.... give it to someone who deserve's it. Someone who'd appreciate you. Its obviously this guys doesn;t. He's not genuine, gal.
Perhaps you should go watch this movie the Holiday. its a good movie.....
Wish you all the best dearie!
2007-03-18 09:48:19 · answer #7 · answered by me5abanjatti 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I believe in fate. Everything happens for a reason. You live, you learn. I think people forget that gut instinct is just as important as what your heart and head tell you. Maybe you were supposed to help him, but it does sound as if he would like to have his cake and eat it.
Perhaps the feeling you have is in prep for standing up for yourself in order to get your money back?
But whatever you do - don't lend him any more!!!
2007-03-21 10:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by beausbreeches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of of your courting as one complementing the different. Being away out of your boyfriend might make you greater desirable yet being with him makes the two one in each and every of you greater effective human beings. think of of what the two one in each and every of you are able to gain jointly because you're the two stable minded and self reliant adults. the journey of love isn't continually comfortable. yet with a sturdy head on your shoulders, you will have the skill to repair issues out.
2016-12-18 17:04:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Human beings are MEANING-MAKING MACHINES. The one thing we can all be certain of, 100% of the time, is that human beings will ALWAYS make something mean something.
2007-03-18 10:53:30 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would say maybe there is something for the future there,but dont put your life on hold...just go with the flow for now,and what will be will be
2007-03-18 09:39:43 · answer #11 · answered by lacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋