I want to go visit my ex-boyfriend at college because we're still good friends. I told my parents that I would be spending the night so we could actually go out at night, but they said absolutely not. How can I convince them to let me go? I need to grow up sometime and they can't always be hanging on to me like this.
2007-03-18 09:10:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i am in college, but i'm on spring break with nothing to do, so i want to visit him!
2007-03-18 09:14:41 · update #1
Ask yourself how much you're haning onto your parents.
Are you still living at home?
Do you pay them rent?
Do you pay your own insurance (car)?
Do you have a job?
Do they give you money?
Do they pay your tuition if you're in school and I hope you are?
Perhaps when they see you growing up and being responsible and taking care of yourself they will begin to see you as an adult.
2007-03-18 09:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are still living with your parents then they
have a say so in what you do, however they can't
keep you tied down, what you should have done is
gone then called and said you would not be home
tonight and not to worry and that you would call
them in the morning. As long as you still live with
them they will always try and put restirctions on you
so if you want more freedom then you need to find
a place of your own , get a job and go to college
as that is what young people do. I left home when
I was 18, worked , went to college and had my
freedom, that is really the only solution.
2007-03-18 16:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the part of "going to be with your friend" it's two other things that appear to matter more with your parents and that's "going to be with your EX-bf" and "spending the night". Your parents don't know his situation, where exactly you will be, if you will be supervised, etc. and they don't want an unexpected child on the way, especially when the boy has not graduated and worked a while. Plus you are still living under their roof, so even if you're 19 you still owe them the courtesy of listening to what they say since you still live with them. You think you are mature enough to do what you want, but are still immature enough to live with your parents...ha. Get your own education, your own job and career, pay your own way, move out, pay them rent, get an apartment and pay your rent and your utilities, get your own transportation, and then go see your boyfriend. By that time things will work in your favor.
2007-03-18 09:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand it can be frustrating to be limited by your parents at this time. Here is how you solve the problem, girlfriend.
Get a job, get your own place to live, stop taking money, food, laundry service, rent, etc...from your parents.
When you are living the life of an independent adult; you get to call the shots.
It is worth it; even if you have to work a couple of crappy jobs.
2007-03-18 09:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by krinkn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit them down and say: 'Look, guys, I'm a big girl now. I'm 19 for crying out loud. Now, if you don't let me go visit my ex-luvver, then I shall darn well fall to the floor and have a big ol' tantrum. You get what I'm saying?'
If that doesn't work, just go anyway. You are waaay too old to be being bossed around by yo' folks.
2007-03-18 09:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by Lotcie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you live in your parents house then you live by their rules it's as simple as that.
They're looking out for you & trying to keep you safe, alive & not pregnant.
You should be pleased your parents care this much about you there's many parents out there who don't care about their kids and won't pay their kids way through college, I'm betting your parents pay everything for you.
2007-03-18 09:19:08 · answer #6 · answered by madamspud 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well this is from my point of view. I am in the military and i am the same age as you. What can they do to stop you??? How far away is it? Is there a friends house close to it or a park or suthing you know sumwhere you could say you were going to go but then really visit your ex? Tell them you wanna go see a friends of yours thats in college and that your spending the night with her to go and watch a movie and then go and visit your ex!!!
2007-03-18 09:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by dovera1c 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If you were my kid I would say no, and I am also 19 years old. I think it is unclassy for a girl to spend the night at a guys house. Why don't you sleep over at the girls dorm?
2007-03-18 09:13:57 · answer #8 · answered by Lal 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I was nineteen, I no longer lived with my parents. Maybe this is why they are still telling you what to do. In order to not be treated as a child, you have to live like an adult.
2007-03-18 09:12:57 · answer #9 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
College... spring break... ex-boyfriend.... You give me one reason your parents SHOULDN'T be worried about you.
As long as you're living under their roof, you need to respect their rules.
2007-03-18 09:30:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋