In my case, I'm dating a man who's 10 yrs older than myself, i'm 19 he's 29... Some people tell me that the age difference plays an important part, some say he's too old, others say i'm too young and so on.. They keep telling me that we're both at two very different points in our lives and that at one point or the other it'll result in a problem..
Thing is, I've always enjoyed the company of older men rather than that of guys my age [[most of them act a bit too immature for my taste.. although i'm not saying they all do]]
So now I wanna know what the rest of you with experience in this matter [[or no experience at all]] have to say about it.. I appreciate your opinions :O) Thanks.
xoxo
2007-03-18 09:00:53 · 20 answers · asked by ☆Karma☆ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Fact from fiction, truth from diction. I am not one to blow smoke up your a**. This is America and here AGE DOES, but not to whom it should -- THE TWO PEOPLE WHO WANT TO BE TOGETHER. The age thing is to most what the paparazzi is to celebs. People who should not care keep mixing in the Kool Aid they don't know what the flavor is. People who tell you that you are too young, or he too old are saying that because THEY are uncomfortable seeing you together. Maybe the thought of you two in the bedroom causes them angst because it is not something they would do. It is not their cup of tea. So, instead of saying great and wishing you the best, they are coming off negative. 10 years is not that big of a differerence, and in many nations around the globe quite the standard. The woman I feel I might marry, whom I known quite a while have a bigger age gap than the one you speak of. And we know there will be stares, whispers, comments etc. Because people will say "He could almost have fathered her" and make up all kind of scenerios why we are together. But the only two people that should matter is me and her. And I like her, she likes me. And so far none of us care what anyone else will say. Those who are not happy for you and think you are making mistakes with this man, do not have to live your life or find your happiness. And if they could not be happy with me, they can be miserable away from me. That is what I say.
2007-03-18 10:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think 19 is a great time to not be considering a long term relationship. But that wasn't the question. Large age differences don't make a difference if the persons involved don't allow to make a difference.
My grandmother was 14 years older than her husband. I am 15 years older than mine.
A lot of persons think that differences in cultures and religions make a huge difference also. But I think it has more to do with respecting each other and understanding that you are not clones. My husband is not the same nationality as I am and we don't live in a country where I was born. We don't share the same religious belief system either. However, in all the years we have been married the only arguments we have had were in Geo Bush Airport in Houston, Texas and I am sure that was because of a number of things going wrong after being in transit for more than 22 hours.
Age doesn't make the difference. People do.
2007-03-18 16:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by Sauve 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think 10 years is too much of an age difference, you sound like you are mature and level-headed, I know when I was 19 I was a lot more mature than most guys that age, and was attracted to older men as well, not too old, but about the same as you.
2007-03-18 16:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number; depends upon the maturity
of the couple involved, committment, and true love
even though you are young only 19 in life the 29yr
old is not that experienced in life either. You could
make a good combination in helping each other
out in life's everyday routine because of the age
difference, however both of you have to be for
each other, trust each other, and have 100percent
committment towards each other for it to work out
as that is what it takes in any relationship, that is
why age is only a number.
2007-03-18 23:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I think that it depends on the couple. And the level of maturity of both partners. I personally think dating people younger than you can be a tremendous challenge, especially if that person is immature. But you seem mature and you seem like you know what you want in life. If you both love each other and try to shut out other people's opinions (because that is all they are really) Then you both will be fine and for a long time. Remember every relationship is different.
2007-03-18 17:11:17 · answer #5 · answered by princessstar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relations ships last as long as two people want them to. Young or old, you have to be in control it is your choice. After all you are the one that is going to be with the person, not the people telling you whom to be with. If you feel right and comfortable and are obviously more mature than a girl your age go for it.
2 things Girls, by nature are more mature that men.
I would recommend you spending your time getting a higher education and becoming a Professional and then afterward looking for a partner. How ever that is only my opinion. Hope this helps. Will.
2007-03-18 16:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by Will M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
10 years isn't that big of a deal but your fast approaching the edge. The older you both get the less of an issue it will be. The only concern would be is he attracted to you as yourself or is he attracted to you because he just likes younger women? If you suspect the latter then you will have problems down the road as you age.
2007-03-18 16:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by RickinAlaska 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With big age difference, relationships sometimes work out.
With small age difference, relationships sometimes work out.
With no age difference, relationships sometimes work out.
In all types of strange and normal situations, relationships sometimes work out.
So I think it's not necessarily the ages or the conditions, but something else, that makes the relationships work out.
Because people can work together to overcome most obstacles.
I think the link for a long-term relationship is similar views, similar goals, and mostly compatibility.
2013-11-29 21:30:18 · answer #8 · answered by M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My finacee' and I are 8 years apart. He is 32. I'm 24. I will be honest with you. In the beginning, it was a problem. The age difference topic kept coming up. Then, we just came to realization. Who cares! Once, we put that aside. We fell in love. And, we also have a beautiful son together. So, just live for you. And you will be okay.
2007-03-18 16:19:24 · answer #9 · answered by shorty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband is eight years older than I am. I was 19 when I met him. We have been married for 28 years and are very happy (most days ) :) I would'nt trade him for the world, all those people that were yelling about our age difference were crazy. Don't listen to them, do what your heart tells you.
2007-03-18 16:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by MeanKitty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋