i like this guy in my grade. and he likes me. but he wont ask me out. why???? what goes through a guys head when he likes a girl?? is he embarrassed?? i am not that apalling! i am 5 foot 2. i have brown hair and blue eyes. i get good grades. i was elected most outgoing in my grade. i have too many friends. i ama athlete. this all sounds fine to me. but maybe not to him. why wont he ask me out!!!???!?!!???!!???!!!
2007-03-18 08:57:21 · 11 answers · asked by jo_bro_hoe_9890 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i am a freshman at highschool. not college. we cant just go "grab a cup of coffee".
2007-03-18 09:17:29 · update #1
I AM A FReSHMAN in highschool!!!! I AM NOT THINKING OF MARRYING THIS GUY!!!!! I AM NOT GONNA HAVE SEX WITH THIS GUY!!! I AM 14 YEARS OLD!!!! i am not going to pend the rest of my ife with this kid. i am not having a child with him. i just want to get to know him better.
2007-03-18 14:23:37 · update #2
This could have a lot of answers....many of which may be completely wrong...
however, if you were elected most outgoing, an athlete, smart, pretty.....many guys will be intimidated by you. The fear of rejection is a tough thing to overcome.....if you like him...ask him out without all the judgement of what HE should be doing...and see what happens from there.
2007-03-18 09:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by Cronides 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Girls are interested in relationships (of any kind and often only because they have peer pressure from their girlfriends to catch another guy) -- guys are not.
2. Guys become really interested in girls somewhere between 12 and 17 years of age. Once they become interested they are interested in only one thing when it comes to girls and it ain't relationships;
3. Some guys don't want to waste any time on a relationship that is just "friends" because they know that's not worth the effort. Girls don't ever see relationships as casual no matter what they say -- see number 1 above. So if a guy isn't as attentive as the girl thinks he should be, or if pays ANY attention to another girl, the "girlfriend" becomes jealous.
4. Ask yourself why you want a boyfriend? Are you ready to get married? Have children? If not, then WHY do want a boyfriend (see number 1 above)?
5. If a guy is only interested in sexual conquest, he will get around but it will never be with the one that he thinks he might settle down with --- no guy wants to be married to a girl that he thinks was/is promiscuous. He wants to marry a virgin. He may want to practice with the girls he sees as "easy", but he would never marry one of them unless he gets trapped into it.
6. Having said all of that -- if you want to go out with him, maybe you should invite him to some "group" thing where several of your friends (and his) will allow him to get to know you without pressure. He may see you as unattainable if you are "so popular" and not want to embarrass himself by having you turn him down if he does ask you out -- so doing a group thing (like a herd going to a movie) may make it so you can get your message across to him.
2007-03-18 16:37:53 · answer #2 · answered by idiot detector 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him out? Invite him for a coke or lunch at a fast food place. Something informal and easy to be at.
I have asked men I am interested in out and been turned down as well as accepted. I think was 16 when I asked a guy who was in my art class out. There is no reason to hesitate and it is no more difficult for you than it is for him. Just make sure that the place you ask him to is an easy place to be comfortable in.
2007-03-18 16:11:54 · answer #3 · answered by Sauve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm way too old to answer this but also about to watch lost so don't want to answer another question or try to find one. So, in that spirit :) here's my answer...
I was never good with girls and had no confidence until the girl practically had to sing and dance that she liked me. So in my caes it was nervousness and fear of rejection, which I think are big issues for some guys.
How do you know he likes you? There are signs when it is more than just "like" and is "like like".
You can make some moves yourself, remember...
2007-03-18 16:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well his not embarrassed. He's shy and he is also antimidated on who you are and what you do and he probably thinks you won't go out with him. SO take the first step and talk with him and find out how he feels about you and tell him how you feel about him. Maybe that's all he needs to start going out with you. SO go up to him and start talking with him. SOrta kinda like 20 questions.
2007-03-18 16:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him for help with his best subject (which you must find out). Thank him by treating him to a snack. Men don't always have the best interpersonal skills. Of course, a lot of women don't either.
2007-03-18 16:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by The Rabbi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he really loves and cares for you. Also he doesnt want to hurt you in any way. he is not sure wether you love him or not? he's just a bit worried that if he asks you what might be your reaction? the only thing is that he is not sure how will you react!!!
2007-03-18 16:14:50 · answer #7 · answered by Viny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is shy. Why not ask him to coffee after classes?
2007-03-18 16:01:18 · answer #8 · answered by Ironball 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ego and fear ..leave the rest to others -on what type of fear...
2007-03-18 16:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by Wisdom-of-life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably to shy.
2007-03-18 16:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by s√(s-a)(s-b)(s-c) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋