625,000 women live with a partner who abuses them - is their lack of action Stockholm Syndrome and Learned?

Question

Helplessness Combined?

Answer 1

Until you've lived with the terror of an abusive partner, you can't really understand why these women stay.

Yes there is support for women who flee abusive relationships, but as we see all too often, there isn't anyone who will be there for you in the middle of the night when he comes to find you. Too many women are killed by ex partners, some women won't risk leaving their children motherless.

Answer 2

This only passes into the realm of being a conflicted state when a new set of values is introduced opposing it. I don't believe in abuse at all, but many people in this world need to be educated out of it as a global study showed. Women in poorer societies thought this was just the norm and there was nothing to be done but accept it. The men in those societies felt they had the right to beat their women if the women displeased them.

We have a similar situation in developed societies which refuse to acknowledge that women are frequently the abusers, even after having extended the definition of abuse to include psychological and emotional abuse.

And so whether the abused person can escape the situation isn't simply determined by some aberrant behavior on the part of the abused (i.e., blame them) but also by whether it is a credible or even conceivable abuse in that society. A good example is a western male in a typically "macho" occupation who is abused by his (usually female) housemate. The male has no recourse. He will receive nothing but derision from most of the men around him and if he fights back, he will be put in jail. If he divorces to escape the situation, he may be heavily penalized.

This is not learned helplessness, it is a very real helplessness. The fact that your question is phrased to assume that only one gender is abused and only the other is ever responsible proves this point.

Answer 3

i do not think it is either. Abused women are not helpless. In fact they are some of the strongest people you will ever meet. There will to live is amazing.
The reason they do not leave is personal for each one. However the simplest reason is that there is no where to go. No one to protect them. For all of the talk about wanting to help there are very few who work at womens shelters few who take the risk to help for fear fof there own lives. Then if they do leave there is the fear of judgment as MANY people look down on abused women as stupid helpless weak. They then have to spend needed energy defending themselves and proving themselves to others. Abuse can destroy self esteem but so does being judged by others. If you are really concerned I say find the nearest batter womens shelter and become a volunteer someone who will help women without judging them

Answer 4

Physical abuse is obvious and easy to prove but many abusers use psychological and emotional abuse. This is done so carefully the victim possibly does not realise until her self esteem and mental health has been so worn down she begins to think its her fault. It could be learned behaviour from childhood but i do not feel any person willingly and knowingly becomes a victim its just normality and familiarity and low self esteem prevents questioning the situation.

Answer 5

in the days of the Spanish Inquistion, certain. There ought to were circumstances like Stockholm Syndrome. Now, no. except, you get captured with assistance from Muslim radicals. So, no faith isn't a mass case of Stockholm Syndrome. question why are you alive? Why are you in this earth? Why do you devour breath and sleep? it extremely is faith.

Answer 6

Its so easy for us women to say get out, there is help for you and things like that but there must be some thing keeping them there as people dont want to live like that. Myabe scared that their partner will find them and kill them or their children could be a number of things going on. I do feel for them and wish they would all get help but they need to do it when they are ready to do it and its safe for them to do it. Some men lock them in the house even the windows and they cant get out, no phone nothing. They dont leave the house at all and when the family come over they play happy families, its bad but things like that happen in life.

Answer 7

It probably has a bit of love too, these women love their partners and can't imagine life without them. They probably have never lived alone before or they feel that they have to look after their partner. When you've been with someone for a certain amount of time they become you're life, just as an arm or a leg is.

Answer 8

Hi there

No i don't think women who live with abusive partners are helpless. A lot of them are trapped because they don't know what type of help is available. Most of them eventually do leave their partners after years of suffering once they seek out help from friends, family and support organisations.

Regards

idai

Answer 9

I have worked with abused woman and the one thing they always say is that they can't leave because of fear. They are frightened that by leaving the abuser will "hunt" them down and hurt them even more or worse. They are also fearful for the kids.
Also, physical abuse always starts with mental abuse. The constant mental abuse brings their self esteem down and often alienates friends and family members so the abused feels they have no where to go and no one to turn too. The abuser will often turn the abuse into the fault of the abused, which they believe to be true because of their low self esteem and self worth.
Another reason is that the abuser is always there, literally and metaphorically, and that makes it very difficult for the abused to think as fear is always to dominant feeling.

Answer 10

Can I suggest you look at the Drama Triangle by Steve Karpman I think it may shed some light for you