I have a 2 year old son. About a month before xmass just gone me and my wife (his mother) split up. Well to be more presise she walked out on the pair of us. Now My problem is this i have the majority of Shaird custody over our son She has access to him for the weekend so I can go out to work and i have him the rest of the time. My problem is that since he has been staying at his mothers he has become a diffrent person. What i mean is he is now a nervouse wreck and keeps complaing about a sore bottom and holding his groin. I have looked him over and cant see anything rong. But my bigist concern is my wife once told me that she was raped by a close family member. So as you can imagin I now have all sorts of things running through my head. Also because we are still going through the court I dont want to make any accusations incase they are false and i am acused of mud slinging. Please help as i want to do what is right for my boy.
2007-03-18 08:28:08 · 11 answers · asked by barry197901 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
take your baby to the doctor for an exam, tell doc what you told us.
Ok freelance, I share your sentiments but I did not copy you on purpose.
2007-03-18 08:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by mysticalviking 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow...thats terrible. First let me say that the apple doesnt fall far from the tree. Most rapists become that way, because they were raped. Most child rapists become that way because they were raped as a child. You have to protect your son. You should take him to a doctor and maybe see about getting some kind of temporary restraining order on your wife. Have you tried to ask your son when his bottom starting hurting? If i were you i would totally suspect the same thing you do. Hopefully if you can get him away from her now, he will not remember any of this when he is older.
I know if this was happening to my son, i would do whatever it took to protect him including keeping him from his mother until you figure out what is going on. (this is probably not legal though, but i firmly believe that parents should have the right to do whatever it takes to protect their kids, whether it be legal or not.)
2007-03-18 08:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to take your son to see a doctor, immediately.
If you ever have a concern about your son's safety and well being, waiting just isn't an option.
I think you should express your concern (you don't need to mention names, unless it ends up being true) about sexual abuse.. so that the doctors will know exactly what to look for. Sure, you may be wrong.. but what if you're not? Your son's safety is so much more important that anyone else's feelings.. Do something about it, now.
And for now, until you have your son looked at by a doctor (you should do that today) do not send your son back to that environment. You need to make sure he's safe first.
I hope your son is alright, and that nothing bad has happened to him.. but you need to have him looked at.. just incase.
Take care!
2007-03-18 09:40:53 · answer #3 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
had a similar situation with my grandson -- my son tried
and won custody of his son because the mother is on "the list"
of child abusers (they were divorced) but mother moved out
of the county and because the judge deemed the other
school system to be better changed it to shared custody and
she has the boy the majority of the time that school is in
session. Spent as much as my son and I could afford to legally
fight but nothing will change until the boy turns 18. All I can say
is gather up as much evidence of abuse as possible and get
a better lawyer than I did.
I'm praying for ya -- God Bless
2007-03-18 08:50:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree with most everyone on here. A relative had a similar situation a few years ago. Take your son to see his pediatrician. Tell the doctor what you told us here. Your doctor will give you the name of a good child psychologist for you and your son to see. He/she will take it from there. Please do not hesitate on this. It is very important to nip this now.
2007-03-18 09:39:18 · answer #5 · answered by I love winter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take this baby to a doc as soon as possible. Let him check things out. If there is abuse occurring, you have to report it(or the doc will). Don't allow divorce proceedings keep you from taking action to protect your son.
2007-03-18 08:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by janice 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my husband would kill any sob who touched our precious son, go to a reputable doctor, get a male toy [a man figure] and a small boy toy, and act as if you are both playing, and now its his turn to be the 'man toy', and see what he does, the child doesn't act this way for no reason. you're concerned about yourself and 'mud slinging'? get your priorites right.
2007-03-18 08:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get hi to a Doctor right NOW!
tell him what you told this group, and then find out truth.
2007-03-18 08:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
please take your son to see the doctor just to be on the safe side , also have a word with your soicitor and see if you can get his visits to his mum supervised . your being a great father to your son. good luck
2007-03-18 08:43:49 · answer #9 · answered by fafandloo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
contact your attorney and tell him what is going on ..the child will need to have a workup by a physician and be seen by a reputable child psychologist....then once you have the results, your lawyer will know how to proceed...good luck
2007-03-18 08:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋