My boyfriend went to a strip club the other night with a female friend. He first told me he was going to her house then a couple of days later he told me where they really went. Is this normal? He has always said he would never go to a strip club with me, as I have asked in the past. I got angry with him and told him if it was the other way round would go mad, and he agreed. Am I an idiot for letting it go or did I over-react?
2007-03-18 08:09:42 · 32 answers · asked by Den 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would also be upset. You are his gf and he should always be honest. Even if he isn't interested in this female friend, she may be interested in him. Ask him why he won't go with you since he should be going with you. Strip club make ppl horny and you should be the one he is with!! I will be careful with this female friend if I were you.
2007-03-18 08:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did not over-react. The only reason he told you, is because he probably ran into someone that he thought might have told you. Why are you letting him be alone with another woman. I would never let myself be alone in a room with another woman, and i would never let my woman be alone in a room with another man. When men and women are alone in a room together, they can not be trusted, even if they are the most honest of people. The fact that he went to this strip club means he wanted to look at other girls, which means he is not satisfied with just having you as his woman. Dump him and find a real man is what i suggest.
2007-03-18 08:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would a guy with a GF want to go to a strip club anyhow? There's nothing there but Ho's who cannot find decent work and are too sorry to look for it. Get rid of him and move on with your life, and you should have more respect for yourself then put up with that garbage. That is just 1 step from fooling around behind your back and probably with the girl he went there with. Besides all that HE LIED to you, right? That should tell you something.
2007-03-18 08:15:55 · answer #3 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What bothers you more? That he went to a strip club with another girl or that he lied to you in the first place about going to her house? I doubt that you will really know where he went and what he did.
You don't want to be controlling, but you do want a little respect. You only over-react when you go ballistic as that does not foster true communication.
2007-03-18 08:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Strip clubs to me are not a big deal ... if my bf was going with another girl and not with me I would be a little bother too, but it sounds like you guys talked and he understood where you're coming from so it's settled, you only have a problem if he does it again. No you are not an idiot you handled it well.
2007-03-18 08:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by Like Nothing Else 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Den, do you have the feeling that heis cheating on you? I'm not really sure from your question. Or is it that the girl heis going to the strip club with lesbian?? You could go to the strip club if you wanted. You could go alone, you could gowith a girlfriend, you could go with a male friend, you could gofor a job interview. I'dprobably tellhim I went to the job interview and see what he said-lol. Good luck -k-
2007-03-18 08:15:36 · answer #6 · answered by kbama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't know what the big deal is about women not wanting their men to go to strip clubs. I haven't been to one in years, but my wife doesn't get bent out of shape if I do go.
I guess it isn't unheard of but in my experience, we men don't go to a strip club expecting we are going to get a date, or get laid or anything like that. We just expect that we are going to watch a strange woman take her clothes off, & maybe even dance a little while she's at it.
If he wants to go to places like that then he will go with or without your blessing. I think that you might want to give some consideration to the fact that he isn't hiding anything from you. If you continue to get angry with him when he goes, then you will just drive him underground. Once he gets used to the idea of hiding his activities from you then you will be the one who has truly lost out.
2007-03-18 08:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello sweaty, wake up and smell the coffee!! You are not over reacting! He is lying to you! don't let this happen! Dump him if you know what's good for you!! Start over with a boy who you think is the one for you. Like my friends tell me.
''There's more fish in the sea." Do what you think is best for you. Make a smart decision. Because if you don't, He'll just do it again.
2007-03-18 08:37:55 · answer #8 · answered by 9 tails 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he could be turning gay. Showing off his manhood going to strip club with another girl in a last attempt not to be Gay. Get another boy friend or this one will mess your head up and ruin future relationships. Good Luck. Be brave and tell him to get out of your life.
2007-03-18 08:21:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OH my!!!!!!!!!! Girl wake up...how could you even let him go to a strp club seeing other naked women....and he went with another girl.... if i was you i would drop him like he's cold! Dont be with that idiot who indulges in those pleasures and lies to you. You can never trust a guy like that. And he has no right to lie to you about that or anything....i mean he#s supposed to your boyfriend and not checking other naked women behind your back...and telling u about it after he's had the fun.
2007-03-18 08:23:54 · answer #10 · answered by WHATEVER!!` 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋