My fiance wants me to give him oral? But i don't want to??? PLEASE help!?

Question

My fiance and I will be married soon, but he wants me to give him oral sex after we're married. But the thing is, I don't want to.
How do I tell him NO i don't want to, without hurting his feelings? Please help.

Answer 1

Tell him NOW. If it's going to be a deal-breaker, better to find out now and call off the wedding than later having a messy divorce.

Answer 2

You know, I'm in the same boat except I'm not engaged, I just live with my boyfriend and we've been together for almost 2 years. He's really mad about the whole situation and I told him why I was afraid and he got twice as mad. Then one of his buddies made the comment "You know they say that a girl who never gives a ********, never gets married." And you know what? I think he needs manners and respect. If my man can't handle my desicions, then there's something wrong. We're in an argument right now so this probably isn't helping but I figured I'd let you know - I know where your comming from and it's not fun at all. That's like every little boys dream and every girls nightmare. Somewhere there's a lining to that silver cloud and when you figure it out- send it my way :)

Answer 3

well you had better discuss this with the minister for one . you should know that your chances of having a happy marriage when you don't satisfy your husband are about 0 so either you learn how and learn to love it or don't get married it really is that simple . once a man has had that there is no turning back he must have it to be happy . learn to do it love it or forget the marriage and make your decision clear to him now don't marry him if you wont do this now before the marriage it is just a divorce waiting to happen if you don't do it .
sorry i don't make the rules i just know them

Answer 4

Ok, let me give you some advice.

First, have you ever given or received oral?

If you have received, I think you know how good it feels, if not, then you should try, because it does feel good (but I’m sure your fiancé has done it already to you, right?).

Now, besides that, if you have given and just don’t like it, then there is no one in this planet that can force you to do it. so you have to tell him that.

But if you haven’t done it, and just don’t feel comfortable with the idea, then you should think about it a little bit. I am sure as I said he has done some oral on you. So you should try at least once to please him.

But you have to talk to him. Ask him to help you, to be comfortable with it. He needs to be clean, and you have to be calm and also, for best results, be aroused, very aroused if possible.

I suggest taking a shower together before you get into it, or if you wish, to try in the shower.

Let me explain why I am suggesting to do it even when your question is how to tell him that you don’t want to. The reason for this, is because if you haven’t tried, you should at least try once. If you concentrate in the fact that you are pleasing him, you should not only enjoy it, but want more.

This doesn’t mean that you should let him finish there. Unless you are willing to try that too, I would suggest just to give him a session of oral sex, and that’s it. See how you like it, and see his reactions. You will be amazed on his reactions, trust me.

If you don’t like it after this, then you tell him, and he should accept it. You tried, you didn’t like it, move on.

My Wife was like you when we met. She was not too happy with the idea, but she decided to try, and to this day, she surprises me many times out of nowhere and goes down on me. Why? Well, I asked her (yes, I wanted to know too) and she said because she loves to watch me as she sucks me, and loves the fact she is pleasing me as much as she can (and she does a magnificent job). And last reason, because she loves me to go down on her too, so she likes now to return the big favor. And as you can imagine, 69 is our favorite number.

Of course, there are some other things we have tried, and we have decided we don’t like, and we respect each other’s opinions, limits and rules. So again, what you have to do is talk to him, be honest, and try to find solutions to the problem together. Unless you want to surprise him one day and try it all by yourself, but you will have the risk that if you don’t like it, then you will have to tell him, and it might end up being worse this way.

Hope this helps. Good luck, and have fun!

Answer 5

Doll, all i can say is be straight forward. Some people Just dont like doing it. If your about to be married you have to be certain that he will understand your feelings. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable and that its not your idea of fun. He should understand and if he does get his feelings hurt he will get over it trust me, your getting married he should understand... As somebody once told me Communication is key to a relationship, just talk to him, he's your love.

Answer 6

you dont want to? you dont want to please your man? im not being primitive because im the first to side with us women but thats a toughie.... no bj's? wow... Good Luck in Your Marriage.

Answer 7

just refuse