web cam sex?

Question

my husband used to log on to live webcams all the time, i didnt like it and he said he would stop.... but then i found out hed done it again so i said i was gonna leave him because i found it afensive and it was them or me???? so he cried and promised never to do it again, and i gave him another chance.............. BUT guess what hes done it again just 2 days ago while i was out of the house... im devastated what do u think i should do?

just so u no, im not a prude? porn is porn and we all look at it, but i think live webcams just take it that bit to far, and throwing our cam away wont stop him watching! just particpating????

Answer 1

DO what you SAID you would do if he did it again. If you're NOT as good as your word, how is he going to ever believe you? Leave him!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Porn is one thing, live webcams is another. Lots of these people have "regulars" who they become aquainted with and they will do things their viewers ask the to do. Its cheating hun, im really sorry. Its basically having foreplay with another woman. Leave him. Or maybe if you do want to try and sort things out, have the internet cut off and go to marriage counselling. Dont just throw the webcam away, he can still view webcams without actually owning a webcam.
Whatever you decide, good luck its a horrible thing to go through.

Answer 4

Same situation, but no web cam. My husband says he is going to stop looking at porn, but every time I leave the house he is doing it. He isn't quite as bad as he used to be, but when I least expect it he's done it again. You don't have to be prude to want your husband to stop looking at other women and stop showing women his body. That's a FORM of cheating. See what people don't realize is that you don't actually have to be side by side or touching each other to cheat. Any unclean thoughts of another woman/man (if you are married) is cheating. I am in no position to give any advice because I am still dealing with the same old BS. Obviously I'm not tired YET, so ... I have cried, pleaded and done all that with my husband and he seems to feel bad for the moment but when he gets the urge to look up somebody's a** he forgets how how I am.

Answer 5

I had a husband once who was addicted to the 900 line and used my charge card for it. I was furious till he put his fist thru the wall, then I divorced him. I later came to the realization that all men, any man who breathes, is meant to be attracted to the visual, and the cam is his outlet. Some men prefer to look at the playboy magazine (whether or not they can read the articles). My opinion is that they will not stop, however they can agree not to let it get out of hand, they can agree that the cam be a prelude to your and his sex, or they can make sure what they do is outside of your viewing and knowing about if it is offensive to you (as it was to me). Even a shrink will tell you men are men. If you love your husband and really want him around, find life easier with him than with any other man, and enjoy his bringing in the bacon. I suggest you get yourself some help on how to work around this in your life. We inside our hearts determine how we will feel and react. So we need to either change ourselves, ignore what others do, or find a way around that. Some women shop instead.

Answer 6

I see some people giving you funny answers not realising how much of a misery this all is for you. I just want to say I feel for you; if you love your husband you need to sit him down and explain to him what he is doing is wrong (he shouldn’t be doing it in the first place) and that it really hurts you.

Secondly you sex life could be playing a part of this; you may need to spice things up a little bit if you have-not already, maybe if you fulfil your husbands wild fantasy’s he might stop this all.

Thirdly go out shopping; don’t sit at home getting stressed. After all if this still does not work than give him a kick up the *** and put him out. Enjoy your life; you only get one.

Good luck to you.

Answer 7

There is help...for both of you...check out the web site sexaholics anonymous...yes there is such a thing. This problem is often overlooked and he says he will stop but then doesn't, that is just like any other addiction (the alcoholic who says no more drinking, the addict who says no more drugs...). He needs help or at least some words of wisdom or guidance...if he won't get help at least check the website for yourself...only YOU know if you really want to leave him...but if you're not ready to follow through, then you have to stop making empty threats...

Answer 8

well first off calm down. yes it is preferable that he does not get involved with the sex on the web cams.
we all have some fetish that we don't really talk about and some times it is one that just isn't possible to have happen like the man who wants a room full of naked women to all go crazy for him . that one is me.
your husbands fetish is voyeurism and exhibitionism they are pretty common ones . only now can many people do this as of coarse before a person would have to do some illegal things to manage to fill that desire.
so now there it is he has this desire and poof it arrives right in his own home . talk about tempation. thats like having the hottest man you have seen in your life follow you home and come right in to your house sit there and say any time you want me just let me know. imagine how that would be .
i suggest that you view the cams with him do this a couple of times with out saying anything critical of them . then view them a few more times and discuss in a calm and open manner what the good is and the bad is of this .
you most likely will see couples husbands and wives on there having it on and so you will see that although you find it at least now very disturbing you will understand it is not so far out as you may think.
there are a number of ways numerous ways of handling this matter and remaining a married and happy .
this is not a good reason to break up a marriage . this is a good reason to see this as a test of your ability to forgive as you would have him forgive you.
this is a good chance for the two of you as a couple to see if some new sexual activites might be just what the doctor ordered for both of you .
this may be a time you will find that as a couple you come to the desision to put a parental lock on the computer so it is not possible for him to get on to such sites as you would be the only one with a password.
you see there are thease and many more ways of solving this matter with out breaking up your marriage.
please do work on this together and do remember to forgive as you would have others forgive you . keep in mind the extent to which you forgive others is the same extent you will be forgiven by GOD. i am sure God wants to see this marriage work and he is willing to help both of you if you just ask.

Answer 9

Porn addiction is like any other addiction - a disease of the mind. It has destroyed marriages and turned respectable people into closet perverts. You must give him an ultimatum to go with you to a doctor to treat this or you will end this marriage. Be wary - porn addiction can lead to even worse physical actions on his part when the porn doesn't satisfy his needs after awhile.

Answer 10

I think it's a 2 part problem. 1st I think web camming is the same as cheating and 2nd if he promises to stop and can't maybe theres some computer addiction there.

Answer 11

Well don't you just hate them sites. Hun the only thing you can do is really leave, stand your ground and show him. You are the only one he should want to see naked. That's basically cheating not to mention he is lusting after these other women. When he said he wouldn't do it again you trusted him, and he did it again. What happens if he really does cheat? Would you keep on forgiving? I don't think so. I wish you the best of luck I can really see and understand how you feel, I went thru it to. Show him there are no more chances left. Leave for a while and see if he straightens up.