shes 15 { 16 in a couple of months}and is a daughter of my wifes sister} and when she comes around to our house she makes it very clear when we're alone that shes up for it like last weekend when she sat beside me pretending to take an interest in the magazine i was reading, she leaned right over me placing her hand on my upper thigh then moving her hand slowly towards my groin, i dread to think what might have happened had my wife and her sister not been in the kitchen i was getting very aroused. she looks at me when noones looking at gives me a smile and winks and sometimes even blows a kiss at me, ive tried taking it as a bit of a joke but to tell the truth im like any hot blooded male and could see this getting out of control if we are left alone as shes a very good looking young girl and dresses in very short skirts and i think she knows the effect she can have on a man, what do u advise?
2007-03-18 07:32:33 · 34 answers · asked by truthful meanings 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Plain and simple--GIVE HER ONE.
2007-03-18 07:52:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
My uncle's stepdaughter played this game and I will give you the same advice I gave him. It is a game to her- she probably knows the effect she has but not the devastation she will cause to your marriage and extended family if you were foolish enough to respond. She has a new toy to play with- her ability to attract men- but she has not yet learnt how to use it safely.
The possible outcomes are a) you have an affair, get found out and lose everything when she drops you to move onto someone else or b) she cries assault or worse and you end up in court.
If she sits down beside you, get up and move. Do not stay in a room alone with the little minx. If you've got the bottle, tell your wife what her game is and how uncomfortable she's making you. Flattering it may well be, but it's far more trouble than it's worth.
2007-03-18 07:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by annie 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Make sure youre never alone with the jailbait. Go into the kitchen with your wife. Just because youre aroused doesnt mean you have to do anything. She is either a kid playing games with a grown up, or she means it. Either way she is dangerous. She is still underage and even when shes of age she is family. Tell her straight as well, to the point of rudeness if necessary, that it will never happen so she should give up trying, that you prefer women not children. Mind you if shes vindictive she may just say you did something out of revenge.
Maybe tell your wife that she should speak to the girl about how to conduct herself in front of men, because youve noticed that shes quite flirtatious and it could get her into trouble.
2007-03-18 07:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by jeanimus 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to be the ADULT here and leave well enough alone, A- she's a child and as you,ve said yourself-she's a "young girl!" B- she's family so that means NO-NO-NO!
Most young girls go through phases like this, they reach puberty and their hormones are all over the place and they will try and push your buttons, HOWEVER you are an adult and should know better, sure it's probably very flattering to have a young good looking girl flirting with you and your ego's gone through the roof,, but you know it's wrong to even think it otherwise you wouldn't be asking for advice on here, or may be you just need to ease the fact that you are a dirty old man who lusts over teenage girls.
Leave the child alone and dont find yourself in a situation where you will not be able to control your urges.
I know if she were my niece and you acted on your urges i would hunt you down with a huge shotgun!
2007-03-18 08:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by The Original Highbury Gal 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
that's easy, if you honestly want this to stop tell your wife and her mother. she is a child, and weather she's a good looking kid or not she's still just a kid. and if shes acting this way with you, you can be sure she's acting this way with other men.
you say she knows the effect she can have on a man, well the fact is she's 15 a child, and any MAN that touches her is a paedophile. stop it now b4 she gets herself into a lot of trouble if not with you someone else. remember Ur the adult in this situation she is just a child.
2007-03-18 13:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by tj 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest you stay away from her.Try not to be alone with her at all.maybe one of these days when you're left aone with her you two might end up having sex and either your wife or her sister will walk in on you guys or find out and you two will be in serious trouble.Trust me I know what the wrath of a oman is like being one myself.
If this doesn't work I suggest you get very serious and let her know that it's not right.
Another alternative would be to get as cose as possible to having sex with her so she will know that her teasing has serious effects on you maybe then she will stop;but I don't suggest doing this unless u find it absolutely necessary.
2007-03-18 07:49:56 · answer #6 · answered by k k 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
she has a reason her hormones are running unchecked, she
needs to grow up more and learn self-control. If she's testing
her appeal out on you, you've got to walk the line between
letting her know she IS attractive but you are not available
because you're involved in an adult relationship that you ain't
changing.If you can't be an adult and guide her in the right
direction (this could help her) Then stay away and don't add
to her growing up problems.
As said there's a reason this child has "the itch", it's the same
reason that you, the adult can help or get out of the way
2007-03-18 07:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Get a grip of yourself - she is still a child and she is a relative as well. Tell your wife that she is acting like a little **** and get is all sorted out.
Imagine if you did sleep with her - your wife would find out, she could get the police involved and you would be branded a paedo for the rest of your life
2007-03-18 07:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are the adult here so I suggest you act like it. You should tell her firmly that her behaviour is not on and you won't tolerate it.
I find it quite sad that you haven't thought of that, and are making it out like it is her fault you are getting aroused.
She is 15! Get over it!
2007-03-18 07:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell this girl's mother what she's doing, and that you are uncomfortable with it. The little cow is trying it on, and she knows what she's doing ... make a stink about it. She knows how sex can be used as a weapon, and intends to use your sexuality against you. Nip it in the bud right now.
2007-03-18 08:00:02 · answer #10 · answered by Orla C 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She is learning about her own sexualityand desirability. She clearly sees you as "safe" because you are related and married. Tell your wife, be honest about how uncomfortable it makes you. Remember, she is underage and you are married - don't think no-one will find out because they will and you could stand to lose a lot more than you think. Is it really worth it?
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2007-03-18 07:41:42 · answer #11 · answered by Dee Dee 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋