I have a hard time to say no to people when they asked me to do things that i don't like. I am soft inside which they take advantage of me and i want to be tough, how to be tough.....Plz help, thanks!!!!!!!!
2007-03-18 07:31:15 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its not that hard to say NO just try to say it by nice way don't hurts people
2007-03-18 08:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by montser_98 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Typically a person like this will always be like this. Just like the person with anger issues will always have anger issues no matter how much counselling or anger management therapy they go to. In my life I have only seen a small handful of people truly change. So it's possible, but not very likely. So I guess I'm saying there is hope to change. But it's not going to happen out of some positive thinking course or counselling. I don't have a lot of confidence in those methods. You have to find the strength either from within or from without. From within is a lost cause since it's natural for you to be this way. From without is where the answer is, but exactly where is the question. Since people are generally unreliable I would say your best and perhaps only chance to overcome a trait that binds you like this would be to allow God's power to change your life. Short of that, every other method will likely fail and make you more bitter each time.
2007-03-18 14:39:50 · answer #2 · answered by sickblade 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm exactly the same way. You're afraid of hurting their feelings, want to make everybody happy. It takes practice saying no. It also takes the realization that you're someone who deserves respect, and that folks aren't allowed to take advantage of you. So the next time someone asks you to do someone or for something, ask yourself if it's in YOUR best interest to do in the long run, if it's worth saying yes to, and if it's not, "just say no", as the cliche saying goes. Best of luck, I know you can do it :) And trust me, it does get easier, and you'll feel happier about yourself too!
2007-03-18 15:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by High On Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet its not that hard. actually when you do say no you'll actually feel really good and full of power don't let nobody take advantage of you. just say it no. keep a strait face and don't let no one talk you out of your answer. and you'll fell so much better no will become your favorite word. try it
2007-03-18 14:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by fresh 2death 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in the mirror in the morning and practice. There are many ways to say no "Thank you but i am not comfortable with that so i'll have to decline", " I appreciate you asking me but i'm going to have to say no", "thank you but i'm not interested", "I would really love to but i have a prior engagement" , "I would really love to but I promised my mom, friend, brother, sister that I would spend the day with her/him".
2007-03-18 15:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by denise b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that u feel uncomfortable doing what they have asked and if they still try to persuade u than they dont care about how u feel.
Just pray and ask God to help u!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-18 14:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by SWEETIE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say Hell No Do It Ur Gosh Damn Self LMFAO Maybe They'll Finally Do It Them Selves.........
2007-03-18 14:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by prittyamy101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don''t answer so fast. Whenever in doubt, tell that person that you need some time to think about it.
It's great to be sensitive to others needs but how can you please everybody else but yourself?
Practice saying no. Your time is precious,
2007-03-18 14:44:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a kick in the Johnson
2007-03-18 14:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by johnnywheels2000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Always remind yourself that you come first.
Prepare a line like this: "I am sorry, but I have other obligations, and won't be able to assist you with that" and stick to it.
Good luck.
2007-03-18 14:35:14 · answer #10 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋