Whats wrong with being in a long term relashionship without the complications of being legally married
2007-03-18 07:29:54 · 9 answers · asked by Frank the Frowner : ( 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well
people get married, because there is a true love out there for everyone and they are just trying to find there true love and I hope one day you will to.
Also there is nothing wrong with people being in a long term relationship, but it seems some people can't get the idea that there are more people out there and that you should not just go out with someone or marry someone just because that person has a great body, they should look on the inside, before the outside, because your true love might not be the best looking person in the world.
2007-03-18 07:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can sustain a long-term relationship, God bless you and your wife. Just don't go spawning children without being married; you owe them THAT much.
Otherwise, marriage is not just a social convention, it's an ideal...and we can always use ideals.
I've been married almost 37 yrs. and I wouldn't try to convince any couple to get married UNLESS they had taken about a year to get to know each other and discussed all the important issues, such as: sex, children, careers, money, politics, religion, philosophy, etc.
Then, you need to have sufficient compromise, sympathy and forgiveness to sustain any relationship.
But there's nothing WRONG with marriage and there's no reason to dance around it and avoid it if you're really, truly in love and have the emotional maturity.
Once you've got all the qualities of a stable relationship, marriage is a minor detail, because you understand the deeper meaning of love, commitment and being a team.
No, I wouldn't say to any couple that they "need" to get married, but if you've got what it takes, what's the big issue?? Commit to something and, as the Nike ad says,"Just Do It."
2007-03-18 09:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people can be in a long term relationship without wanting more, but there will always be some people who want to get married.
Besides the benefits of being married (insurance, taxes, etc.) marriage seems to be a level of commitment that many couples want to take in order to further show their love for one another. Also, it helps when/if they have children with various forms and things. Many religions also frown on long term relationships that stay that way and encourage marriage as a way to "legalize" premarital actions.
2007-03-18 07:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by jttrwffle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one out of every two marriages ends in divorce, then one in every two marriages ends in a happily ever after. Everyone hopes to be in that 50%, of course. There is nothing wrong with a long term unmarried relationship. If you truly love someone, though, and she wants to be married, you get married. To refuse says you don't love her enough to make a commitment to her. That's as obvious as it gets.
2007-03-18 07:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tax purposes and other legal benefits relating to property. Otherwise, it's a sense of confidence that you just can't walk away every time you have an argument regarding who's turn it is to do the dishes.
Also, the lawyers might have something to do with it, divorce and family law can generate top dollars, and can only be outdone by cash made by plastic surgeons.
Pass the scalpel, nurse.
2007-03-18 07:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's just a few from my situation:
The woman get a new last name (I really hated my maiden name), you can get on their health insurance policy, joint filing on tax returns, if one of them is in the military you can get in on all of the spousal benefits, it's a better situation if you plan on starting a family, if your family is as catholic as mine...they won't give you as much sh*t about living together as when you weren't married.
I agree that if you guys really love eachother you shouldn't need a piece of paper telling you so but these are just some added benefits that I have experienced since me and my soul mate finally did tie the knot.
I say do what you want. Don't get married if that situation works for the both of you. Maybe you'll change your minds, maybe you won't. Who knows?!? Only you know what is best for you.
2007-03-18 07:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by Laura C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with that, if that works for the two of you, then great!
2007-03-18 07:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by twyla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because their marriage might be the one that survives.
2007-03-18 07:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing, if that's what you want
2007-03-18 07:33:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋