vPlain and simple. Unless I go through a phase of awkward one line conversations with a person (usually with someone I've been forced to be around at school or work or something) I can't have a normal conversation with anyone. As a result I'm 20, have been on ONE date (the girl lost intrest because I couldn't have a good conversation) and have little friends. Problem is, I can't really practice talking to people because I can't hold a conversation. What do I do?
2007-03-18 07:25:52 · 2 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
really? Talking to a girl is really easy...the trick is to ask questions. Most women tend to talk about themselves or their friends or situations that they were in for a long time. If you ask questions she thinks that you are intersted, and she'll be the one doing the talking. Be honest with her, and tell her that you get really nervous when you start talking to someone that you like, and it makes it hard for you to talk...she'll think that you are really sweet, and it'll take off some of the pressure you've put on your shoulders that you have to talk. Find a girl that likes to talk.....and good luck!
My boyfriend and I dont always talk. We have silences. Not bad ones though. When he said that he hates awkward silences for the first time, I said it wasn't awkward, just silent. That I felt comfortable enough to just be with him, and not have to impress him all the time and make conversation happen. And now when we hang out or talk on the phone, if it is silent for a little while, thats what we think about.
Try to think about things that you like or enjoy, and talk about it. Trust me, it'll make it easier. That way you have a passion about something to talk about and a stronger opinion about it, that way the girl will get to know you better.
I was really shy. My trick...force yourself to talk with someone. I found out the reason why I was shy. I was always concerned that if I said something stupid, that I would be made fun of, if that happens I laugh about it. When I get concerned about me saying something and starting a debate cause the other person feels differently, I accept that. Oh, and always be yourself.
Honestly, I think that you probably haven't found the right girl yet. But when that girl comes, you'll change.
By the way, this guy, he was 20 when he went out on his date with my best friend, they dated for 9 months, got engaged, and are now married. Just because you are 20, doesn't mean its hopeless. You're still young. You'll find a good one soon.
Hope that makes sense, and helps you out some.
2007-03-18 07:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-09-25 17:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your local mental health dept. They can help you find classes that can help you raise your self-esteem.
2007-03-18 07:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋