yesterday i went out with a gruop we were like 4 boys(including me) and 6 girls and i new 2 of the girls. one of em invited me really i was really shy and didn't talk much and stayed at a side almost all the time like the last 30min i talked but just alil with 1 of the guys 3 girls one of em was the girl i new.
it was my first tme going out with a group i don't go out much reallly i don't even go out with friends and it was my first time aroung girls cuz in my school boys and girls r sperte.
can anyone tell me how not to be that shy pls or not look so much?
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can anyone tell me wat should i dress like even they ever invite me agian?
and does anyone now if i botherd em or something even though they say i didn't i donnu maybe they just said it so they don't hurt me or something
2007-03-18 07:17:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you really just need to get plenty practice, if they are a group of people you like, then organise to go out with them again. Eventually you will relax and will talk about things you have an interest in which you share with these people, be it music, sport etc. However, begin by learning how to spell.
2007-03-18 07:23:01 · answer #1 · answered by wally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gogeta,
Does sound like you don't get out much! Well, you aren't used to it is partly why you're shy. First get out more and allow yourself to relax and have fun! Join into your Friend's conversations and let your personality show! Noone will put you down for being yourself!
I always had a problem with shyness growing up and one good way to conquer it is confront your shyness and get used to being more open and try to start conversations! The more you do that the more you will ease into the self confidence you need! Let go a little bit!
As for what to wear, look at what the style is now and dress casual! It doesn't have to be dressy!
Another tip: Practice being BOLD and don't worry about what others think or what ever things you say to someone! That's what makes you unique!
Don't be afraid to speak up!
Another thing, you can do the inviting out too. Ask your buddies to go to a movie, and places! Make life happen! Don't wait to be invited out, you invite your friends out and develop your interests you all can share, like something in music, whatever.
Even if it's you and friends going to the Beach this summer just to see the GIRLS walking around, go as a group, ASK your Friends to go out!
You will not only meet others your age, but another good way to battle shyness is talk to girls and be friendly!
If you can get over your shyness, you will have more fun and you might even be popular with Friends! Give it a try! Summer is just a "whisper" away! Gear up and make plans!
2007-03-18 14:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To not be shy, the best advice I can give you is to act like the girls are your guy friends. Try to just think of something funny to say, or just listen to them. Be confident in yourself, and everything else will come naturally.
Girls don't really care how you dress, as long as it isnt disgusting clothing. I find guys look better in ripped jeans from American Eagle or something, but that is just my opinion, and if you do not have jeans like that there is no use in going out and buying them.
You can know if you bothered a girl because 1- she will look hurt on her face and 2- she will start whispering with her friends. But whispering with her friends if not necessarally a bad thing, it can mean she likes you too.
2007-03-18 14:23:06 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Isn't it great being shy? I was when I was a little girl. I know, it's awful. Sometimes it's okay to just hang back and listen to the conversation and then add comments here and there. You just gotta get to know the other kids. Dress how you want to dress or wear stuff like the other kids, if you like their style.
2007-03-18 14:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people are shy. Some people just hide it better. Before you go some where everyone is probably just as nervouse as you. YOu need to be more confident. I would just dress casual
it might have been there first time just try to find out what everyone else is doing and be more outgoing.
2007-03-18 14:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I rarely go out. And when I do I like to hang out in a small group. Next time, work towards a crowd but hang out with two people you know and one of their other friends (that you don't know). Try not to think about the situation (that you don't know who the person is) and talk to them and try to find something in common. If you have something to talk about, you wouldn't worry about who you're talking to about it. You know? As for the way you dress, be yourself! No one likes a fake. Just because everyone's wearing Diesels, and you don't like them, please (I beg of you) don't wear them.
Tip: Stay calm, cool, and collected. :)
Good Luck. It sucks being shy.
Peace and Happiness.
2007-03-18 14:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by Roxi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just keep seeing them, it's ok to push yourself a little. That's how you learn to grow out of it. I'm shy too, but I am starting to get used to this sort of thing.
I'm not sure what to say about dressing.. you should probably ask a guy about that before I try and say something.
2007-03-18 14:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by T. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shy is a common problem for the first timers.interesting thing that most girls like it and use to continue with the chap even not bothered about the dress he puts on
2007-03-18 14:22:13 · answer #8 · answered by anis118030 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey,the best advice can be--- don't give girl frds. so much importance,consider same as ur guy frds. n talk,walk n share ur feelings the same way.Feel bit relaxed n dress up urself which makes u comfortable n behave the best u can,n then see the magic all shyness will vanish out n may god gave u one GF.
2007-03-18 14:32:48 · answer #9 · answered by Neha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you need to do is listen to what there talking about and if you have something to add to it then say it.
Just wear jeans and a t-shirt. Do put to much in to it.
Did you ever think that maybe you didn't bother them amd maybe they did like having you around.
2007-03-18 14:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by C.K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋