Do u mean how do you stop him from going to prison or how do you manage the fact that your brother is going to be a prisoner - in contrast to your own job?
I'm guessing it's the latter. I would hope that both you and your brother will learn lessons from this experience. First, it would probably help you see prisoners from a different light. Secondly, you'll probably work more closely with prisoners in helping them become better persons. For your brother, rest assured that he must presently realize that jail is not where he wants to be. I'm sure he'll be in a position to treat prison workers with enough respect when he realizes that his brother is in the same position as such prison workers.
However, both of you must realize that no matter how closely related or attached to anyone, we are essentially all alone in this world. We bear our pains alone, and we take the journey of life based on our own best judgments. Your brother does not identify the type of person you are; you do not define the type of person he should be. Both of you are unique individuals in this world with different paths towards personal happiness.
Be cheerful whenever you go visit him; and give him support - to know that you will always be there for him. It's always nice to know that, no matter how alone we are in our pains, some people will neither judge us nor hold us to unreasonable standards.
Your brother probably needs that type of confidence from you. Best wishes.
2007-03-18 07:11:47
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answered by plancks.constant 3
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You have some questions to resolve:
-Can you maintain your professional decorum while at work and treat your brother like any of the other inmates?
-Will you receive pressure from your family to give your brother special treatment, etc., while he is incarcerated?
-Does your prison have a rule about family members of inmates working there?
Best bet is to speak with your supervisor and let him/her know the situation. If you want to continue to work there, assure your boss that you will not display any favoritism - their concern will be that you are a security risk. If possible, ask to be reassigned to a unit that will not have to oversee your brother's group.
You should also have a chat with our bro and let him know that you won't be able to do him any favors so he shouldn't ask for any.
Good luck with this tough situation.
2007-03-18 14:17:05
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answered by Mel 6
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in my state you cannot put inmate in same facility as a relative on outside. security risk. you may be required to disclose your relationship to inmate with your boss and they may have to transfer him to another facility. probably best. inmates would put a lot of pressure on him to get you to do things for them. that's why it is a security risk.
2007-03-18 16:29:26
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answered by TheRockLady 4
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