Will He Dump Me? Why Is He Avoiding Me?

Question

Well, he says he will allways love me, and says he will never dump me. But now he has started to avoid me at school, and weekends. I don't want to talk to him about it because it allways causes arguments - i hate arguing! He is a very kind, caring and trustworthy boyfriend, and i love him more than words can say, i dont mean to sound sloppy! lol, but i realy need some advice, its confussing me! I am only 13, and we have been together for 3 months, i love him so much! Please help? x x

Answer 1

He has already dumped you. Move on.

Answer 2

If your interactions with him are anything like your post he most definetly is overwhelmed with your questions and surge of emotions. If he told you he loved you and isn't going to dump you, you should have been secure with that answer but you were still feeling insecure and asking him to further confirm what he said which has most definetly pushed him away and caused him to know avoid you because you seemed to be obsessed and unstable...at 13. 3 months is not long enough to even say you love someone..you're still getting to know him and his faults. But in 3 months you're asking him to pledge his undying love and commitment to you. Chill out!!!
He obviously frustrated too if he's arguing with you when you ask questions. Give him some space and when he misses you he'll come back. But you also need to wonder if you're ready for a boyfriend because this situation will happen again with another guy if you're not secure about yourself and need validation so you won't act like a psycho stalker rather than showing true love feelings.

Answer 3

If you want to turn the tide in your direction then here is some advice you might be happy with.Whenever you see him at school or where ever always have a smileon your face ,talk real nice but make your conversations very very brief,don,t ask him anything like where he,s been or going etc.etc. if you see him across the str. wave smile and keep walking,with in a week he,ll be asking you all types of ???? and you will want to answer him in the way that you don,t give details of any kind (this will be hard for you because you,ll be afraid that you may lose him but believe me you won,t) so SMILE

Answer 4

Dear miss je you are too young to have a boyfriend, 2, I hate arguing, sorry to say that if he is avoiding that means he's not into you any more. You sound like you are smart young lady, but being in love at such a young age it is what they call puppy love. If he really loved you he would not be avoiding you .So this is to you if he keep doing this to you,dump him before he dump's you in time you will get over him most inportant is stay in school never quit no matter what happen and if your having sex always use protection which i hope you are not having sex save it for when you done with college or when you get married. Do not be like me save your self and be all you can life is too short to let a boy get in a young life, and if he really love's you he will come back to you and wait for you. Keep God in your life he come's first.

Answer 5

You are 13 and still young. Boys at your age are really insensitve and bad at dumping people nicely!

Spend more time with your friends and remember you dont need a boyfriend because everybody else has one.

I know you feel heartbroken at the moment but when you think about it when you are 19 you will barely be able to remember what he looks like! Boys are fickle at your age and one minute they say they love you and buy you all those little bears and stuff and the next they ignore you. Its hormones and they are best avoided until you are old enough to drive

Answer 6

Well. the main thing is, women mature much earlier than guys, and are ready for a close relationship before a guy is. I think he has panicked a little; I also think that 13 is a bit young for an exclusive, "love you forever" thing. I have no doubt it's very real to you, but the reality is, he may be a lovely guy, but I think he's making it clear that he's not ready for this type of intensity. Widen your social circle, have loads of guys as friends for another couple of years, forget about the "love me forever" stuff for a while.

Answer 7

He's being very inconsiderate and unkind to you if he is avoiding you and if its all arguing then he will only make you miserable and believe me, you are NOT in love with him if youre afraid to talk to him because of a possible conflict. At this stage youre bearly getting your feet wet with dating. This is just the beginning and there are lots of things you havent discovered yet, and hes obviously not on the same sheet of music because youre not playing the same tune. So maybe you should dump him to save yourself a thousand tears.

Answer 8

You must likely scared him away with your clingy behavior. And, guys hate confrontations so he is only saying the things he feels will get you off his back. Look at his actions, not his words. You are far too young to have a grip on what love is.
If you are arguing with him then, don't say things that prevoke an argument. Tell him you like him, think he's cool and leave it at that. Quit pestering him.

Answer 9

One thing.. a man/boy who's always avoiding you doesn't appear to actually love you.
He said some words and for whatever reason he can't stand up to those words now that's why he's avoiding you, you say he's very caring, so rather than argue with you, he just don't see you.
Give him some time, if he comes back to you then good for you, if he doesn't then be strong and enjoy your freedom, love is always waiting for you when you less expect it.

Answer 10

Baby you are only 13 love knows no limits but dont worry so much you have along time ahead of you to think about this, and if he is dumping you move on, good luck tho

Answer 11

Hey lighten up a bit, youre only 13. Your boy is probably going through the teenage syndrome thing where he wants to hang around with his mates more. Just let him have his freedom, if he still loves you he'll come running back. In the meantime just enjoy yourself, go out with ya mates. No one likes a clingy girl.