ok one of my best friends asked this guy out,not just any guy,a guy she promised she wouldn't ask out because i liked him so much,and she asked me to ask him for her,and i did because im to nice,and he said no because he was going to move,and he didnt. So at our school dance she asked him to dance right before i was going to,and she asked him out again,and made me do it,and i did,and i dont no why im so nice..i dont know how to confront her about how mad she made me because he said yes the second time and then broke up w/ him so she could go back out w/ her ex,and then she thought i was being a horrible friend for ignoring her!and it wasn't fair. Also she always told me how much she liked the guy i do and kept asking me to ask him if he liked her and i have absolutley no backbone so i did and did and did,and she always said "oh well i hope he says yes dont u' and i said yes,i know i shouldn't have but i didnt want to be a bad friend,what do i do?tell her the truth or leave it alone?
2007-03-18 06:47:12 · 9 answers · asked by Team Potter(screw Twilight)<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
please long answers!
2007-03-18 07:19:10 · update #1
the only sad thing is..he moved...like last week
2007-03-18 08:04:14 · update #2
Have you really convinced urself thats she's a true friend? Obviously ur hurting and she doesnt give a care! This isn't only because of the boy and stuff, its about the fact that she doesnt respect you and ur feelings. I'm a nice person just like you, Its hard for me to say no, and because of your question, i've realized that I should start saying 'no' once in a while. Ok, back to ur problem, talk to her, and if she really shows that she doesnt care, then honestly wut kind of a friend is she? If she gets mad at u for being honest and telling her wut u think, then dont kill urself over the fact that shes mad at you. Ok, sry its long, to sum this up: If she's an honest and true best friend, then she'd understand. And from wut I read, I think that ur friend is selfish and doesnt want you to get anything. She probably thinks that if ur happy, and shes not, then theres no reason for you to be happy. Hope this helped. And again, sry its long.
2007-03-18 07:12:22 · answer #1 · answered by Allahu_Akbar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's really ur friend she can handle the truth. u liked the guy and she knew it yet she still wanted u to ask him out for her... doesnt that sound an alarm??? it shows that she doesnt care if u like him or not she still wants him. and u NEED some backbone A.S.A.P. or people are gonna walk all over u for the rest of ur life!!! tell her the truth and if she gets mad then she wasnt a good friend anyway.
2007-03-18 13:54:15 · answer #2 · answered by ladycarebear101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she knew you liked him, then i would loose her as a friend. I think she was just trying to rub it in your face that she can get him. That's what it sounds like. If she really did like him, she probably wouldn't of gotten you to ask him. I would just have like dinner or a lseepover with her and tell her. I would be soooooo furious. You shouldn't hold this in. Tell her how you feel and if she is a good person, she will understand and let you get him. If she is a bad person, then she will stop being your friend, but at least you know who your real friends are!!!!!!
2007-03-18 14:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop doing her dirty work. Tell her if she want's to ask a guy out she needs to do it herself. If she says anything tell her its not your problem and that does not make you a bad friend. You can't really do muck about the recent guy because you agreed to everything and she will definatly hold that against you. Since she dumped the guy i say that make him up for grabs. You might want to rethink your friendship with her or have a long talk and tell her how you really feel.
2007-03-18 14:03:47 · answer #4 · answered by Kayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should tell her the truth. its not fair to you. you thought you were being a bad friend for expressing how you feel but what kind of friend is she for doing what she did. she knew how you felt and asked you to ask him out for her. and you definatly need to get a back bone. thats just triflin of your friend. i say you confront her and then let the friendship go. if she treats you that way you dont need her. friends are to bring you up not hurt you.
good luck
2007-03-18 13:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by fresh 2death 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she know's you like them and has ignored your request to leave him alone and has even gone so far as to asking you to ask him out for her, ask yourself "what kind of friend is she?" Sounds to me like she is purposely trying to hurt you. If I were you, I would sit here down and ask her, "why do you do this when you know how I feel about him?" listen to her answer (whatever messed up one she gives you) for your own piece of mind and then next time she wants you to go and ask him anything like that you should say no. Maybe ask the guy out for yourself and drop that "friend" of yours.
2007-03-18 13:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by snobuny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you should share your feelings with her.Tell her that you don't appreciate the fact that she is being insensitive to you and the other guys that she was "going out" with.She is not really your best friend if she is willing to make you feel upset over a boy.If she does not understand then she isn't your friend.
2007-03-18 14:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's NOT your friend!! Get rid of the b***h--she just wants
everything she can't have!!
Live for YOU, go after whatever or whoever YOU want. Screw
her desires! If you like the guy, guard him like you would your
bank account. Don't share him with anyone else. Let those
other twits find their own guy--stop doing their homework for
them! Go get what (who) YOU want, OK?
2007-03-18 13:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by SlownEasy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And she calls herself a friend
2007-03-18 14:04:07 · answer #9 · answered by dolores h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋