In cases of those of you who are fooling around with married people, I am sure some of you really don't care about anything or any of the other people's lives who are directly touched by that sort of activity. Some of you only care about yourselves and getting a "fix" sexually. This question isn't for you because I really believe there is no reaching out to you type of people anyway. You are just selfish.
This question is for those who carry on with married men (or women),
Do those of you who are just so love struck by Mr. Right really believe that all the crap Mr. Right feeds you is true and that someday Mr. Right will leave his wife and kids for you?
I mean come on. "My wife doesn't understand me", "She is frigid", "we no longer have sex". Truly, she understands him too well while doing his laundry, keeping a house, working, and raising children. I wonder...does he understand his own wife? He needs to put in the time he is screwing you, be productive and save his marriage!
2007-03-18 06:43:56 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I loved the line by the woman who said I'm barking up the wrong tree. Marriage is sacred. We have history and time put into it. Children are involved. It isn't easy picking up the pieces and husb knows there is no trust and that it is on him to reassure me and prove himself all over again. My husb did not commit a carnal act (yet), I caught his hand in the cookie jar before it got that far. Men are also weak creatures. It boils down to women with poor self esteem that sleeps with a married man and knows it.
2007-03-18 07:16:24 · update #1
Geez, if I had a dollar for every time so loser married guy has tried that line (or a similar one) on me, I could go on a very nice vacation.
I don't play the cheater game, but the "I love my wife but she hates sex" or any of the other similar lines the would-be cheaters throw out is such a turnoff to me that it's only moments later that they typically get the IGNORE button online, or an eye roll and watch my back as I leave offline.
Any woman worth anything, will have enough self respect and conscience not to consort with cheaters...besides, who wants that bad karma anyway?
2007-03-18 06:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very bitter and angry at the wrong person. You said in your question: HE needs to put the time into screwing you into saving his marriage. HE has a choice. It makes me laugh when these wives sit and call the other woman names and blame them. Your husband made a choice, HE was probably out pursuing women. When people pursue things, well they eventually get it. It is HIS job to keep your marriage together, not any other woman. HE must have been extremely unhappy to have taken the step to have an affair. Take time to look at the reasons WHY he did it instead of being a bitter, angry person.
And you say: Men are weak creatures and it boils down to women with low self esteem that sleep with them? So it's all the woman's fault. Give me a break! What about the wives with low self esteem who stay with partners that cheat?
2007-03-21 18:55:20 · answer #2 · answered by mimi s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm on the same side of the fence as you, but have sort have been on the other as well, but not in a marriage situation, just dating.
You hear the other persons one-sided stories about how their relationship has been going so badly lately. At first your relationship with them is as a friend with an open ear. This creates an emotional affair. That can build up a bit, and you're meeting their needs by caring about their problems by listening. You can fall in love easily with a friend. It escalates from there and you feel that the wayward spouse is better provided for by yourself. Who cares about the betrayed spouse? All those stories you've heard about him/her are horrid! And your new lover deserves to feel good, and you feel as though you've rescued them.
I've been separated from my wife off and on for 2 years, and had a girlfriend once between, who had an abusive boyfriend. I draw my experiences from both sides, and I sympathize with you.
2007-03-18 06:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by ryuku32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is discusting that women would go out with married men. Some women today don't have morals and couldn't care less what heartache they bring, even to the children. They see it as power, but in reality they are only whores. When I was single; married men would hit on me, even telling me they were married and the wife was out working or at home. I had nothing to do with any of them, clubs are dynamite to a marriage.
2007-03-18 06:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i agree with u, i think they believe anything they are told, so they can justify what they are doing, justify that the man really doesn't have a good life or marriage, or that the marriage is already over with. i do not thin these women are thinking about the poor wife at home, she is only thinking of her own wants and needs, and could care less who she is hurting.
2007-03-20 02:36:58 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My feeling is: they are both game players. The husband is giving a lot of BS to the woman he is pursuing and will tell her anything to sway her to become intimate with him - I am sure he wants just one thing. She is so desperate for a man, she will believe anything he tells her and will probably believe that she will be able to convince him to leave the wife. They are both cheaters and either way, both parties are extremely selfish and lack morals and ethics.
2007-03-19 05:46:29 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is for you why would you stay married to a man that does his business with any other woman. It is him that has the wandering eye, and him that has the story to hand out. I believe you are barking up the wrong tree,
2007-03-18 06:51:17 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only the stupid ones who would believe it when a guy says he isn't getting any at home so he has to get somewhere else. I have a brotherinlaw the uses that one and so far it works.wich says alot for the woman around here.
2007-03-18 06:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're jaded....i'm not sure that women "fall" for any line....i think that women in general want attention and love..and if a guy avails himself to her and provides these things then a relationship might blossom....but instead of questioning the moral judgement of the woman....why not start questioning the man...i mean...he's the one that took the vow....
2007-03-18 07:10:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
some married men lie's to another women saying their not married just to get sex off of a new women
2007-03-21 14:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋