Me and my boyfriend have been together for five years. We stay together and have two boys ages 4 and 1. I know its tough on him and its tough on me too, but why is he trying to shut me out. I feel he is pushing me away from him. If you love somebody he should not do that. He dont wanna spend anytime with me and from the time he gets up till the time he goes to bed he is out side with his homeboys. and no he doesnt have a job. Should I leave or stay. help
2007-03-18 06:36:09 · 11 answers · asked by redbonesh22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't ever listen to anyone about if you should stay or go. You have to do what your heart tells you to do. I think you need to have a talk with him, and find out what the problem is. If he seems unwilling to try and fix the problem, then maybe you do need to start thinking about if you want to stay in the relationship or not. Think of what you want from your life and if staying there will help acheive that or not.
Good luck.
2007-03-18 06:47:24 · answer #1 · answered by Ammikins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you give him another child without being totally committed? Married and communicating about where the relationship was going? If he's not spending time with you then I'm sure he's not being a father either. Don't have anymore children, find something constructive to do. Go to school get a job and raise those children as a strong woman.
2007-03-18 13:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. But you already know the answer, don't you? He has no job, so he is not supporting his children or you. Are you on welfare or do you work? You need to sue him for child support and tell him to move out. If he is living off of you, why are you supporting his sorry backside? He's a lazy bum. Your children deserve better than that. If you don't leave this guy, your boys will grow up to be just like their father. Doesn't that scare you enough to move on?
2007-03-18 13:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the boys and leave. Youll get custody if you file in court and get child support so he ll have to get a job real quick.This relationship is going nowhere so theres no use staying where youre not wanted. So leave and be happy or stay and be miserable. Your choice
2007-03-18 13:48:02 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is supporting your kids? If he isnt man enough to work and bring home the bacon, why should you waste your time on him??? My advice to you is get out now while your still young.
2007-03-18 13:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by FRANCES C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 kids and the man has no job?! Why are you with this person? He has nothing to offer you. You deserve better--Don't you think?
2007-03-18 13:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by bahjij6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should want to provide for his children he is a dead beat make him get a job or get out
2007-03-18 13:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure he takes some of the financial burden and part ways.....take legal help......be strong .......love
2007-03-18 15:49:32 · answer #8 · answered by i am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You, and especially your children, deserve better. Go.
2007-03-18 13:43:37 · answer #9 · answered by itsjustfoolishness 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Run girl run as fast as you can!
2007-03-18 13:40:59 · answer #10 · answered by loveheartsfree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋