At least I thought she was my friend.Ive done everything for her and shes always been there for me until now.Shes been my best friend for the last four years. Ive bought her a truck so she could get a job. Let her move into my home.Bought her anything she wanted. In return shes always done anything she could to support me.We have never been sexual because she thought it would change our relationship and I always respected that. Now when I need her the most shes been away for the last five days. Ive heard from her a couple of times so I know shes alright. She dont want anything to do with me for some reason and I cantr figure out why. I feel like Ive lost my best and only friend and I dont know what to do.Have I been fooled for the last four years just thinking she was my friend.Could she have fooled me for that long And why.
2007-03-18 06:28:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to moveon.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is saidthat love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant .
I'm going through this same thing... except it's with a good guy friend of mine... no I'm not gay... I saw a friend in need and tried to help... In return I got a good slap in the face. I know it will be hard to overcome, not because of the situation but the principle behind it... just let it go... Trust me, I know it is hard but we learn from everything we do, weather good or bad... hang in there it'll work out. Good luck with all.
2007-03-18 11:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by flyin-low-02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have been 'used' by this woman, and now you are 'depressed' because she's gone. That feeling is 'quite normal' but you can do things that can help you be happy again. First, look around you and 'see' how many people there are STILL 'in your life' ... people who 'love you' no matter who you are or what you do. You should spend time with the people who love you ... and not 'waste time' thinking about this woman. If you don't 'feel better' within two weeks, then you should see a 'mental health professional' and get evaluated for 'clinical depression' and take 'medication' for it if that is prescribed (but beware, because the first medicine may not be the 'right medicine' for you, so you must 'talk' with your doctor if it doesn't work) and possibly therapy. DO NOT TRY TO KILL YOURSELF! You may not 'think so' at the time, but the only person you will 'hurt' is yourself ... and tomorrow your world may look a lot brighter and happier. Take good care of yourself, and 'treat yourself' to a few 'indulgences' ... even a 'long hot bath with bubblebath' (I know you are a man ... it does work, though, especially for men, who usually 'shower') and curling up with a 'good book' and just 'drifting' can do a lot to 'restore your faith in yourself.' Look at it this way ... she may have been 'using you' but she's 'gone now' and you can look for a much better and more 'balanced' love now that she's out of your life. Think of all of the 'good' about you, and less about her and 'what she did' and you will be well on your way to recovering from this 'bad woman' ... she may have been 'bad' but you were still 'very good' to befriend and take care of her.
2007-03-18 14:31:03 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we live for the good times in life, and unfortunately, storms are there too. When they hit, we have to hide! I believe she was your friend, and is thankful to you for your support, and she was honest with you about not being intimate with you. Let her go! If it's meant to be it's going to happen. She probable needs a husband , and she cannot be your friend , because she probably knows that you are in love with her. and she does not want to hurt you any further. Believe me this is a test. It's how you deal with your feeling right now is going to determine your future. Wish her well, set her free.
2007-03-18 13:38:43 · answer #3 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she could have fooled you for that long. The only way you will ever know what is really happening or has happened is to talk to her and use your own judgement.
2007-03-18 13:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she returns you need to sit down with her & talk to her. She could have a boyfriend that doesn't want her being friends with you, or that she doesn't want you to know about so you won't stop doing so much for her.
2007-03-18 13:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she could have fooled you that long,and why for one you bought her a truck think about it, gold digger.
2007-03-18 13:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's deep. She probably did use you I feel bad for you. Maybe you smothered her to much. You'll find a knew friend, but when you do don't smother them like you did to her.
2007-03-18 13:34:52 · answer #7 · answered by latina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she supported you then she was a true friend. Maybe something happened. Just talk to her about it. Maybe something happened.
2007-03-18 13:32:00 · answer #8 · answered by vexen431 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
awwww dont worry mabey its just a misunderstanding ,you need to find a way to talk to her, but in the meantime your not alone i'll be your friend
2007-03-18 13:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by twirlgirl17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she used you and now she is done with you. Move on and find other people who won't use you
2007-03-18 13:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by Lucio Tan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋