I go to a small school and everyone there thinks I am really shy. I have 2 good friends that I am not shy around because i know them really well. I would like to get to know more people and make more friends. Any advise on how to be more outgoing and popular at school. I have tried but it is very hard for me.
2007-03-18 06:22:08 · 11 answers · asked by airiv311 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I used to be the same way. Practice talking in front of a mirror. I know it's silly, but just try it. Pay attention to yourself. If you can't stand yourself, other people probably won't either. Join lots of extra-cirricular activites and clubs. You will meet more people and eventually make more friends. Don't try too hard. Trying too hard will have the opposite desired effect.
2007-03-18 06:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by Mystic 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Two good friends is a lot. In time, you will make more friends because everyone is connected to everyone else somehow through friendships in a small school. And you have two good friends to start. Just keep doing what you are doing and you will have a good reputation as a good friend. Play sports or get on a team or join clubs and be a really good member whenever you participate in anything that interests you. People like to share interests with other people.
2007-03-26 01:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is that you not try to change your personality with the objective of gaining friends. Behavior that feels unnatural to you will seem that way to others as well, and people your age can be cruel to anyone who seems different than they are. I would hate to see your attempts at a new way of behaving backfire on you.
Although it is a small school, are there clubs or other activities there in which you are interested? If not at school, then, in your community or at your church? Possibly you might start an activitiy.
For example, if you enjoy playing a musical instrument, invite like-minded students to get together informally to play/practice.
Or, if you enjoy service-oriented activities, organize a group to visit senior citizens/work at the animal shelter/collect money for a project/teach illiterate people to read, etc.
You don't need to hang from the chandaliers to have friends, just have a few good ideas and ways to identify people who enjoy the same things you do.
Good luck!
2007-03-26 12:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by fiddler82050 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about being popular.Talk to people the same people that say that you are shy. Show them that you are not. Raise your hand in class more often. Expression your opinions when asked. Whether you are talking to an individual or group, you are socializing and that is outgoing. Speak ur heart out, you have alot to say.
2007-03-18 13:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get to know everyone at school! Say hello in the morning or while people are walking down the hallways! Be more involved with group projects and don't be afraid to talk to another classmate, you never know you two might have something in common! Main point is this: Be active with other kids at school and talk to them more and introduce yourself and be nice, that will get you ALOT of friends like I do in school (because I also used to be REALLY SHY! But now i have tons of friends)
2007-03-18 13:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by <3<3<3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm naturally shy too, but I work in a job where I'm constantly the center of attention.
Start small. Bring a couple of new people with you when you go out as a group. Just talk to them like you would talk to your friends. Soon you will meet more people that you're comfortable with and be less scared to be social.
2007-03-18 13:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hey, kindred spirit! i'm the same way. i joined a few clubs and took classes that my two friends don't to try to make some new friends. since then i'm fairly outgoing about who i hang out with. since i'm a total book worm i joined the book club and i can even talk in that group without planning out my every word. find something you're interested in and join in with others who share that interest. odds are you'll have one thing or another to talk about.
2007-03-25 18:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by bookworm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start saying hi to people when you see them in your class. Try to imagine that there your two friends so you can be more outgoing with them. You'll start getting comfortable sooner or later.
2007-03-18 13:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by latina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if the 2 people that you are friends with aren't shy, have them start some coversations with people an then jump in.
2007-03-25 16:11:34 · answer #9 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Austin, how did you hook up with those 2 ppl that u are friends with? Whatever you did ought to work for everyone else. Just be yourself......don't aspire for popularity (it's over-rated), aspire for unconditional acceptance (i.e., ppl like u b/c they like u - nothing more, nothing less).
2007-03-18 17:53:38 · answer #10 · answered by Inday 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋