Man glances quickly at your breasts. Intentional?

Question

I was having a one on one conversation in this man’s office, and we were discussing beauty (professional conversation, but it’s not at work, he’s not my boss, or co-worker – I know people will wonder!).

I already know he finds me really attractive from other things that have happened, but this time he said (which was in line with the subject) that beautiful women are powerful, but while he did that, he looked in my eyes, then quickly down at my chest, then back up to my face. I was listening to him talk, I was the only one in the room, so he knew I would see it.

My question is: when men look at a woman’s chest, is it just a slip (he’s in his 30s)?? I think that, if he did it knowing I would see it, he WANTED me to see it…to know that he considers me as a sexual partner?? Or maybe he couldn’t help himself…What do men usually do?

I don't mind it at all, by the way. He's pretty hot...And he always seems to stare at me! So, maybe he does want to sleep with me....I'm 25, he's 37, so I think he does! :)

TO BK:

Did you not read the whole question? It's NOT at work. I DO NOT MIND HIM DOING IT! I'm glad he did it. I just don't know if that was him dropping a hint that he would go through with the attraction, or if he was just looking because he likes them.

No HR to deal with, I have large boobs, I like them, so do the men who look. NO PROBLEM there.

And YES, he IS the guy I wanted to be looking at my breasts!!! :) No, they weren't halway out of my top, but they don't have to. I'm a D-cup, my friend. :)

Thanks for your perspective, anyway!

Again, to BK:

So, if a woman is proud of her looks, she is insecure?! That's extrememly sexist. I am proud of my looks because I have good genes, I am happy with what they give me and people do notice! Why is it that women who are good looking are automatically insecure, or conceited? Not in my case.

I don't flaunt my breasts. They are natural, I love them, I cover them up, men still look. I like it when a guy I'm attracted to likes them too. I don't see anything wrong with that, neither is it a reflection on my character or motivations.

As for the fact that he's "returning" the signals I sent, it was the other way around. He started it. I liked it. He has been escalating things and I'm happy about it. Just didn't know if the "boob glance" was what I thought.

Again, thanks for the reply.

Answer 1

If I'm going to take the time to look at your breast and back into your eyes then im ready if you are . what ells can it mean? I would say no if he turned his head after being caught but he looks you in the eye . Go for it

Answer 2

When reading your question you said you actually
liked him looking at your breasts, so why are you
questioning it. A lot depends why a man would
look at a womans breast, and you said they were
not popping out but they weren't completely cover-
ed either. Having a one on one conversation
means he was probably facing you and you facing
him so with the way you were positioned to him
he could get a full view of your upper body, so it
was a normal reaction for a man to a woman. You
know that as you have had the experience many
times before, so next time you do not need to ask
as you know the attention that you get from men
because you already said why. Just be careful
men do not use you for your looks.

Answer 3

I think you're thinking wayyyyyyyy too much into it. Calm down.... Breath... Exhale.

Just because the guy "glanced" at your chest? Does NOT necessarily mean he was "goggling" your breasts. It could've been a nervous reaction as I do that sometimes. It IS harmless. HARMLESS. I know women chatter about this sort of thing a lot... But then these chattering women generally find themselves exactly where they left off... Which is all chatter, but no progress.

As for "beautiful women" having "all the power"? Thats very true. Its called the "power of politics". Which is very off-balance with reality. Which stems from men having no rights, but women do. If I were that gentleman talking to you? I'd be running - not walking - away from you. Because I know my job would be at steak had you felt slightly "peeved" about anything and passively agressively attacked me(using politics) - id lose my job... simply because... I am a hetero-sexual adult male. There is no grace nor "political grey areas" for men. However, a woman can murder a man & use the "abuse excuse" or "mental illness excuse" & get off with a hand slap or less.

Answer 4

It is a natural reaction that most men have. He probably didn't do it to try and suggest anything. It is just a common practice. If you don't dress in a hefty trash bag then expect it to happen occasionally. When you display yourself attractively it will draw a response.

Answer 5

It's just a guy thing. We can't help it. We just have the urge to check out a women's rack, even if we are 100 years old. Usually we try to look when the women's eyes turn away, but sometimes we get caught. Sorry about that.

Answer 6

Yes, of course he was looking at your breasts...
It's called the "Man Law"..
Men are required by law to look at womens breasts..
And yes, he probably wants to take you to bed...
Thats a man law too...

Answer 7

No, it's not intentional. Sometimes it just happens. especially when you're talking to a good looking girl it is hard not to. I did it sometime and she saw it, but I was just concentrating on what I was saying.

Sometimes it's just like if their are little strings attached to your eyes :)

Answer 8

I agree with "I am". Men just naturally check us out. My boobs aren't particularly large, but men still look at them. Sometimes if my pants are a little too tight, and I have a visible camel toe, I notice a lot of men staring at my groin more so than my boobs.

Answer 9

All men look at womens breasts they cant help themselves

Answer 10

I love it.

Women wear low cut blouses and short skirts to work, then wonder aloud why men stare at their t*ts and as*ses.

"I don't get it - why is that pervert staring at my boobs?"

Listen women, just because you dress to make women jealous or to impress one particular guy, doesn't mean all other men are going to stop looking at you if you wear revealing clothes.

You complaining to HR: "Boo-hoo. That man was looking at my boobs. He wasn't the guy I *wanted* to be looking at my boobs." Yeah. Real strong argument there. You flop 'em out, guys are going to look. Now I'm not saying you have to wear a ski parka and a turtleneck to work every day, but if you dress in revealing clothes, men will look. Deal with it.

So, why is he looking? Maybe because they are already halfway out of your top? And you are sitting alone with him in a room talking about women's beauty? And you think he's hot and you know he is attracted to you?

Geezus - what would you consider an obvious hint? Having a cartoon safe dropped on your head?

EDIT:
Yes, I read the whole question. The very first sentence says you are in his office. So it's at SOMEONE'S work, right? Plus I can safely assume you do not wear a nun's habit to your office then change into your slinky stripper wear when you go to his office, yes? So you *do* dress like that at your work.
It's beside the point, but there it is.

I understand he is the guy you want looking. I am trying to say don't be shocked and act all offended when *other* guys look. Dig?

I say that because your comment "I have large boobs, I like them, so do the men who look. NO PROBLEM there" tells me you are indeed someone who flops her boobs out of her top all day - at work - and likes being looked at. And hey that's fine. I am just saying don't complain when some guy you don't want looking looks anyway.

I am not sure if it's a good thing to brag about big boobs, since [a] like dick size it's all genetic or implants, it's not like you worked and studied hard when you were a teenager and got big boobs as a result, [b] mentioning your size again proves my point that you're a bit insecure about it so you have to let the whole world see them or at least know what cup size you are, and [c] a *lot* of women with D-cups, you will agree, are carrying plenty of - ahem - excess, um, baggage with those. Not you, of course.

Anyway - YES he wants you, you have sent out signals, he has recevied them and is transmitting back.