Being childless on mothers day is so painful and lonely. Anyone else out there feel sad today.?

Question

Spent years caring for invalid mum and never got married. I help out with friends children and love being with them but today I ache with lonliness. At christmas and bank holidays I
have nowhere to be I would so love to be a granny with a familly. I am only 57years old are there any adopt a granny schemes for people like me and where can I find out. I have
so much love to give and it is all wasted.

Answer 1

That's really sad, I'm sure your Mum appreciated all the time and emotional support that you gave her. I do remember hearing something about adapt a granny type schemes where older people were going into school for certain events or something- this was a few years ago. Why not contact a school anyway, if you are interested in spending time with children reading etc I'm sure they would love your support. And you get a little time with each child to build relationships. I was a teaching assistant and used to go to one class 'only' to hear the children read, but I used to hear things from them their teacher didn't know, adn when I left a couple of the children put 'thank you for the chats' on my leaving cards- it's a real way that you may be able to impact a child's life for the better.
I know it;'s not quite the same, but have you thought about 'adopting' achild through charities such as action aid and save the children. I recieve lovely letters and reports from my child, Bandeppa, in India's teacher, adn can write to him when I like.
Also, do you confide in your friends as to how you feel? Maybe they think you like the quiet you have on xmas etc, when in fact they would love to have you around. One of my mum's friends is alone and without family, she alwasy comes to our family gatherings and it's lovely to have her there, she's even coming to my wedding in the summer, I've known her since I was tiny and have loads of lovely memories of her.
Love is never wasted, you just need to find the right way to use it. Check out volunteering opportunities in your area also- their should be a number for the volunteer bureau in your local telephone book -I 'm sure they could put you in touch with people who would love your help and use your talents.

xx

Answer 2

My heart goes out to you. I admire you for looking after your mother. 57 is young. You could still marry. You may be too old to have a child but I think you would be a wonderful Gran if you can find an adopt a granny scheme.
What about joining some clubs and maybe going to church. You could help out at the Sunday school. You would also make new friends and have the chance of meeting someone.
I'm not sure what your money situation is like but have you considered contacting organisations abroad that may need volunteers to help out in their orphanages?
You sound like a wonderful person. Don't waste that love.

Answer 3

Come on Looby - cheer up. I have no children and won't have any - I am 40. I get the odd pang on days like this and do get broody. However, honey, whilst we aren't blessed, think of all the things you can do without children - life is still worth living - remember, we can hand the cuties back!!. I have heard of schemes that adopt a granny - perhaps contact your local council or perhaps a charity that need help with children - I know there are council run schemes where you can help with children to give the parents a break for the day. Keep your chin up. x

Answer 4

I'm sorry, Loobyloo. You would make a fantastic grandma for any children. Have you thought of contacting local Social Services and asking if they have any schemes you could participate in? There is fostering of course, but if you aren't able to do that, there may be something else. In order to work with children, you will need to be CRB (Criminal Records Bureau) checked of course.

Other than that, you could volunteer in some way, perhaps at a local church or club such as Girls/Boys Brigade etc.

PS: Snowbuny - "Mother's Day" may be in May in your country, but in this country, Mothering Sunday is today.

Answer 5

I am sorry you feel so sad you at least seemed to have wanted a child. I often wonder on days like today if my own mother who walked away from me when i was less than a year old ever thinks about her two children she abandoned.I feel sad for you not knowing a child's love my children are my life, I am sure that those children you know and are kind too love you back. I am sending a hug to you to cheer you up.

Answer 6

I am wishing you a happy mothers day, I agree with the other answers, there must be someone out there who would love to adopt you as a granny, good luck you sound a super person do not get too depressed it is only one day.

Answer 7

You might try volunteering at a local nursing home. There are lots of people there who need the love you have to share. And many of them are alone on Mother's Day .... as well as every other day of the year.

In what country is Mothers Day celebrated today? Here in the US it's not until May 13th.

Answer 8

HI
I am kicking myself now, I read a question the other day about a young woman that had children/ child that had no family and she was looking for nice people to call family.
I so wish I had answered it, then I could have go you two in touch.
I'm sorry you are lonely

Answer 9

I have a very dear friend who is also my neighbour. She is childless but has nephews and nieces. When we moved in she and her husband became like grandparents to our children. Unfortunately he died. When we first moved here she was in her early 70s she's now 85 or 86 (lol she wont say) My boys have grown up with her. All birthdays and Christmases she comes here for cake and presents and she's treated like she belongs to us lol cos WE LOVE HER. She is ours and we are hers. So there you are. You don't have to be a relative to be a Granny.

Answer 10

there are adopt a granny schemes out there.
Grandparents have so much to give to children, my son has fantastic grandparents.
My best friends kids don't have any and I can see where they miss out...don't waste anymore time find a family.
Ask your local council or volunteer association Good luck!