Is it because the world is full of beautiful attractive people that are also attracted to you? Why shouldn't you be able to have fun with other people just because you are married?
If you let your intention known to your wife about having COITUS with another woman and she agreed, would this be considered cheating?
2007-03-18 06:13:53 · 16 answers · asked by Joe B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i totally have a great answer for your question....however you didn't give me my 10pts from the last question i so...lovingly took the time to answer so.....you'll get the crappy answer this time....lol....they cheat..to escape from their current relationship...
2007-03-18 06:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Curry is right that if both parties are agreeable, then it's NOT cheating. The answer to the first part of the question is, I think people cheat just because it's exciting. However, if you DO cheat, keep the love and the sex separated. Make love to your spouse, and have sex with the other person. (not always an easy thing to do)
2007-03-18 10:23:02 · answer #2 · answered by Candice B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Question.
It is so easy for people to blame their sexual desires on what they are lacking in the marriage. That is SO not the case. All one has to do is look back before they were married and count all the times they go involved emotionally or sexually with someone that was less than desirable. It will show that there was a lack of sexual control (emotional too, but let's keep it sexual) in their lives. It has nothing to do with fulfillment in marriage or lack thereof.
It has to do with we don't control our desires before marriage. So, then how are we then expected to control our desire after marriage.
The problem lies with women. Even before marriage, they have multiple sexual partners...(us men)...some they count some they dont...but they find always find a way to justify having sex with different men. And Because they played so many mind tricks on themselves, after they get married they actually think that their body is pure and that the past don't matter...and they expect their husbands to conform to a fairy tale relationship of sexual monogamy.
Do women really expect men to differentiate between sexual experiences had with promiscuos women they had before marriage and a sexual experience they have during marriage with a wife who has also been promiscuous before marriage?
It's insane to even acknowledge a differnence, unless you accept the fact that the sex you had before marriage was missused and inappropriate and unjustified. If not, don't expect your marriage to be sanctified.
Because women are the keepers of their own gates, they should not be so promiscuos before marriage and then expect to marry a husband that can conform to a fairy tale relationship that exist in the 6 inches between their ears.
2007-03-18 06:40:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheating if you're both agreeable to it - that's an "open marriage" - the operative word being "open," as in "honest." Cheating is when you hide or lie about it, in other words being DISHONEST about it.
I guess if both people are agreeable, then have all the fun you want. It's not for me, however, as i get all I need at home from the husband, and vice versa.
2007-03-18 09:46:47 · answer #4 · answered by Curry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't feel a need to cheat, they feel a desire. A need is something we cannot live without, and sex (especially cheating sex) is something we can live without.
Cheaters do so for a variety of reasons, often to feel desirable to others. It has little to nothing to do with there being other attractive people in the world...looks are subjective anyway.
One can have fun with other people and be married...just don't have sex with other people unless it's kewl with your spouse.
Any kind of lying or betrayal is inappropriate in any relationship....even a troll should know that.
2007-03-18 06:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I guess it wouldn't be cheating if your wife agreed to it but, why be married if you're not going to be monogamous? Better yet, why be in any relationship other than friendship if you want to sleep with multiple partners?
2007-03-18 06:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by snobuny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be with other beautiful people as you put it then you should not get married and you can do whatever you want to. People who cheat have no respect.
2007-03-18 09:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either extreme boredom of their marriage, but fear of divorce for unknown "or known" reason (MOST OF CASES).
Or thinking that this is the best one can get, until they're strongly hit by a strong love that drives'em bonkers, and makes'em realize there's much more in life they're horribly missing (TOO FEW CASES)
There are other endless reasons of course; for benifits....etc. but those were the main 2 possibilities in my opinion.
2007-03-18 06:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by RareBird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people feel the need to cheat because of their own insecurity. If they were happy and secure with themselves, I don't think they would cheat.
2007-03-18 06:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by Moni B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not considered cheating. Bottom line, anyone who cheats is obvisouly laking something in their relationship.
2007-03-18 15:30:04 · answer #10 · answered by Sharky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you get married you 're asked if you agree to keep yourself only unto one person..
the idea that a woman wants to agree to share her man with another woman is bogus.... would you want to share her with another man?
2007-03-18 06:20:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋