I have been in a relationship for 6 years with the same man. He has been a cheater since I met him. I've caught him in lies and he still lieing. He has recently got a home phone and someone called him and he whispered and said I will call you back. He's always defensive about me asking. Also, he is handicapped. Born with polio, he will never walk, but he uses is disability to get women. Tells them he was in an accident. Is there something wrong with me or what. I really care about him. I feel it's time to let God and let go.
2007-03-18 06:12:58 · 18 answers · asked by Charlene H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Follow your heart and trust your instincts. Six years is a very long time to invest time and energy in someone who is clearly indicating he has no intentions to be committed to one woman. There is nothing wrong with you and there is no doubt, after six years, you probably have strong feelings for this guy. But he is being selfish and he is using you as his "back-up plan". He knows you really care about him and will be there for him no matter what he says or do. I have been in a similar situation and the longer you stay in involved with him, the harder it will be to leave him. You deserve so much better. It's not going to be easy and it's not going to happen overnight...but it's time to start thinking about YOU. And do the things that you are a benefit to you an pleasing to God. It's called personal growth and it's a journey. You can't change him but you have a lot of control over you! Good Luck!
2007-03-18 06:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by Mandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not interior the context of marriage. If a guy needs that form of "participant" lifestyle, then he won't get married. That guy would not even view it as dishonest, he basically continuously has dissimilar women he's relationship - what point of dedication she thinks the courting has is her project. Marriage is such a very terrible project for a guy, he fairly, fairly must be in-love along with her to recommend. Ask herself why that guy then cheats on her some years down the line? not continuously, however the wayward companion is in lots of cases not the source of strife interior the marriage. in the event that they have been terrible at relationships, how are they convincing somebody to be their lady buddy/boyfriend whilst they nonetheless have a spouse/husband? Objectively, an affair is a lesser offense than forcing a divorce the different companion would not want. In a nut-shell, lonely people cheat. "So on each and every occasion they sense they don't seem to be getting what they want their reaction is to get it from somebody else." The egocentric area approximately dishonest is mendacity approximately it. So do not lie approximately it. i think of you would be astonished and disgusted by employing what number different halves tell their husbands 'Do what you would be able to desire to do'.
2016-12-19 08:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just confront him and say you won't deal with his cheating existance anymore! especially since he's a handicap! How absurd. You can get much better, and a man that walks to I'm sure. He'll always be stuck in his loop of self pity and trying to fill the void by getting sex; but you, you will be a world away, happy and loving every minute of it.
2007-03-18 06:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by Lu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After age 18, do not invest more than 2 - 3 yrs. in a relationship
without marriage...Never have kids out of wedlock..
Always get a pre-nup before marriage...
Never marry someone you know has personality or character
problems, it will only get worse after marriage and you can't fix it
In your case..
Break up and move on...
Do it differently next time...
2007-03-18 06:19:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times people with handicaps use it to play on others emotions, if that is the case leave him.
2007-03-18 06:18:03 · answer #5 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless hes secretly a "cheetah", in that case he can be a cheetah and not a cheater...in all other cases.... he will always be a cheater..jerk...leave him! and seriously if you use a disability to get a woman you have more of a disability than you know. hope i helped!
2007-03-18 06:18:19 · answer #6 · answered by amie s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
polio or no polio,the man is a piece of crap!! You sound like a great girl and I am sure there are plenty of great guys out there who would love to have you as their girlfriend!!! Lose the loser!!!!!!!!
2007-03-18 06:17:09 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Bellows 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes let him go. He's seems like ho only cares about himself not you or the other woman/women. Good for you drop is A$$.
2007-03-18 06:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by crazy4orlando2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes let it go you dont deserve that if he love and cared he wouldnt do that to you and he is lucky u have put up with it as long as u have please your better than that and u might meet someone who will take care u like a man should..good luck
2007-03-18 06:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by sashabear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes always going to be a cheater...stop letting him break your heart and move on. Ever hear the saying "do it once shame on you, do it twice shame on me!" well shame on you for letting him treat you poorly!!! GET OVER HIM AND MOVE ON...YOU'LL BE HAPPY YOU DID!!! TRUST ME!!!!
2007-03-18 06:27:08 · answer #10 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋