I'm a 23 year old girl when has been in a lesbian relationship for a year and 6 months. my partner is 18 years old and we've been living together for a year and a month. although she is lesbian she has never been with a girl pior to our relationship. we didnt have sex til 5 months after we started our relationship. we had sex everyday. but lately i've been to tired or not feeling well and lucky if we can manage to have sex twice a month now. how can i make myself well untired? to be in the mood more? i do love her and want to spent my life with her. we do use toys during sex..so thats nothing new i can use.
2007-03-18 06:03:13 · 8 answers · asked by jamie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i should add that i am not interested in guys.been with both male and female. and perfer to spend my life with a female.
2007-03-18 06:18:39 · update #1
This seems to be common among gay women. Every lesbian couple that I have talked to has said the same thing. If they were with a man before, they had more sex with them then they do with their current partner. A few women stated that they thought it was because of the prep work that has to go into it. For men, we don't really care if you are all sweaty from working all day. Women tend to care less about this also in this situation. For women, you tend to want to be fresh and clean for each other, no matter how long you have been together. Hence, the prep work. Then only way to really overcome the lack of sex is to talk to each other and figure out why you are not in the mood, or why you are not having sex with each other.
2007-03-18 06:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My partner and I went through a phase similar to that, but you have to want to zip it up. Life changes, and you have to roll with it. We are still together, and in love, we just have goals that we want to achieve in both our lives. The important thing to remember is that you have to work at it. Make time for each other. Your partner may be feeling the same way you do, but think it is their fault too. Tired, not in the mood are the same thing. Everyone wants to hold on to that "let's have sex" everyday, all the time thing because it is exciting, and new. Reality is that you grow together, have common goals as well as your own. Work on it, you will be happier!!!!
2007-03-18 06:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by stormzsecret 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1.bye some hot oil from the store or were ever
2. go through your day til you have sex.lol
3.start out kissing
4.Get it out. Duh. Like u didn't already know that.
5.put some on your hands.
6.start rubbing it on her back.
7.then start going to her stomact
8.then her boobs
9.then u can finish it the way you want to.
You did say u used toys. Why don't u use them in this too. I am a lesbian too. but i don't have a girlfriend. i'm divorced
2007-03-18 06:48:17 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Micky ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's compare your situation to marriage. You are past the newly wed stage. Now your relationship becomes more about companionship and support, and less about sexual excitement. The novelty has worn off.
In a real marriage you'd probablystart working on a baby, but that's out, so I guess you should establish a financial goal or something that you can work towards together.
2007-03-18 06:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Find a good chinese herbalist. They have stuff that can give you a boost. I've been there and done that so it is the voice of experience.
2007-03-18 06:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need a dude!
2007-03-18 06:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
we will go elsewhere sooooon......
2007-03-18 06:14:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
all fun and no substance........
2007-03-18 06:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by blueJean 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋