my husband hasnt spoken to me for three weeks ,its doing my head in ,what should i do?

Answer 1

Your husband is being very selfish by not communicating with you and this is emotional abusive behavior. I went through the same thing with an ex-boyfriend. I realized he didn't know how to articulate his feelings without holding everything in and basically "exploding" and expressing his feelings at the most inappropriate time. Since, his silence is affecting you, which I know how that can feel, I would suggest you attempt to encourage, not nag, him to be open about what is bothering him and explain to him how his behavior is affecting you. I would also suggest marriage counseling. If he is not willing to go, then I would suggest you seek individual counseling. You may find, that his inability to not communicate is his issue and not yours. And if he is not willing to open up or at least compromise on more effective means of communication, it may be best to not continue to invest any more time or energy in an one-sided relationship.

Answer 2

Three weeks!!!!!! MAN THAT'S RIDICULOUS! WHAT A LONG TIME!
Maybe this is all very childish but I would keep the ball rolling by outdoing him in the child department. Get some professional counseling? No.......that will not work right now especially if he doesn't know how to speak or act like a man.

My hypothesis tells me that you should speak the same language back at him with reverse psychology. Out do his childish manner by elevating up a couple of notches. Go on a wife strike. Since he's acting like you don't exist, then YOU DON'T! Show him what it's really like not to have you. Make him do everything himself. If he still expects you to wash his clothes, cook, clean and handle certain bills, drop the ball. Completely stop doing everything he needs you to do. I guarantee that he will have something to say. This will definitely get his attention to finally speak. Then you can finally find out what's going on with this BOY you married.

Answer 3

Ask him why he's not speaking to you, or if you know why, tell him that it's not going to solve anything by not talking. Let him know that nothing can or will be solved by ignoring the problem. If he still refuses to talk it out, then I would let him know that there isn't any reason to be together then.
A marriage is a union between two people and if it's not, then it's a marriage and should be dissolved.

Answer 4

What is the reason he hasn't spoken to you for three weeks? Must be one. I hate when people do that. My husband did that to me once, refused to talk with me for 1/2 day. I told him if he wanted to act like a child, he could, but I was losing respect for him moment by moment and either he could talk with me or divorce me because I don't play games like that. He started talking to me right away. Don't put up with it.

Answer 5

Give him the "Silent Treatment" back, except pass him notes!! HaHaha!!! And if that dont get you two laughing again, and speaking again, I dont know what will?!!! Oh, also make funny little cartoon stick pictures of people on the notes, or do something funny on them, and just leave them around where he like picks up his coffee cup, or goes for the remote, those sort's of places.. and just watch and see if you dont hear a "snicker" from time-to-time, out of him, that's when you walk in the room and just simply smile, and walk out without a word!!!HaHaHa!! And just continue doing this until he ends-up speaking before you do!!HaHaHa!! Good Luck hun!! Smile!!!

Answer 6

I have lived with my spouse like this for 20+ years. Giving them the "silent treatment" back is not a solution. It is a reaction. The reason they do this is much deeper than you can manage, and it does not fix itself. Most likely they have learned this behavior and it is normal to them. You can not "fix it" without them recognizing that it is destructive. It requires total re-programming on what it means to respect and love someone. They often have not had good role models in that area. My advice and belief is to educate yourself on the behavior and definitely DO NOT replicate it. It is wrong, damaging, and there is no solution in shadowing the bad behavior. That just diminishes your character. I believe that only God can change people like this. Educate yourself and model healthy behaviors in YOUR life. Ultimately, it is the ONLY thing you can control (how you react to it). And if you have not had children yet, don't. It could take a lifetime to overcome this pattern. Adding children does not change the behavior. They learn to interact with the children and continue to shut you out. You must be a very strong person to endure without resentment. In my situation, I became extremely resentful and snapped. I shut my husband out emotionally so that he could no longer hurt me with his passive-aggressive behavior. This was not a solution either. It was a reaction. I do believe that these types of people need counseling or intervention to heal them, but I still have not figured out the method to promote this. I ultimately believe that a strong relationship with God for you will help give you a healthy way to process some of the wrath these individuals inflict. Through His guidance, you can learn forgiveness, to not be condemning, and to encourage your partner to be a better person. Modeling good behavior in our own lives is the most influential way to promote change- not to mention the only thing that we can control. He has to then acknowledge his faults and then want to change them on his own. Do not condone his behavior by enduring it and saying nothing. Express your disapproval of his behavior but in a respectful way, and you will be more influential. Again, this could take a life-time. It is possible that some may never be willing to examining their own flaws. But God can change people, and He is your best hope. If your spouse rejects the truth about their behavior, you will have in the long run made yourself a better person by not joining it. If the marriage should dissolve at any point, you will be better equipped for a healthy relationship having gone through this. Keep yourself around positive people and positive material. You can ultimately only "save" yourself. I hope your spouse will be one that wants growth in their life- but you cannot control if they do. Good luck and you are not alone.

Answer 7

ok its time to take a time out #1 call a meeting and put everything out in the open because communication is the key to a great marriage . get this in a meeting mode #2 say why are you mad and how did that make you feel then you say how you feel #3 then say what can we do so this dont happen again #4you re both are in a relationships good or bad and you re not children good luck

Answer 8

Have you spoken to him? I'd suggest counseling. If you two are living together and one is giving the other the silent treatment, that's juvenile and doesn't help any situation (no matter what started it).

Good luck!

Answer 9

need more info, is there a reason he has not spoken to you? If you know of no reason, then ask him to let you know why he is so angry that he will not talk to you. Tell him you can not work on things if you have no idea what is wrong.

Answer 10

There's a diagnosis for that. It's called "passive-aggressive" behavior. He is trying to control you this way. If you don't give in to his every demand he will not speak to you and you will suffer. Don't fall for that. Leave his sorry self. If you love him, leave a note. "If you want me back you'll have to go to marital counseling with me. The way you have been treating me is abusive." Go!