He works all the time, and we have horrible communication. We have a 15 month old little girl together. He is an AWESOME Daddy, I just feel like we're falling apart at "husband and wife". Please Help
2007-03-18 05:17:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He works all the time, and we have horrible communication. He says that I am a "rag"... and I am starting to agree... ALTHOUGH I know that I am not that person... it's like HE makes me that way! We have a 15 month old little girl together. He is an AWESOME Daddy, I just feel like we're falling apart at "husband and wife". Please Help
2007-03-18 05:39:15 · update #1
this is why i don't like the idea of marriage, i don't think we are supposed to only have 1 mate. think about it, why would man produce billions of sperm for just 1 woman, it doesn't make much sense. That tells me that we are not supposed to be monogomous creatures. i don't mean to switch subjects all of a sudden but what about homosexuals. if man has testicles and a women has ovaries, then we are supposed to be with the opposite sex.
2007-03-18 05:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by StealthShadow 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Katie - you and your husband have just forgotten how to be romantic. He faces working too much, you have growing resentment for the lack of special time you get to spend together. Talk to him about the routine you two have fallen into. Suggest that you start setting aside a special day to be alone and tell him to give you some ideas on what his fantasies are. While you're at it tell him some of yours. Rekindle some of the flame by surprising him with getting a babysitter and making a non interrupted fun filled night. It can build enough anticipation in you to get some of that attraction back. The key to a good marriage is not to forget the romantic ways you used during dating.
2007-03-18 05:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not an uncommon situation. You two need to make some couple time, and get the spark back in your marriage. Hire a sitter and go off for a weekend together...put effort into the communication. That's a crucial element.
If necessary, get couples counseling. People find time for the things that are important to them...if this is important to you both, you'll each find the time to work on improving your relationship.
2007-03-18 05:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marital and parenting problems usually stem from the lack of communication, and the failure to truly LISTEN to one another, not just HEAR.
There is a MAJOR difference between HEARING and LISTENING. I can HEAR a lecturer, but I will fail to understand until I pay attention and LISTEN to what the lecturer is saying.
Many colleges, universities, houses of worship, counseling centers, and the like, offer courses in what is known as "Active Listening"
Google "active listening skills" and you will find scores of Web sites for information.
2007-03-18 05:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by ou812ralph 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely need couple time. Work and child responsibilities can be so tiring.
Can one of the grandparents take her for a weekend while you rekindle your romance at a nice hotel?
Once you do rekindle, work on ways to tell each other you love each other daily. Take a little couple time out, even if it's just to watch TV together or have a glass of wine and play a game.
2007-03-18 05:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to make time for the 2 of you. I know it is hard to find that time when you have kids but you need too. If you don't your marriage is doomed to fail. You need to put the effort in for the sake of your daughter. You also need to learn of a way to be able to openly communicate. Best of luck to you both.
2007-03-18 05:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are not happy no one will be so make the time to go out together!! Spend one on one time together! Find out how you both have changed and see where that takes you! I wish you the best of Luck!!
2007-03-18 05:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by Sheri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get someone to look after your kid for a weekend. Spend some time alone together without your kid to retrieve your pasted courtship/romance tat was once shared by both of you. Hope this work and good luck.
2007-03-18 05:49:15 · answer #8 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you know hes gonning 2 be home- get a sitter 4 the nite-fix a nice dinner or go out to eat-maybe send him out for take out -while hes gone,lite some candles,put on some music,and find the sexiest out fit-suduce him. add a little wine or whatever you drink and go from there. if that doesnt work-try talking to him without nagging.
2007-03-18 05:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by milissa h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very hard to lose your feelings so fast, but there must be a lot of other things under the surface..but just being an "AWESOME" daddy doesnt fulfill the requirements of being a good hubby either.communication is the key i believe, but if it is "horrrible... think how you might be able to change things..if you wamnna talk..i will be here.. take care.
2007-03-18 05:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋