What are the 10 best things a man can do to a woman to..?

Question

... make her life complete, happy and fulfilled in every sense? Us men are the providers, protectors, architects of the blueprint of happiness and security - but do we really have the know-how?

Answer 1

I hope your not a chauvanist.....you will never bring her TRUE happiness, fulfillment and completeness if you are my dear! I may be wrong, but it does sound a bit like you are. Therefor, I am offering you the 10 best things that I think you can do FOR a woman. 1.~~~~ Let HER make some contributions in the relationship that she feels are important TO HER.( Let her have a say in what you two do or don't do, where you live, who you two associate with or not, etc ) 2.~~~~Too many times men think that they know what is entirely best for HER and the relationship, and thus, robs the woman of her need of self expression in the relationship. ( Let her choose if she wants to work, further her education, join a particular organization, have children, etc. 3.~~~~ Happiness comes from attaining and accomplishing things that are important to US..( Let your woman have goals of her own, friends of her own, tastes of her own interests of her own and encourage her to pursue all of these sincerely) 4.~~~~ Yes, providing, protecting and giving a woman some security in her life are well intended gestures and admirable qualities from a mate..... I'd say most women would welcome and respect her man for these kinds of old fashioned qualities and values.....just make sure your not making her a prisoner in the relationship instead of a partner. (Give her the choice to ALLOW you to provide, protect and orchastrate what you think is a blueprint for happiness) 5.~~~~~ Give her the opportunity to be and feel like she is a part of you and not owned by you. (Let her dress the way she wants to, eat what she wants, have interests that aren't yours, have friends that aren't yours, etc) You will yeild in return some appreciaton from her for allowing her to gain a sense of autonomity in your union. 6.~~~~ Give her the opportunity to take a little credit for some of the contributions that SHE lends to the relationship that makes YOU happy. (Lavish her with praise to someone who compliments the two of you for having a great relationship, family, home, etc. 7.~~~~ Allow her enough respect to make some decisions for herself and the relationship. ( Let her make decisions for herself when they invove issues that are completely hers unless she asks for your input and encourage her to plan some of your activities, vacations, socials, etc. 8.~~~~Let Her take part in some of the things that YOU usually do solo in your efforts to make her happy. ( Let her go to the dealership with you and help decicide if the two of you should buy or lease that new car you will get this year, let her decide with you if it would be wiser to add that second bath or put in a jacuzi, etc.) 9.~~~~Let HER incorporate a few amenities to the blueprint of happiness that YOU have designed. ( Let her tell you from time to time what will make her happy. If she needs something...give it to her if you can. If she wants something...do whatever is within reason to get it for her. If she dosen't want something then don't force it. 10.~~~~~ Value the things that she does for your relationship and express, OFTEN, your apppreciation of her input in your relationship. ( Tell her how happy you are that she always has your dinner on the table when you get home from work, tell her you are releived by knowing that she always gets those checks out on time for your bills, .remind her of what a great job she does with the kids, etc. ) If you want to make HER happy, fulfilled and complete in every sense.... Use your common sense and treat HER the way YOU like to be treated. Personally, from your expressed intentions, I think you have exactly what it takes to create a very satisfying relationship. . A lot of women would give up much to have a man like you. Your woman should at the very least feel proud to have found heself a man who Loves her enough to want to do so much for her. My question to you though, is...."Do you really want your woman to give up anything important to her in an effort to make YOU happy, fulfilled and complete?"

Answer 2

Answer: Praise her 'shoe collection'!

Is your question actually somewhat 'tongue-in-cheek' with the ~

> Us men are the providers, protectors, architects of the blueprint of happiness and security <

~ because it seems to possibly have been copied from a book on, say, 'Marital Harmony,' likely printed sometime in the early 1950's!

It has that tone to it and of course STRONGLY suggests that the 'Ultimate Responsibility' for the success in the picture you paint is 'All The Responsibility of the Man.'

You cannot have, as it were, a 'blueprint for happiness' as one size / design does not fit all. And, you would ultimately be responsible for attempting to mold / squeeze the Woman into something that she might well not want to fit into in order to fulfil your criteria and blueprint.

Should your goal and that bluprint fail, then you could claim it was because she failed to fit the mold, while she would likely claim 'you pushed and shoved her into being something she wasn't.'

That 'Blueprint' takes no account of an individual and his / her tastes, desires or personal requirements. DANGEROUS thinking ~ or even ~ the DANGER of NOT actively 'THINKING.'

Good luck to you.
Sash.

Answer 3

Here we go, generalisations againn. Hey I am not saving that there aren't some traits which follow male and female. What I am saying is that you have to honour each individual as that.

There is no blueprint for you to follow, if there was the rate of divorce would be much less.

I would also say that your impressionof what men are will set you up in the wrong way too, but I reckon you know that anyway......some time women are the rescuers, providers etc.

I have never thought it a good idea to pigeon hole anyone, particularly oneself! Be true to what you beleive in but have the wisdom to let others do that too. The joining of two people is not governed by rules, but by shared interests, senses of humour, love of life, outlook etc etc, not some old fashioned guide on what men and women SHOULD be.

Best of luck

Answer 4

I would answer to you that you, as just a man, can not make another person's life "fulfilled in every sense", but you can make her believe that you ARE the sense of her life, and then she'll become happy without much effort from you. Just make her believe that no matter how close or far you are from each other, no matter how many people have been before and around, no matter if you are dead or alive - SHE is the only women in your entire life, just for you. And that woman will be able to turn the mountains... with you, and her life will be fulfilled in every sense. That is called LOVE.

Answer 5

1. Be honest. No one likes to be lied to, or cheated on.
2. Find a balance. As stated above, if you are too needy, the other person will no longer respect you. Completely ignore her, and she might just find someone who will give her the attention she craves.
3. Communication. A crucial ingredient to any relationship-keep the lines open and receptive.
4. Maturity and responsibility. Most women like a man who comes home to dinner each night, rather than eating it alone while he's down at the bar, AGAIN.
5. Partnership. You don't have to be her slave-but helping out occasionally will go a long way.
6. Appreciation. If she takes care of the home, the children, and/or works 9 to 5, tell her you're grateful every now and then. Everyone likes to be appreciated.
7. Desirability. Show her just how irristable she is to you.
8. Other women. Although men are visual creatures, openly gawking and/or making suggestive comments about attractive women will take its toil on her self-esteem.
9. Be a rock. As much as we women love to be independent, we all love a strong man.
10. Expressions of love. Often, a simple "I love you" means so much more than any material possession ever could.

Answer 6

Men are very strange creatures..since the beginning of time it was set up so that women take care of the household and men to take the role of provider..well nowadays more and more (but not all) men ***** when women expect them to pay the bills or child support so we have to end up working AND taking care of the children, its generally thought that every woman is a gold digger, which couldn't be further from the truth, we just want men to fill the roles nature intended..okay now that Ive taken that off my chest..I think the main thing you can do is communicate with her, set aside at least an hour every day so you two can talk about each others day, express how you feel about her..women are so emotional and men are very logical, but you have to not be afraid of tapping into that emotional side of your brain, women are attracted to this. Be supportive of her and your family (not just financially) and help her around the house and with children if you have any, make equal compromises and be faithful. Its the little things you do that she will pick up on. All relationships are built on trust and good communication. Good luck!

Answer 7

I've never been in a 'proper' relationship but I know how I'd like to be treated by a man.

1. I'd like to be treated like an equal. My Dad had great respect for women and treated my mother like an equal, as, I believe, so do my brother and brother in law.

2. Obviously, he'd have to love me above everyone else, as Dad did with Mam, so I know it is out there.

3. I'd like him to have a high IQ so that I could have some stimulating - even challenging - conversations.

4. I'd like him to realise that not all women are after expensive gifts and buy me book tokens or printer ink instead of flowers, chocolate and most of all ... jewellery. I've never worn the stuff and I wouldn't start simply because he bought it for me (the obvious exception would be if the relationship was legalised and then I'd hope he'd buy the cheapest ring he could find).

5. I'd hope that he'd take support me in my interests just as I would with his (when I have had .... men friends, I've immediately adopted the football team they supported as my own). However, one of my interests might be a bit harder to accept than the others. I play the E flat bass (tuba) and want to take it back up one day. I love that instrument with a passion.

6. I'd hope that personality would be more important than appearance. I have a stunning, one in a million personality.

I don't think I can think of anything else, I'm pretty easy going.

Answer 8

Men are not responsible for making a woman's life 'complete happy and fulfilled in every sense'. So get off your high horse.

You men are not our "providers, protectors or the blue print to our happiness and security". Honestly, get over yourself.

Answer 9

You mean well, but honestly, who wants to feel complete, happy and fulfilled every second of the day? ...I mean really. Women - speaking for myself - love challenges and we love to think problems through. We love to feel appreciated, we love it when a guy can appreciate the things he's not good at like attention to detail. We love you for the big things like mowing the yard in 100 degree weather and working on the car and getting grease all over you. Let us worry about whether or not that tie matches your shirt just right or if talking to you boss in a certain way is really the best way to get your point across effectively. We're the detail people. We DO love being the apple of his eye. We DO love being doted over. But we also love a good argument and knowing that if our man believes in it, he'll fight for it. Women love sensitivity and toughness. We love smarts and when he asks us for help. We love laughter and seriousness. We REALLY love the man who knows when to use each of these at the right time.

But that's just coming from me.

Answer 10

Yes you have the know how you just have to learn to use it in the right way! You have to genuinely love her, respect her, be honest with her at all times, do your best to find out what makes her happy so you can do you best to achieve this, if you can make her laugh that is priceless and you have to communicate with her as much as possible.


But in my opinion all of the above women have to do as well it works both ways so if two people have all of this I think it should be a pretty good relationship

Answer 11

Stop thinking of yourself as the provider, protector etc it's the 21st century and we are capable of creating our own happiness and security thank you!