I have been married for 25 years he has cheated twice I love him but am not in love with him. I do not trust him and know I have to start a new life. How do I do it?
2007-03-18 05:14:10 · 10 answers · asked by Jane D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Pack up and leave to a new state. I did it and its great. Just DON'T LOOK BACK.
2007-03-18 05:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by D.C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jane, you are faceing a hard choice,but you dont trust him, and you are not in love with him.. so consider what kind of marriage your remaining years together will be like..i will guess you have been married 25 years,and you might have married by 25, so you would be aout 50 ..give or take a year or so..if you have children at home, you must consider them also... other than that, get a lawyer and go for a divorce..there are many places you could find to stay.(womens shelters) or take the house you live in now..
2007-03-18 12:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends what you want in life and what you want
to make you happy in life. 25yrs is a long time to
be married to end it right away may make it harder
for you to go on. Sometimes one needs their
space to think things out throughly. You could se-
perate from him and explain to him why and then
that gives him the time to prove to you that he can
and has changed, which might make you change
your feelings for him, or if you are determined to
divorce then you have to go through with it in a
dignified way and realize their will be tough times
ahead because you were in a relationship for over
25yrs with someone and now you are alone. You
will have to decide which is the best method for
you. You could be happy either way but if you did
happen to seperate then at least you would be
given the time to work things out better for you one
way or the other, either he proves to you he wants
you and only you or you will get ready to leave him
as he has not changed, but at least you will have
known you gave it the last shot which sometimes
is comforting for the situation at hand. Good luck.
2007-03-18 17:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You put a plan in motion, for whatever you think you would like to do. Put some funds aside in an account of your own. Seek the advice of a good attny. Then tell your so called mate, why you want to do what you want to do..........and then DO IT. It took you 25 years to get to this point. So none of this will happen over nite. But be patient with your new goal in life. YOU will make it happen! Best Wishes
2007-03-18 12:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what I am currently doing. For me too, it will be extremely difficult, since we have been together 15 years. I am currently making plans and saving money to move out of state so that I will have no choice and cannot turn back. I have never had the backbone to leave, but I am sure this is gonna make it much easier!!!
2007-03-18 12:19:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe working with a counselor or therapist could help you transition out of your old way of being into something new. It sounds like you're thinking of leaving your husband. Working with someone who is objective and professional may help you stay strong throughout the process. Good Luck.
2007-03-18 12:19:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hop on the bus Guss ,Make new plans Stan, No need to be coy Roy just get yourself free
2007-03-18 12:21:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You start by finding a new place to live. If you don't have any money, you may need to live with relatives first. Then you get a job if you don't have one and get closer to your friends. You also may consider counseling.
Good luck.
2007-03-18 12:16:37 · answer #8 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
put alot of space between you and him and start getting out more without him there
2007-03-18 12:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by loving U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go and do it
2007-03-21 04:40:06 · answer #10 · answered by satans_brat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋