My son & I haven't seen my husband since last Sun. when he left upset w/me. My son & I are moving 4 hrs. away next Sat.(hubby's idea, long story-he wants to save money-I think he's seeing someone else b/c of some evidence I have found, etc.) It seems as if he is upset w/me now or something(why else would he be avoiding me?-especially since he denies cheating-he should be trying to prove he isn't & he can't do that staying away for a week) Anyway, I don't know how I should act around him when I see him today. Should I try to discuss things between us(since I don't know really where he stands w/me & I stand w/him, etc.) or should I not bring "us" up & just move away & give us some space before I bring up our relationship, unless of course he brings it up?
2007-03-18 04:41:59 · 7 answers · asked by love my life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
BTW: If you are wondering where we are moving...I'm moving in w/my parents, he's moving in w/a coworker.(a guy)
2007-03-18 04:43:38 · update #1
This is confusing. You and your son are moving 4 hours away because you husband says to? YEAH, I think it's time (and long over due)for some verbal communication. If you think he is cheating, why haven't you confronted him? Sounds like you are afraid of this guy.
2007-03-18 04:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by janice 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are broken easily than made. You and your husband have developed some misunderstanding. If it were cleared then and there, things would have been different. If you think that he is cheating on you, instead of spying on him you should ask him straight. Please also think that if he goes for somebody else, it is because he is getting something you do not give. Once you are a mother, it is likely that you give less attention to your husband and that might have prompted him to go for somebody else. If you are confident that you can bring your husband back to you, try it by giving him more attention, care and caress. Do not keep things in your mind and try cooking up things. He might have thought about you as a liability - the reason for his planning to make you stay with your parents. When you see him ask these questions.
1. Do you really need me?
2. Do you think that another woman will be better for you?
3. Do you want to see our child and help him grow as a healthy child?
4. Do you have any problem in living with me?
If he answers these questions asked in a friendly in a positive manner, then take a conclusion and decide. Best of luck
2007-03-18 11:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by atom45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he'd be willing to go to a marriage counsellor with you. This way you can have an independent, neutral, third party help you two talk with each other, and help you figure out what the problems are. You married him for a reason, and you have a child together, it's best to see if you can patch up what you have rather than jumping straight to a divorce.
2007-03-18 11:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by zandyandi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should discuss where he stands with you and where you stand with him, if he is seeing someone else he will have to tell you now, and that way you can get on with your life. Why put it off any longer.
2007-03-18 11:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by may s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you deserve why you two are splitting up i think you need to discuss it so you'll know the reason if hes cheating he should be honest if hes got some one Else so you can divorce him and move on with your life
2007-03-18 11:48:29 · answer #5 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss divorce.
2007-03-18 11:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a lawyer
2007-03-18 11:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋