2007-03-18 04:40:59 · 44 answers · asked by Becky M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I made a big mistake and married the wrong person. I wasted a chunk of my life and even now problems from the marriage and divorce still haunt me. So take your time and make sure it is the right person. If you have even the slightest doubt, wait and be patient! This is your life!
Also, THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT: People do not improve after marriage!!! The product you are seeing during courtship is as good as it gets! Bad habits cannot be fixed by the new spouse -- don't fall into that faulty line of thinking. Bad habits or bad people cannot be fixed by having a baby!
Please.....think long and hard before marrying someone. It is about more than sex. It is about uniting your finances, your hopes, your dreams, your trust, from two people into one. It is about trying to live with someone 24/7/365 for the rest of your life.
If they drink now, they will drink more after marriage.
If they do drugs now, they will do more after marriage.
If they are a womanizer or a flirt, it will be worse after marriage.
If they are unreliable or untrustworthy now, it will be worse after marriage.
If they are a slob now, it will be worse after marriage.
How do they treat other people now? Observe carefully. Are they polite and friendly to waiters and waitresses? Are they polite and friendly to the teenager who takes their order in McDonald's? Do they like animals, and are they friendly to cats and dogs? Do they get mad and slam the car door? Do they give you the silent treatment? Do they ever bounce checks? If a cashier accidently gave them $2 too much change, what would they do? When they have to wait in line like everyone else at the airport are they understanding and patient...or do they get rude and aggravated?
These are hints to you! Observe carefully. This is your life you are talking about!
Take your time and think about it...please!!!!!!!
2007-03-18 04:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well I thought that he might be, but was never 100% sure until we got married. In fact we waited 6 years to get married because I wasn't sure, but now we have been married for a year and a half(together 7 and a half years!) and have never been more positive that I made the right decision. We have been more happy than we ever have been!
2007-03-18 04:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I knew the first time we kissed it was amazing!! We got married after highschool and now after 7 years together 5 married and 2 kids He wants a divorce!! He might be the one but only time can tell not someone on here!!
2007-03-18 04:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sheri 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I knew my husband about three months before we started dating, and I could not stand the man. But after we started dating I knew within the first two weeks, that I would marry him.
2007-03-18 08:17:24 · answer #4 · answered by Lulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine was love at first site before we ever met(maybe it was lust,not sure). Never the less we are still together and in love 23 years later. Dated for 1- lived together for 5 and married for 17.
2007-03-18 04:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by unicornfarie1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well my mommy and daddy met when they were about 16, dated and broke up for 7 years (my dad was going to college he would hitchhike to my mom just to see her on the weekends) any way they got married when they were 23, had me when they were about 30, there parents didn't even help them with money, they had my sister when she was 36, and now we live on a mansion on the lake. So i guess it depends on who your spouse is. I hope that answers your question.
2007-03-18 04:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
We got engaged after 4 months, been married for 28 years.
My parents married ,3 weeks after they met.
They were married for 32 years.
2007-03-18 04:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by Kismitt 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I knew a week later. When we really had spent some time together. He asked me to marry him a week after that and we got married 6 months and 11 days later and we will have our 13th year in June. I truely believe in love at first sight.
2007-03-18 04:45:32 · answer #8 · answered by btyboo 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Met my wife at a bus-stop, while driving, did not
really have time to get to know her as I was in the
military and was getting ready to be shipped to
Turkey. 5yrs later I was able to get back to
Panama and not having kept in contact because of
the short time we were togeather, when I saw her
the 2nd day I got back to Panama after five years
and she was still single along with me and she
said she was waiting for me all that time well then
I knew then she was for me and I was for her so
we have been married over 20yrs now and still
talk about the bus-stop incident.
2007-03-18 10:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
about 2 years. We have been together for 5 and are getting married in december. You have to go through the good bad, and the ugly with someone to see if they are the one. We did the distance thing for a while, then moving in and out, issues with jobs and parents, you name it. But it was worht it because we can overcome anything.
2007-03-18 04:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by Lindsay 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋