My divorce will be final in 3 weeks. My ex has been telling me sh emeet someone and is in love which is fine. The other day I told her I wouldnt have any contact with her anymore but she could call me and say Hi anytime she wanted. The day after that she insisted I sign our final papers and she would turn them in on the due date. I agreed, but told her I would sign only after getting stuff that was agreed would be returned to me. That day she inisted I sign first and I would receive my stuff later. All of this started the day after I quit whinning I wanted her back and let her know I was happy she found someone.. She has now inisted I have stuff that belongs to her, which we both know I dont (She couldnt even describe what I had) and today we were suppossed to meet to return my stuff and sign the papers. She called to cancel. To me its seems she is putting off giving my stuff back because after that she would have no reason to contact me. Anyone have an idea on her behaviour?
2007-03-18 04:31:54 · 10 answers · asked by PuckDog 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All of the things were miine, and do not have much material value. Just basic stuff I let her use when we seperated, and some small things that got mixed up in moving. We have been ammicable and everything and have not emploed laywers.
2007-03-18 04:48:12 · update #1
you want what u cant have, she might just be upset that ur finally letting her go
i kno it doesnt make sense but sometimes woman feel as if they can let go of u but u shouldnt let go of them, i kno its weird but i kno personally for me, i dont want to b with my xboyfriend but i feel better knowin that he wants to be with me still, it sounds weird but it happens
she may just b clinging to ur stuff bc even if she loves this guy that shes with now, shes still in love with you deep down n that might not ever change
after she gives u ur stuff bak she has no reason to talk to u, fight with u, or get any type of reaction out of you
divorce isnt always a clean thing sometimes it gets messy
try to b positive
2007-03-18 04:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by serialshopper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
But, you already told her she could call you and say Hi whenever she wants, so that wouldn't make any sense.
If you sign first, she doesn't have to give your stuff back.
I think she sounds like a taker and wants your stuff. Is there any value to it. Would she have any use for your things she has in her possession? You don't say what "your stuff" is so it's hard to guess what her motive is for putting this meeting off.
My idea on Her behavior is, sounds like she is a greedy person and wants to have it all. You have nothing to lose by waiting until she gives your stuff back, so don't sign.
Make a list of the things you want back, tell her to do the same. Tell her when she returns your things you will sign. Real simple, end of discussion. If she really wants this divorce she will sign. Unless, she sold them at a garage or yard sale!
Do you think that's a possibility? It is so hard when you don't state all the facts of your break up to guess at her behavior.
Like who's idea was it to get the divorce and why???
Could be some game playing going on. I suggest you also ask her what's up??? Does she want the divorce or not.
Also ask yourself the same question.!!
2007-03-18 05:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by CAT LADY LOO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like allof a sudden for whatever reason she is starting to play head games. This happens sometimes. All you can do is tell her you have no idea what she wants and as soon as she can tell you or describe the items youll gladly give them back to her and in the meantim you would appreciate yours back, and the communication line between you two is always open. Sounds like she may have misplaced (lost) something she forgot about and now thinks you have it. Sounds as if with both the divorce and new boyfriend, shes under way too much stress and doesnt have the slightest idea on what to do now. Neither is easy but the reality of both is sinking in now and youre the one causing the most problems to her so shes now taking it out on you as mind games. Maybe her new boyfriend is helping her. You can tell her thats its time to sign or youll get an attorney and turn it over to him. Its basically telling her youre tired of the games and just want to get it over with and move on. Good luck
2007-03-18 05:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Control. Do not sign nothing until you get to court and get your things. If the judge gives you your things then she HAS to give them to you in good condition or can be placed in jail. You are right she is holding on to things of yours to be able to get to you when she chooses to do so. She is not being fair with you and do you ever sit and wonder why and how you fell in love with someone so hate full? Sometimes you got to loose things in life and move on and I know this is hard but one thing is that they are only material things and you deserve to be respected and treated fairly. This might turn ugly if you keep bothering her over them. Let them go and act as if you could care less about any of it. Trust me she will be more willing to give you things if she thinks that she is not getting to you. Sometimes a lady needs some reverse physiology done on her. Good luck and I wish you the best. Women can be really stupid and childish sometimes.
2007-03-18 04:49:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to court if she keeps withholding your things. Call your lawyer and see what they can do about it. Don't sign the papers until you have your things back. I can't really tell you what her intentions are but I wouldn't waste anymore time on figuring it out. Shes moved on and now its time for you to do the same. Get your stuff, sign the papers, and start rebuilding your life. Good luck to you.
2007-03-18 04:41:19 · answer #5 · answered by CeeCee19 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be that see wants to keep some of the things that you were promised. Depending on whether of this is furniture or items that were actually given to you both(by your family) it could answer why she wants to have you sign the papers first. She may be planning on letting the court decide whether the things you are claiming are yours, would be awarded to her. Divorce can be a nasty battle of material things.Be wary it happened to me when my first wife and I got divorced. I lost about 12,000 worth of tools.
2007-03-18 04:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 02:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by fogleman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is nasty and she is playing games with you! Call the police and have them meet you over there to get your stuff! You wont be stuck in her game anymore and you can move on with your life!
2007-03-18 04:36:49 · answer #8 · answered by Sheri 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She wants to be in control of every thing. Call your lawyer and let them know what is going on.
2007-03-18 04:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by QT 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i agree with sheri n answer
2007-03-18 04:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋