Friend Trouble...GIRLS ONLY!!!?

Question

I am 14 years old, but not quite...um...developed fully yet, so guys never look or talk to me. I have this one friend that likes to rub it in my face because she is a 34B, has had many boyfriends, and is basically a normal teen. So yesterday, she was being really mean, because my 12 year old sis thought that she got her period, and I got my first one 2 months ago. She got all up in my face and started cracking up saying things like "2 years apart, 2 months apart, I'm sorry that's just sad!" Then she made fun of me for having a flat chest (my sis is more developed in that area) she told me that I would never get a guy because of the way I look. I told her that she couldn't come over to my house, but then she asked my sis if she could come over, and she said yes. I spent the whole day in my room! How should I respond to her behaivior?

Answer 1

I think if your "friend" is that way she is not a real friend. She should not get up in your face about that it is how God planned you to be...I would talk to her or write a note and tell her how you feel... I she doesn't care or thinks she didn't do anything wrong then don't be her friend and she will eventually think it was stupid and she will apologize but if she doesn't then find a better friend you a probably better than her anyway!!

Answer 2

Your "friend" isn't a friend at all, she's a first-class *****. Drop her like a hot potato! Also, you are judged by the company you keep and if she's a bit of a floozy you'll get a rep too.
I had a friend like that once, everyone used to call her "Mount Everbreast". She picked on me for everything... including the fact that I was lacking in the department she was so well endowed in. My sister was 4 years younger than me and started her period at the age of 10 (I got mine at 13) and had bigger boobs.
I've got good news for you dear. I'm now 33 and I have a child who I breast fed. Due to the fact I didn't get much past a B cup when I was younger, I am now a C cup and my boobs aren't sagging around my navel, they are still happily pointing skywards.
And remember, you are only 14, you still have a few more years of development left. And if you don't end up with big boobs, don't worry about it! You won't have back problems and you won't get harassed as much.

Answer 3

That is a really poor friend you have there to treat and speak to you in such a way.

First, I would not want her to be at my home if I was uncomfortable with the way she respects people, and I cetainly would be wary of her befriending my little sister. A friend that could act this way is very poor for a persons self esteem, I wouldn't want my sister to feel peer pressured because of a negative influence.

Speak with your parents about the negativeness that this 'friend' seems to inflict, and ask their advice on whether they feel comfortable with a girl hanging around that is so oriented on "getting a guy" at such a young age. Your parents may see that this girls friendship wth you little sister should be closely monitored. This is not a 'normal teen' to use her body development as a prize and attraction for boys, and to think others that are not as developed have no hope of being of value to a boy, what about friendships? What about sharing common intersts?.. Why does is have to be about what sizes boobs a person has?... That is a very superficial way of thinking, don't allow her to pull you into that detrimental state of mind.

You have a good head on your shoulders sweety.... don't let this girl bring you down, you are so much more than she in the fact that you are not an OBJECT, you think responsibly, and you are of sound enough mind to know when a person is this disrespectful to your friendship, they are not a friend at all.

Keep your head up, and way to go on knowing the difference in real and fake friends.

Answer 4

This is a really bad situation and to solve it, your definitely going to have to be confident. Okay, so we know that you don't like this girl, right? Is there anything about her that you could "tease" her about, so she'll understand how it feels? I don't suggest you do this in front of a lot of people because she'll probably make fun of you again. I think the best thing to do, even though this sounds really corny, is to ignore her. You can't help being the way you are, right? Just don't let her get to you. Also, tell your sister what kind of person she is, she'll probably believe you more than her. good luck!

Answer 5

u need to tell your sister and i am sure she will back you up. just dont tell your friend anything else personal...she will hold it against you later, you need to tell her this..."i can not believe that you are holding something against me that i cant control and that is still healthy. i dont choose these things, and just because you are more developed doesnt mean that you are better looking or anything like that. You wont get any more guys once they get to know you because you are the biggest jerk. If you ever want to talk to me again you need to apologize because otherwise our friend ship is over. " just make sure you can be brave enough to not act all nervous. also a 34 B is not that big, that is like nothing to be proud of, she is just trying to show off, but there isnt that much there, she probably wears too big a bra size anyways to look bigger. i am a 34 D and i dont brag, it is like this....small sizes are like wishing they were bigger, big sizes either wish they were smaller or are happy with it, and in between try to show off or wear a bigger size, they think they are bigger than they are. this isnt everyone just many ppl i know.

Answer 6

Every man I know thinks the butt is more important than the boobs. They say they'd rather have a girl with a big round bum and little bity boobs, than one with implants and no rear handles. I also have a good male friend who prefers smaller breasts. He says he's afraid of suffocating in those big ones, and he likes the perkiness. So, just think... Yours will be more perky than your friend's. Start calling her "Droopy McBoobs", or ask, "Why do your nipples point at your feet like that?" Trust me, I keep them in a strong bra almost all of the time just to avoid ever looking like some girls do. Some of them have flapjacks! Ew! By the way, you can also call her "flapjacks" or say , "flapjacks anyone?" when she enters a room. Just kidding! You should really ignore her and move on to cooler friends.

Answer 7

I would tell your mother how this other girl treats you, and ask her not to let her come to the house again. Your mother should respect that and tell your sister that this person is no good to hang with. You should talk with the school counselor about how this girl is treating you in school. If nothing works, change schools. You shouldn't have to be putting up with this at school, school is hard enough.

Answer 8

Dude that chick aint got ****. just so you know. i mean 34b? that is nothing to be proud of. and from my expereince the good guys that will actualy stay and be your bf. they like small chested girls. i am 14 too. and i was just like you. but over the past month i like grew amazingly. and well yeah now im a 34d. and dont worry about it. cause that chick will loose her self repsect if she keeps bothering you about yourself. dont acept people like that in your life. it will make you feel better if you just avoid her for a while.

Answer 9

well try to get a boyfriend. i am 12 also. you could also hang out with otherfriends and let HER saty with HER boyfriends. i mena she is a bit mean but that doesn't mean she doens't like you. try to wear cool clothes that don't neccesarily show off your chest. you can show off your butt, or your curves. if you are tall it might help, try some cool hairstyles so others can stop thinking about your chest. try to get others attentio by not showing off your problem areas. sometimes it works.
good luck!

Answer 10

I think you should tell your mom and her mom. And if you don't want to do that just ignore her. She is not a friend and don't sweat it you'll find someone soon and your chest is probably gonna grow bigger than hers in couple of months.