People call me names all the time and bully me. No one has physically hurt me yet. Im not really bothered what they think or say most of the time, but sometimes when they all gang up on me i get kinda upset. Should i fight back and hit them.
Why do they do it? I done nothing at all to them! why can't they just leave me alone?
2007-03-18 03:45:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Anthropology
Hi there. You know, I got picked on when I was younger. At 28, no one really picks on me at all!
I'll tell you what to do, okay?
Stay cool. I don't mean that you have to act like James Dean, just don't ever show them that you are upset or afraid. Get a sense of humor, because its SO necessarily to deal with this kind of thing.
They are bullying you because it makes them feel cooler. They've obviously spotted you out as an easy target. So, you are going to have to stop being a target, okay?
No matter what, don't act weak. Speak loudly and clearly, and keep your cool. Once it's not funny to pick on you anymore, they are going to leave you alone-I promise.
If it's TOO bad, dude-get your parents and police involved. You can sue these assholes. Scaring them with a harassment law suit might be enough to make them back off.
But, for regular bully type behavior, it all boils down to attitude. What is your facial expression when they start messing with you? What are you saying to them? Are you being as strong as you can?
Its so weird to go from being that little kid that was almost scared to go to school-and now, I've got tons of friends, lots of respect. I just had to keep working on it, and NEVER letting them see me weak. They obviously have low self esteems, and you have to be the better guy.
Aw, good luck to you!
2007-03-18 03:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jean Low 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
May I suggest a different social circle? People that do it just don't like you for whatever their sick reasoning is. Find people that do appreciate you, not diminish you as a person. Ignore them and move past them. They are the ones that are narcissistic, jealous, insecure, weak and insignificant. They make themselves feel better by trying to make you feel bad. Most times they are controlling, sociopathic and have no morals. Take the control from them. People always try to bully others they think are weaker than themselves, you have the power to stop them, by ignoring them and staying away from them. You can also keep them away from you by not giving them the time of day.
2007-03-18 17:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by ShadowCat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would assume thatyou are a kid going to school by reaing between the lines.Form my own childhood expierences there is always a 'goat' 'in every group of kids and you are it. My advise to you would be secretly if possible, take judo lessons keep it quiet until you learn some noncombat judo and then 'clean house'. When and if you do this be sure to do a thour job and your prestiege will go sky high, you will be left strickly alone and the girls will mob you. If you are under eighteen you have the possibility of getting slapped on the wrist and nothing else will happen.Go for it!!!
2007-03-18 04:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could have something to do with the ego I am not sure. When a narcissist needs his supply, which would appear to be bullying it is because of low self esteem. Do not hit them. Remove yourself from the situation. It appears they are more of a social tribe and you are alone which may indicate that you may be an introvert which is very easy to misunderstand.
2007-03-18 12:33:20 · answer #4 · answered by Don't Know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be insecurity or prejudice of any kind. I know this for a fact. I was always the minority student in the schools I attended. I faced a lot of bullying because of it. I would advise you to ignore it. I made the mistake of showing how much it upset me, which just made it worst.
2007-03-20 05:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by Caribbean Belle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although others will give differing reasons, the same situation occurs in chimpanzee groups; it establishes their higher rank in the dominance heirarchy, and prevents them from being bullied themselves. Stand up to them every time, and tell them to FLICK OFF. If it continues, report them to the appropriate authority, and say that if nothing is done to stop it, legal action will be forthcoming, on the grounds of failure to discharge their duty of care.
2007-03-19 22:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by CLICKHEREx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably bully you because they are insecure about themselves. I would just ignore them if I were you, and don't do mean things back to them. What they are trying to do is make you upset, so if you don't show you are upset hopefully they will move on. That's really tough, I hope things get better for you!
2007-03-18 03:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by hereecomesxthesun :] 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because, unfortunately, to make some people hayppy, they have to do their best to make someone else feel bad. It's a sad world when someone has to stoop to that level. Ignore them. They are not worth your effort. Ten years down the road, you will see these same people and they will be coming up to you when their life is a wreck and they will be asking you to be their friend.
2007-03-18 10:51:32 · answer #8 · answered by elimayme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I am a expert with bullys and i will help
Bullys pick on kids for no apperand reason because there self-esteem is low, they do it to make them feel good.
Next time someone bullys you, ignore them but if they start to get on your nerves, tell someone.
Good Luck!!!
2007-03-18 03:51:36 · answer #9 · answered by Roy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way to stop this is just ignore them..I know..easier said than done.When you do this and they see (and it will not happen overnight) that you are not reacting to their bullying believe it they will stop.It is you getting upset that encourages their bullying.Just walk away and give them a board kinda look.
2007-03-18 03:53:46 · answer #10 · answered by little3nikki 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋