I have lately been fantasizing about my boss sleeping with my wife. This thought keeps coming to me all day at the office. Lately I have started to include my wife's name in my conversation with my boss to get him interested in knowing about her, and a few times I have even left a photo of her on my table when he is around so he can get to see my attractive wife. Can anybody tell me what is the nature of this fantasy, what it means and what I should do about it?
2007-03-18 03:45:08 · 20 answers · asked by Rohit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some of the answers so far come very close to how I feel. Possibly I want my boss to lust after my wife and through this have some control over him by dangling something he can't have in front of him. Definitely there is an element of worthiness involved, like I subconsciously feel that my wife is deserving of someone better than myself. It is worth noting that usually I would not speak well of my boss, but with my wife, I often present him in good light, emphasizing his positive traits.
2007-03-18 09:53:17 · update #1
sounds like you are trapped, it would appear that you want to do other women and if you can get your boss to do your wife, you would have that to back you up, so when she screws your boss, and you screw the woman at work that has your eye and she catches you, you can say well you screwed my boss and have her dead to rights. why else would you want someone in the place you work to screw her. a 2nd scenario comes to mind is you feel so overpowered by your boss that you are sick enough to use your wife to level the playing field. assuming your boss is married, you entice him to diddle your Mrs , now you have something to hold over his head. I want that promotion or else your wife finds out. whatever the reason , it's not a good idea to pass your wife around at the place you work. your esteem comes in to play there also. or maybe you just want your boss to lust after your wife. just to say, you may be boss but I'm screwing her. way out of my realm of fantasies. or even maybe you are worried about your boss screwing your wife and you are trying to get use to the idea. since your livelihood depends on him. some ideas to ponder.
2007-03-18 05:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my practice, I've had many clients (both men & women) who had incredible fantasies. But here is where deedee4u hit the nail on the head. You're taking it beyond fantasy. One can speculate on a myriad of possible "reasons" yet I'd consider this a cause for concern, unless you really do want your wife to have sex with your boss. So. How does your wife fit into this equation? To define the nature of a fantasy would take much more than what you've provided here. & from this, "what should I do about it" is impossible to answer. The best I could suggest, would be that you ask YOURSELF some questions, in great depth & truth. & no, the fantasy is not "alright." You're involving others. You have no idea where this may go.
2007-03-19 02:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by Psychic Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let's look at it this way... you're already taking this "PAST" the fantasy because you've already started taking "ACTION" to make this try and "HAPPEN" without even consulting your wife. It shows a lack of respect on your part for your wife by doing something she may be appalled by. You need to ask yourself "WHY" you don't respect your wife (wanting her to have sex with your "boss" and not talking to her about this first) rather than worrying about this fantasy of yours. I encourage you to sit down and discuss this with your wife. Marriage is about trust, respect, and communication... which then produces the intimacy so many people desire. Once you determine her feelings... and let's say she is against it... then perhaps YOU could pretend (role play) to be your boss.
2007-03-18 11:27:54 · answer #3 · answered by deedee4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not there are a LOT of men who fantasize about their wives having sex with other men. The idea of your wife taking on an ultra-personality and behaving like a porno star or some cheap whore while you watch is naughty on a LOT of different levels. But where does your fantasy end? What happens afterwards in this fantasy? Do you join? Or do they point and giggle? Bottom line is that it's okay to have fantasies. Everybody does. But stear clear of the ones that involve ruining your career, ruining your marriage, and ruining your life.
2007-03-18 10:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I often think about wanting to watch my significant other in the throws of passion with another "powerful" man. I think that is more common than you think, however, it can have some serious downsides. She could leave you and you would most likely end up losing your job. Your boss could spread vicious rumors about you, etc. It is best to take this activity away from work so that you don't have to live it. I think that this activity can be exciting, and a great way to keep the spice in the marriage, but be careful who you share with! You know what they say about playing with fire!
2007-03-18 10:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by savmitch1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are people out there that swing and exchange partners. But First thing is first... have you talked to your wife about all this? And lets just say your plan works and they do actually sleep together, are you sure you would really be OK with this and still trust her after they done their thing? There are so many things you need to think about before arranging such a thing. I know some people who swing, Its not for us though.
2007-03-18 10:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by dakota_gal_1968 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you want your boss to know that your wife is better than anything he could ever have, so that you can feel better than him in some way, this could be an issue of pride, i dont know about your relationship with you wife or boss, so i dont know. but to think of your wife and boss disrespecting you in such a manner is a bit concerning
2007-03-18 10:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by candi b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
fantasies are just fine and probably a normal part in the lives of most.
i don't think it would be wise to set the stage for your fantasy to become a reality though.
2007-03-18 11:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop fantasizing about that, it isn't right. Don't let yourself get carried away. I wouldn't let your wife sleep with anyone but YOU.
2007-03-18 10:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by MOM OF ONE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope..
Dangerous fetish...
Very BAD idea..
Put it out of your mind...
Never share wife with another man ...
Only safe multi-partner sex is a 3some with another
woman invited by wife...
2007-03-18 11:12:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋