just found out i am pregnant....he wants me not too have it ..i want to have it i think..what should i do??

Answer 1

A man telling you not to have the baby is not worth it. The baby will give you unconditional love, but the man may not be around forever and you will regret geting rid of your baby because he wanted you to.

Answer 2

Hun, it's YOUR choice. It's YOUR body and regardless whether he wants the child or not, he made the choice to have sex with you therefore he has to deal with the conciquences of having sex; i.e. getting pregnant. He is bound legally to you now because of this child and a good reason he's probably telling you not to have it is because he doesn't want a future with you, or, he doesn't want the responsbilities- fatherhood and financially, that goes along with having a baby.

You should really talk to someone supportive in your life. Raising a child is a big deal. Heck, being PREGNANT is a huge deal. The emotional toll it takes on you is enough; you don't need some jerk telling you what to do wtih your body. I applaud you for standing up for yourself and wanting to have this child. While it is a big committment, so is having sex and if you are mature enough to be having sex, you need to be mature enough to be able to handle what might come from it. Here's a thought- you're pregnant; what an amazing thing! You're creating a miracle! On the flip side, be glad that out of this sexual experience you didn't get an STD or some life threatening illness. You really have to be careful when having sex because there are real things that happen because of it.

Be strong, find someone to talk to about this besides him and listen to your heart. Even if you don't keep the baby, don't deprive that child of his or her life. There are millions of people out there who can't have children. Perhaps you can give this child the gift of life and then allow it to have a wonderful life with someone who can give it that. Or, if you are ready and you want this child, committ to it now. Eat healthier, don't drink or smoke and take good care of yourself. You're now eating for two- everything you put into your body your baby gets as well.

There is a lot to think about. I am sure you'll maket the right choice. But it is YOUR choice. Remember that.

Answer 3

This is your decision to make not his. If you want to have the baby have it. Just be prepared to loose him. Be prepared to raise this child on your own with little if any help from him. I am a single mother of 2 and I'll tell ya, it's not easy. But I've also been put in the situation that you are in. My ex-husband told me that it was either him or the child I was pregnant with. In his thinking we already had enough kids (he had one from a previous relationship and we had 1 together). So I did what he wanted. I now know he was cheating on me and had been for a few months (its hard to tell your girlfriend that your wife won't give you any when the wife is 2 months pregnant). I filed for divorce a month after the abortion and have regreted it ever since. I now have a baby girl that I am raising on my own along with my son. Single parenthood is by no means easy but either is getting rid of a baby. ( As an after note.. . my ex-husband married the ho he was cheating on me with and they had their baby girl the day after I had mine. We were all in the hospital together for a whole weekend. The nursing staff kept an eye on me for fear that I would go down to the ho's room and give her the a** whipping she deserved. ) So this is your decision, noone can know what you think you are capable of handling. If you feel that you are a strong enough woman to do it on your own, then do it. have your baby. I don't think you will ever regret it. Good luck and congrats! And it is a reason to celebrate!

Answer 4

go to a Familiy Planning clinic and get some counseling....this is a really tough decision. I feel like if you want to have the baby, you shoud definitely have it. It's your body, not his. If you have the baby and don't want to keep it, there are thousands of loving childless couples who would adopt it.
I really think you should consider how guilty and remorseful you might feel if you got the abortion...some women are just fine with it, while others never seem to get over it. That's why I suggest some counseling before you decide.
Good luck to you.

Answer 5

u should keep it im 23 mother of a 7th month old hes the joy love and happiness of my life fathers not around. its hard but if u have people beside ur so called baby daddy to help u and be there for u emotionally, it will be okay plus abortion is murder and u will regret it someday if u cant take care of him or her theres always adoption abortion is not the right answer. when i first found out i was pregnant thought god was punishing me but now i belive that it was a true blessing my baby gave me a feeling of peace and happiness that i never felt before that his daddy could ever given me

Answer 6

Have the baby, if u don't mind me saying he sounds like a jerk 2 not want 2 u 2 have the baby, he wasn't complaining when he was help making it. If he doesn't help u can always raise the child alone I came from a single parent household and i'm just fine. I'm 20yrs old, a sophmore in college, in a very stable relationship, and working a job. so it can be done!

Answer 7

I think that it's your body and you shouldn't kill it if you don't want to. I did and i regretted it so badly. Im now 20 weeks pregnant and I cannot imagine not being pregnant and bringing my son into this world. do what is best for you , because in the end, you are the one who has to live with the child , not him :)

Answer 8

He was the one who got you pregnant, yet doesn't want to take responsibility once the fun is over...that's such a man. You need to decide what is best for you, regardless of what HE wants or feels. You can have this baby if you want, and in my opinion, everything happens for a reason and you wouldn't be pregnant if it wasn't meant to be. If you don't keep the baby, who knows if God will let you have another one -one day. That child deserves a good life, and if you want to keep him/her, I say go for it;)

Answer 9

well know there is a third party to think about now and is innocent in this whole event the little one's life depends on you two so i say take that into consideration and sit down and talk so many people take a little life so lightly just cause you cant see them yet but they are there and the would like to live just like anyone else GOOD LUCK and i hope u make the right choice

Answer 10

I think you've just made your decision. You said I want to have it. Plain and simple that is your decision. Do not let him decide the fate of your child just because he doesn't feel he could handle a child. It is your body, your mind. Do what YOU want! You could also speak with your parents, or a counsleor if you are afraid he'd do something to you if you go against his wishes. But DO NOT abort this child just because he wants you to, and you do not. You'll forever regret it!

Answer 11

do what YOU think is right! if you give the baby up and you don't really want to you will regret it for the rest of your life. and don't be afraid to do it on your own....it will be harder but it will be ok. my b/f left me when i was 4 months pregnant with our second child....he didn't want him. but i kept him anyway and even though it's been difficult i'm SOOO happy i have my son in my life. don't let him pressure you into doing something you don't want to do! good luck hun!