Now that you're older, looking back at your childhood, what advice do you wish someone had given your parents about parenting when they decided to get divorced?
2007-03-18 03:17:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would have liked to have had them been more open about the process. They didn't break the news until about a week before my father moved out. I would like to know why they divorced... there didn't seem to be any addictions, abuse, or adultery going on. 20 years later, I still don't know why other than "We don't love each other any more."
This is where I would have liked them to have gotten advice: who the hell told them that it was ok to tell your kids that love is finite?
I think the worst thing was feeling like I had to choose which parent I supported. It would have been nice to have been told that they were equally at fault for affecting the family and that it was ok to love them in different ways for different reasons; or opt to step back and withhold love for a little while.
2007-03-18 03:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by meanjanine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish they would have been able to get along, so that I could feel comfortable with both parents. I wish my dad had a room for me in his house~I never felt like his house was my house. They should have kept me out of their arguments and not tell me bad things about each other.
2007-03-18 03:25:00 · answer #2 · answered by ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish someone would have told my dad not to leave me because I will never accept him in my life again, or I would tell my mother to not have been so nice to him, or I would tell his whore that if she had just kept her mouth shut I wouldn't have tried to hurt her. Yea, long painful divorce of my folks. I don't really care now all these years looking back though.
2007-03-18 03:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by Chey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my mom not a thing, she did great! My dad on the other hand, decided that another woman's family took president over our family, and he should of thought of the consequences ahead of time. Moreless my sister and brother no longer have relationships with him, and I only do on occasion, which is fine if that's what he wanted, but to me personally I think that it wasn't a morally good decision. I think he should of put his kids first, not the other way around, but it's his life, and his choices.
2007-03-18 03:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I would hope that the decision they made to get the divorce in the first place was the best for me. Sometimes it's better that they do or your life could be miserable.
2007-03-18 03:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by luh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋