Why does my husband get mad when other ppl tell him that I got him wrapped around my finger?

Question

My husband has been distant from me lately. He hangs out with our neighbors all the time, which is fine with me, I like them also. But just yesterday he was giving me dirty looks while setting the table for dinner and he said he was mad because people he talks to says that I have him wrapped around my finger...But he is mad at me! I almost feel that he hates me. He never really kisses me in the morning or at night. He doesn't leave me comments on myspace, he doesn't really call me during the day...He is acting weird.......... , I just want to put an end to our marriage but we just signed another year lease at our apartment...Can anyone give me advice on this? Has this happened to anyone? I am all ears...I just need to be guided in the correct direction for my future destination...know what I mean? Thanks to all that reply.

Answer 1

Pride, sweetie. Some men have to be in control of everything to feel manly. Your friends are picking, but it does get to them every once in awhile. My son-in-law gets picked on all the time about my daughter's balls are bigger than his.

It gets annoying. And it can be hurtful, painful at times. He's taking his anger and annoyance out on you! Which isn't fair, but he can't say anything to the friends, because it will make it look truer. You understand what I am trying to say. Honey,
men don't express theirselves like women, we tell it like it is the biggest part of the time, and men beat around the bush, and we are suppose to read between the lines. Honey, please talk to him.

What else is going on? You can't be wanting a divorce just because he doesn't leave comments on your myspace. There's something bothering terriblely, and these little things are just stacking right on top of it. You need to think very carefully about things, and if you can't see yourself loving him for the rest of your life, please don't let the apartment lease stand in your way, you could always get a roommate or let him have it, and you find another one.

Please take a few minutes and think things over, talk to him. Ask him why doesn't he do these things that you want. See his reaction and hear his words, tell it bothers you and that you would like more than a quick peck for a kiss. Sounds like you are in a rut, and need to put a little spice back into the marriage. Honey, thinks getting boring in all marriages, and if you don't fix them one at a time, before it's crumbling.

Praying that you find the answers to your worries.

God bless us all...................

Answer 2

What a horrible thing to say. Taking advantage of his good nature is horrible - don't bully him. Having children and buying a house should be joint decisions or you will be building your relationship on nothing, it is unlikely to last if you are the one bossing him around all the time. As for jewells? Wait til your birthday, christmas or another gift giving season; don't 'wrap him round [your] little finger' in order to get what you want. You are very lucky to have found someone who dotes on you and want you to be happy yet you don't even seem to care. If you don't respect him, he'll begin to disrespect you. Respect is two way as is a relationship. Also, if you don't know him that well he won't know you that well. Don't jump in making big decisions here and there, because he won't like it. This could end it an argument or divorce. Your attitude towards a marriage is unhealthy and you need to reflect on this before further implications arise.

Answer 3

It seems you've got alot more going on than this, if you're ready to end the marriage. Relative to your question, perhaps he somehow feels less in control or less like a man when people say this, i.e. not 'macho'. Do others say the same thing to you, or make comments how you are so dedicated to your husband? If so, I'd relay to him such comments are out of admiration for your marriage and perhaps a bit of envy.

Answer 4

Its a figure of speech. Its a man thing. If a man does what is wife tells him to. He's considered, pussy whipped.
So therfor, you get that saying "wrapped around your finger. " Don't divorce him because of it.
Its called pride. Give him time, he will learn to accept it. And he will grow to learn, its called marriage. and it is up to both, of you.
Let him be his own man for a while. And let him have some slack.
If you don't push him, or tell him what to do. he will be fine. Ask him, to do things, not tell him.
You may also ask him why he gets so angry, about it. Let him know, hes an adult, and its called growing up.
All men feel like that at one point.
So don't feel bad about it. I was also called pussy whipped, ,and was told my wife, had me wrapped around her finger.
But its called adulthood. Men don't like to be controled. but give it time, it will work out for the best.
Don't let it destroy your marriage.

Answer 5

My hubby hates that too. It was all said in joking around to someone else. I said "Yeah I got him tied around my little finger" and he got pissed. Well, he never acted like your husband is. Talk to him and tell him that you are tired of the way he is treating you and this has got to stop.

Answer 6

your husband hates the thought that you wear the pants in the relationship... some men feel emasculated by the thought... makes him look pathetic and impotent... he is childish and a jerk...

Answer 7

i think he'll get over it try to work your marriage out but don't take his anger too long

Answer 8

PRIDE. They hate to hear that they are p*ssy whipped.

Answer 9

cause he knows its true. when people tell my hubby that he gladly agrees with them........then they don't have a good comeback..............