he is 24 and was driving drunk with a friend
he got a DUI and is going to be fined and have his license taken away for 6mo.
how should i react to this, should i be angry with him or should i seek him help?!
2007-03-18 02:19:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Don't worry the courts will take care of it. Now you have to decide if your going to be his Taxi for the next few months.
2007-03-18 02:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-06-12 01:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by Malik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on the situation. I am not saying that I support drinking and driving, but there is a difference between being completely wasted behind the wheel, and being right over the legal limit. You would be surprised, but 2 or 3 drinks can actually put you above the legal limit, which is a .08. After 2 or 3 drinks, someone might actaully be ok to drive, but if they get pulled over and you get breathalized, thats a DUI.
If you get a DUI it does NOT neccessarily mean you are an alcoholic or do this all the time. In fact, I have known people who have gotten them who hardly ever drink because they are usually the DD's!
He made a mistake. No one was hurt, and hopefully he will never drink and drive again. No one is perfect. How would you feel if you made the same mistake? Would you want the people closest to you just walking away from you? I don't think so.
In my opinion, make sure he knows you will not tolerate him driving after drinking anymore, and if he does that's the end. But for now, be there to help him through it and support him, and this will make him more responsible in the future.
2007-03-20 03:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by Firefly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting angry with him will not help the situation. Just make sure he's learned his lesson. Everyone makes mistakes.
I got a DUI in Arizona back in October of 2005. It costs me about $2000 in fines. I also had to spend a day in jail, take alcohol classes 2 hours a week for about 4 months, take a defensive driving class and had my license suspended for 30 days, then had to spend an additional 60 days on a restricted license (could only drive to and from work/school and alchohol classes) . I also had to go to a MADD class for a day. I know from personal experience I NEVER want to go through anything like that again!
The punishments for DUI can vary from state to state, but from what I have seen they are pretty similar much the same everywhere in the United States. My guess is your boyfriend will get punishments fairly similar to mine. If he chooses he can get an attorney to try to fight the charges against him. In my opinion, in most cases you are just throwing away additional money by doing that. After all, celebrities like Paris Hilton and Mel Gibson have millions of dollars and I'm sure they hired expensive attorneys. Both of them still got convicted of their DUIs. I'm not saying you can't win a DUI case, but your chances aren't very good.
If he chooses to continue to drink, make sure he NEVER gets behind the wheel, even if he's had only one beer. Getting one DUI is bad enough. If he gets a second DUI, the courts will nail him really bad. Especially if he's caught driving drunk on a suspended license, damages property or injures or kills someone.
This is going to cost him some money and time, but if he's learns from this experience, he'll be a better person for it.
2007-03-18 19:27:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should help him in his time of need. This is going to be a major impact on his life and career. Check out the sites below for research on this topic. I wish him the very best.
2007-03-18 04:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by citronge69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was stupid for driving drunk at all. But think yourself lucky he got pulled over and didn't have an accident. a friend of mine got knocked off his bike (not his fault, but he was over the limit) and couldn't get any money back for his foot being completely trashed, it's been over two years now and it still hurts him to walk. But people make mistakes so just support him and wait for it all to blow over. if he does it again, run!
2007-03-18 02:31:55 · answer #6 · answered by david e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you are asking US if you should be angry with your boyfriend or not? Either you are angry or not. Hopefully your boyfriend will make better decisions from now on, but it's definitely not the end of the world.
2007-03-18 02:31:38 · answer #7 · answered by lyquidskye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks such as you're egocentric and not a sturdy lady buddy. What could it harm you topersistent him? You under no circumstances mentioned you're lacking artwork or training or something for it. with a bit of luck he sees this and strikes on and to somebody who would be there for him while he desires them.
2016-12-19 08:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. He clearly has an alcohol problem. How will you feel in a few years when he is the father of your child and in a drunken state he slams the family car into another family, killing your child and other children?
Denying that this won't happen is enabling him.
If he lies to you and says that he won't drink again, tell him to come see you when he has been sober for one year.
2007-03-18 02:28:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
dump him if hes that irresponsible hes not worth having around. Is that the kind of person you may spend the rest of your life with? What if you had children with him how would you feel then?
2007-03-18 02:29:15 · answer #10 · answered by a person of interest 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋