This is v weird I hv a frnd who used to b very busy and used to find hard even to spend talking 5mins to me and she used to show that she is v busy. I was hurt by her attitude bcoz mostly she used to talk to me only abt her problems.. she just wanted my shoulder n ear.. she used to talk to me when she had nothing to do.
I was hurt by this so started avoiding her thinking that she would change but nothing changed. i used to care alot for her and all of a sudden i stopped caring, she noticed that but it seems to hv no affect on her.
We both know that things r not good b/w us but none of us r talking, i want her to come up with a question and clear out things.
bcoz i cant do that. Today we talked abt 2 weeks and i was hurt again bcoz she talked me bcoz she was irritated by others. It really hurts to feel like a time pass.
What should I do? She shows like she wants to b my friend but she doesnt care for me.
please help. Shall i keep avoiding her like again. i feel bad doing that.
2007-03-18 02:11:00 · 18 answers · asked by lets_smile07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes,avoid her,she is only trying to bring you down babe.She is a source of negativity in your life.She must also be a total drama queen,whereas you seem a bit more able to conduct yourself with dignity and class.I should stick to your guns,be polite to her,but if she starts bending your ear or unloading on you,simply grab your cell phone,and tell her its vibrating! Speak an imaginary conversation,a good one! She will then think you are hip,and have other friends.I bet she will get the message and be a bit happier around you.I cna understand people having problems,but when they only talk to you for a few minutes and its all problems every time,then thats Just wrong and shows not only zero class but also a disrespecting.I hope this helps your mind.You have done nothing wrong.
2007-03-18 06:39:34 · answer #1 · answered by BAKKUS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA!!, don't even go there. no woman in the world is worth killing yourself over, no matter how much u feel for her. it sounds like you want more from this relationship than she does, & its hard to give precise advice as u didnt give your age. if she only talks tou when it suits her, then she see's u as a should to cry on, if she tells u she's always busy or making excuses, then you would be as well cutting out now or you will just end up hurt more than u already are. be a friend if she needs to talk, but shes already got you wrapped round her finger by the sound of things. move on mate just dont bother contacting her, she will make the move when she wants to, you already know that. try a bit of reverse psychology. but a relationship wouldnt or shouldnt be advised. she'll strip you clean mate. walk away now, while you still have your dignity. good luck.
from big soapy
2007-03-18 03:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by robertsutherland1@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont avoid her. Simply speak to her when she contacts you & you should contact her now & again. Just act like you dont care, be nice to her. She will wonder why you dont seem bothered. This is the best way to not get hurt. If you TELL yourself you dont care, you WONT care. It's all in the mind. Trust me. The more you dont act bothered, the more people want to be around u. I hope this helps. Dont worry, everyone goes through this with friends at some point in their lives. But you get over it. It's part of growing up & makes you a stronger person. Things happen for a reason & you will realise this in the future when you look back on this situation.
2007-03-18 02:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by Indian Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god...don't go killing yourself!!!!!
Your not worthless! You don't need a friend like her(and i use the word friend very loosely!) Friends are suppose to make each other feel good...be there for each other! not just one way! I have stopped seeing an old friend for the same reasons, i sorted all her problems out, gave her money constantly, got her out of trouble a number of times and the one time i needed her she f***d off!
Tell her how you feel and that you don't want to see her any more and move on with your life!
Good Luck x
2007-03-18 05:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by Danni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, killing your self isn't the respond. EVER. And 2d of all, it does sound such as you have a concern. Is it only the exhilaration element you prefer from intercourse, because of the fact there is a lot greater to it than that. additionally, no guy will comprehend you're a **** except you tell him! men do no longer all prefer intercourse, i comprehend it could look like it, yet they do no longer. i don't comprehend why you supply those men the satisfaction, after all you're no longer feeling chuffed interior the top. i think of what you prefer is a boyfriend, one which you may have for a protracted time. somebody which will cope with you correct. i think of determine you end attempting to have intercourse, because of the fact it makes you experience worse approximately your self, and attempt to look for some help. there are extremely some women people who experience a similar way you do. certainly, it form of seems such as you're no longer getting any emotion out of intercourse which isn't good in any respect. the place's the affection? it incredibly is precisely why you prefer a boyfriend, and then possibly you will experience greater advantageous with him.
2016-10-01 02:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by fogleman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
got to be cruel to be kind im afraid. stop wasting your time with this selfish waster.start building up your own confidence again with real friends. she's not worth losing any more sleep over ask yourself when was the last time she asked how you felt or what you where doing?you say you've stopped caring... i dont believe that.she's hurt you too many times but you obviously think she has some concern for you.don't avoid her or make excuses for not seeing her, tell her the truth... you are not going to used by her any longer. good luck and look after yourself for a change.
2007-03-18 11:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by kazzy3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen honey after all the questions you have posted about this friend - I think the reason she is very busy is because you are obsessed with her - I really feel you need to get professional help and get yourself sorted. When you have had counselling then maybe your friend will start calling again
2007-03-18 02:16:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why such extreme suggestions over such a petty matter. If you don't get on then simply Bless & Release each other. Stop seeing her and concentrate and finding others who will take an interest in you as well as themselves.
2007-03-18 02:20:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need people like this in you life. Get out more and interact with your other friends. She is the one missing out. And you certainly shouldn't kill yourself over this kind of problem. Think of those poor African babies and people who are a lot worse of than you!!
2007-03-18 03:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by Janie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on,she isn't everything in your life.she sounds selfish.in this world its not hard to find a new friend.in a nother couple of years even if you where true friends you'll have to part,so think its happened now and get on with your studies.gud luck
2007-03-18 16:41:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋