this is v weired please help me to solve it. I feel bad keep doing that. It hurts alot.?

Question

This is v weird I hv a frnd who used to b very busy and used to find hard even to spend talking 5mins to me and she used to show that she is v busy. I was hurt by her attitude bcoz mostly she used to talk to me only abt her problems.. she just wanted my shoulder n ear.. she used to talk to me when she had nothing to do.
I was hurt by this so started avoiding her thinking that she would change but nothing changed. i used to care alot for her and all of a sudden i stopped caring, she noticed that but it seems to hv no affect on her.
We both know that things r not good b/w us but none of us r talking, i want her to come up with a question and clear out things.
bcoz i cant do that. Today we talked abt 2 weeks and i was hurt again bcoz she talked me bcoz she was irritated by others. It really hurts to feel like a time pass.
What should I do? She shows like she wants to b my friend but she doesnt care for me.
please help. Shall i keep avoiding her like again. i feel bad doing that.

Answer 1

Obviously you are much more concerned about your friendship than she is. Ask her if she wants to go shopping or something. Try it twice. If she is too busy for you, you know that you are just her friend of convenience and when she tries to talk to you, you need to be too busy to give her the time of day. If she actually cares enough about you to ask what's going on, tell her how hurt you are. But I don't think she will. Your friendship means far more to you than her. Good luck.

Answer 2

what makes her your friend? the fact that she calls you to talk? or trusts you with her feelings? what brought you both together? I believe it is hard to always be on the receiving end of a conversation, but perhaps you are in her life for just that reason. God may be letting you help her in ways you don't understand. do you want to be her friend? friends take the good with the bad, and if she is willing to talk, perhaps she will listen, but maybe not right away, pray about it and just be there for her when you can...do you help her solve the problems? ask he if she is just venting or if she wants your advice.

Answer 3

It's sad but your friend is very very selfish and only can be bothered speaking to you ans being friendly when she has no one else to turn to, she knows your always there for her, but unfortunatly she has no time for you or your problems, you need to tell her this and tell her you are sick of being treated this way, she will either change her ways and be more friendly or (this is the most likely outcome) she will stop talking to you all together, either way you win in the end cos you will either gain her true friendship or loose her falsh friendship, be firm be polite but make sure you tell her exactly how you feel
goodluck

Paul

Answer 4

firstly im really sorry to tell you but by the sounds of it , she is just using you for your advice,she just needed a shoulder to cry on and nothing else, you should avoid her all the way out of your life. she only talks to you when it suits her and when shes upset .The next time she talks to you or needs you ,ignore her.she not worth your friendship.

Answer 5

Dear,You should treat her like what she treat you.She is rather busy with your prob, and you do so pls.That's the only way you could do now. and pls considered ,why you teat her as a pa?just iet her goes.she call you and you just pick up the phone say hello,if she wanna to pear on you, just say you r busy right now.serveral times , I guess it would be goes on well better

Answer 6

If you both know there is problem but neither of you can be bothered to deal with it then your frindship is no longer alive. It doesn't like you missing out - go find some new pals!

Answer 7

tell her you want to be her friend not her agony aunt, if i were you i would find myself another friend and get rid of her

Answer 8

you can avoid her, but she needs a friend too.