I'm responsible for their educaton. My wife recently made arrangements to move our first daughter aged 10 to a very expensive school that i can hardly afford(that is not necessarily better than where i have arranged for her). I have resisted. Now my daughter is unhappy that "daddy refused" to allow her go to this expensive school. My wife has offered to assume responsibility for part of the fees, but i know it is merely for my daughter to first get in there. How can i get myself out of this situation that can pitch my children against me. I am planning to have her return the children to me.
2007-03-18 01:25:49 · 8 answers · asked by Blake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let me tell you, put your foot down with her now. Soon to be ex's and ex's that pull this kind of stuff will always do it for as long as you let them get away with it. If you agreed to be responsible for their education, then you get the final say in where they go, afterall you are paying the expenses. You shouldn't have to have a financial hardship that is unnecessary. If the ex doesn't like it, then she can pay for it out of her income. That's just wrong of her to try to suck you dry like that. As far as your daughter goes, you are the parent, you do not have to explain yourself to her or justify it to her, she's a child and has no business telling you what to do or how to manage your finances. So she's upset, too bad for her. Just let her know that you love her as much as you have always loved her, but that she's not going to get everything she wants. Kids need limits, especially when finances are involved. Stick to it and don't give in, eventually she will get over it, afterall she's 10. Best of Luck to you, we have a pyscho ex to deal with all the time too!
2007-03-18 01:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by Tell me something useful 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it is time to vanish like the for on a sunny day.
I mean just that. dissapear and do not show your face around there again.
There are many nations you can go to and work without anyone having any idea where you are and how to find you.
Yes I know it is the children and you just have to be there. All I can say is bend over and kiss. You will not win this one.
2007-03-18 01:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are in the US, I can almost guarantee you that if teh children are with her now, that is where the courts will decide that they STAY. As for the education, have her put it in writing, if there is a court document saying you are responsible for education that can easily be modified. As fro your daughter, all you can do is explain it to her, at 10 years old if you write out a budget she is likely to understand it well.
2007-03-18 01:30:07 · answer #3 · answered by Betsy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to a lawyer then the courts...you shouldn't have to pay for what is considered a non necessity education...nothing wrong with free public schools!
2007-03-18 01:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u can afford raising them & handle the whole responsibility abt it then do it,but believe me its a hard job!!
2007-03-18 01:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
y dont u try to get back with ur wife
2007-03-18 01:32:35 · answer #6 · answered by james d 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need a court order, not Y!A.
2007-03-18 01:28:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
she was wait for it.
she dose not deserve you
2007-03-18 01:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by Shahd 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋